I've met someone and I don't know how to finish this title.

[ProfessorPickles]

I apologise for the terrible thread title, but I didn't have a clue what to go with and could no longer ask your advice
I still like train edition but didn't want to use it incase it's terrible, which it probably is.

So here we are, part three of the 'I've met someone' saga.
The first thread was very positive and exciting, the second was mostly negative for all of us and here we are starting the third!

Let's make it a good one!

*male environment, obv!
Also the one I dated briefly last summer I did actually fancy physically but it stopped at that - not enough in common mentally, different tastes etc. Those few I know who I also my type potentially, are married.

I probably to start online dating more seriously

Not strange at all, PGtips! If it was him (there were only two people working today) he's just as bad as I am. We both have the same energy and, conversely, fear of opening up. It's quite amazing how similar we are in some ways although, obviously, I like to see similarities because of my feelings for him. The good thing is that, if he it was him at least he saw me, ha!

I'm not in the slightest bit surprised that, if it were him, he wouldn't say hello or ask about the Jag. Thursday, I'll put him right! Don't you worry, PGtips!

PGtips, there have been many, many times when Benoit has acted as if hadn't seen him. I'm EXACTLY the same. It doesn't deter from his attraction which he conceals as much as he reveals it.

I spy with my little eye a Prof who is out and about with her new Graphics Man!

That made me laugh This, I was JUST about to check in and catch up and saw that I wish!!
Still nothing to report I'm afraid, I'm waiting to see if DS will be seeing his dad next Saturday then if so I'm going to suggest going out then

I absolutely loved your update, how lovely that such a quick glimpse of him made you feel so wonderful
Very interesting to see his body language was entirely different, I'm sure I told you this last thread but I think that if he wasn't interested he'd have no reason to be shy what so ever!! Wahoo!!
What're you planning to say on Thursday, do you mean just about that you won't be leaving forever?
You'll be strutting in with your fabulous hair and dazzling him haha!

I have a good feeling about this thread too Muddle

I've heard that many times on MN, PG, about it being slim pickings when dating in your 40s and 50s. It sounds like an absolute nightmare!

add to that also that I'm a youthful 40s and am attracted to younger men (well not hugely younger but in their 30s) who may still want children - I feel that I can't be really bullish with this guy because it's quite likely he still wabnts a family even though he's starting late! I think this is probably the main reason for the marriage - he wasn't married so far as far as I know, and it's quite late for the first time. So I sort of feel I have no rightto distract him from that even if he sense the vibes.
We all know that B is attracted to This. He os not acting because he thinks she is movng away, on top if the fact that he's not feeling confident her being older with higher social status etc. That's why she needs to lead the way. Already said this but repeating for the benefit of the new thread!
I didn't say he needed to ask you about the Jag, but he should haev talked to you to apologise that Jag isn't ready. I think before he did always talk to you even if he was grumpy or not flirting - you can hide feelings but you'd still want the opportunity to look/speak at the person. At least you see him when driving past - I'm sure he'd want to see you too. I think it may not have been him -or he was only shy from the point of view that you were talking to the wife and then quickly left. If you stood around he would haev talked. I don't believe men are as complex as women - they just would not miss the opportunity to look at you and talk to you if they like you - unless he is so upset that you aer leaving that he's resolved to move on. But ok, give it your best on Thurs!
I wouldn't have wasted so much time if I were you - i'd definitely gone in and talked about the Merc issues, you aer giving him time to meet someone else! But yes if we are philosophical, then if it's meant to be it will be - let's hope for that!

PGtips, if it was him then he did get a chance to see me... from the back! And, the boss's wife took full responsibility for the Jag not been taken care of. I know that the boss and his wife are the ones who decide which car gets taken care of and when. He just executes orders so he has no apologies to make. Plus, I know men who have kept completely quiet about their feelings for a very long time. It always baffles me how they manage to do that.

Again, there have been times when he has completely ignored me and not even looked at me. So yes, it has happened in the past... and I am completely guilty of the same thing.

If he has met somebody else then, as you have written, then so be it. I have been through a very traumatic year and clearly I am hugely afraid of rejection so I am treading softly. This is all about the healing process too.

I think when the jag is fixed you need to offer to take him for a drive out to a country pub to celebrate.

On Thursday Muddle and PGtips I'll be asking him out for a drink!

This has been going on for three months and I need to know one way or the other. I also needs to be brave which is very hard!

Wahooooo! Make the drink for Saturday we will go out at the same time and I'll message you in the toilets.

I'm so excited that you're going to ask him This, was it seeing him without him knowing that did it? I know it sounds creepy, but I love watching people when they don't know you can see, like seeing the 'natural' them

Eeek that is very exciting This!

I don't think I can wait 6 days

Haha prof.... you made us wait weeks!!!

Oh yes, that's true how hypocritical of me!!

Weeks of waiting for nothing
Until graphics man saved the day of course, I still can't believe that happened. It was so lovely when I found out, especially with the two years of mutually admiring from afar.

day dreams about that wonderful evening

Hello you lovely lot - it seems rude not to delurk, since you are bringing back (retrospective) happy (tho painful at the time!) memories of my younger days [old gimmer]. Thanks for the catch-up - I too didn't catch the end of the last thread.

Hello PussyCat
I hope the catch up was of use!
Feel free to share the tales of your younger days if you'd like to, who doesn't love a good love story?

I wonder if there are many other lurkers out there, say hi if so it always amazes me that anyone follows our threads of babble

I'm still lurking with my pom-poms!

Brilliant This, hurry up Thursday!

You sound so happy Prof it makes me smile every time I read our posts, I am so pleased for you. Have you got firm plans for your date now?

I hear you PG about not being attracted to many people and the 'good ones' being taken. I take it as a good thing in part though, my younger self was so desperate to be loved and wanted I ended up in some horrible relationships, I am glad to have more respect for myself now. I meet lots of players and men who just think it's a bit of a challenge they would like to try as I'm quite resolutely single, I fall for no bullshit these days and I'm glad that age has given me that healthier view.

Can I just check I've got my facts straight you and the guy swapped numbers and have been texting after declaring you like each other but nothing else has happened?

Muddle yes, but where do you even meet all these 'players'? I don't meet new men much at all, and those I do tend to be married. Both who are seriously interested in me are 1) separated but not divorced, 2)married but bored after decades of it - I don't care as I don't fancy them. It's the case though that available men who aer not just after a shag, are either coming out of bad marriage, or still married and unhappy, and yes some are divorced but to actually meet one of those where there is also mutual attarction, is a needle in haystack. Online dating works for some, as at least you do get divorced people there, but it's a hard slog meeting up as most people you wouldn't be attracted to. But I think I need to give it a go just to distract in some way, and then maybe hope I do bump into someone who's good for me in RL somehow. I didn't fall for bullshit much even when younger but my problem was, I didn't pick very well - it was often based on passionate attraction but totally unsuitable whereas this guy I could actually enjoy talking to and respect, and there is this mysterious extra something (I call it soul connection even though cheesy) that is magnetic. But - oh well!

yes, Prof - I hope you in contact before your delayed date, is he being nice in texts? I think he'll need to speed up a bit after your proper date!

p.s. I was SO hoping this guy was single as he there as no clear evidence of a GF.

ToDuk - exactly that!! I didn't know if I was being impatient as it was only Tuesday evening that he admitted to liking me, but we still haven't arranged a date.

I suggested a day and he said he is away for the week but then never suggested any other time. But he is still being nice etc, I'm confused!

I keep thinking of how excited and shy he was when he told me he'd liked me all that time, but I feel like when you both know you like eachother it should be easy, just arrange a day and go. I keep wondering if he's not interested now he's 'got' me, but then he was SO sweet and genuine etc.

Based on how he acted around me I'd say I have no doubts, but based on afterwards I'm confused!