I've met someone and I don't know how to finish this title.

[ProfessorPickles]

I apologise for the terrible thread title, but I didn't have a clue what to go with and could no longer ask your advice
I still like train edition but didn't want to use it incase it's terrible, which it probably is.

So here we are, part three of the 'I've met someone' saga.
The first thread was very positive and exciting, the second was mostly negative for all of us and here we are starting the third!

Let's make it a good one!

I'm laughing at the hard-to-ignore coincidence of B raising his T-shirt and revealing part of his body as he doggedly repeats 'it's as you wish'.

Come on, you've got to laugh!

Lol - I am so glad you are seeing the funny side... trying to thinkeep of a witty comeback to that but I am spent and caffeine free

I know what you mean Crazy. Swimming's taken it out of me too and I'm awaiting the return of my children in an hour. The next few days are going to be crazy busy as we leave on Tuesday for England.

They say that body language reveals our inner feelings. Hmm, interesting.

My car's doing weird things again. At least temporarily, the irritating light and noise have stopped since he replaced the indicator. What do I do, still go to the garage? 'Hi B. Are you still on to come round to my place after work?'

Yup - absolutely no mention of Friday at all - on our minds that didn't happen.

Just cool and breezy - "hey are you still free for a chat later? Here's my number, give me a shout if there are any issues"

No phone number Crazy as that would give him a get out clause and I'm ALWAYS giving people a get out clause as I hate to impose on their free will.

No no no I disagree! Yup are setting him up to fail by placing this little.... I don't know?? Stumble?? You think it's up to imhik to ask for your number.... we established that you need to take control of this situation and steer this correctly!

Sorry fueled on by prosecco

Free will is exactly that.... free! It's his choice as to whether he uses your number all you are doing is offering him the opportunity!

Just catching up...I agree with Crazy you are over thinking it, just give him your number so there is no stumbling block. If he uses it as a 'get out clause' then you will have your answer anyway won't you. Where as if he doesn't have it and runs late or something happens to stop him coming then you will be wondering whether his excuse is valid or not - if he has your number to let you know if there is a problem then that takes that out of the equation.

OK Prosecco Lady (aka doubly Crazy), I'm not even going to pretend I've understood your reasoning here but that's fair enough because I guess that's a little how B felt the other evening when faced with Sabotage Lady.

I think I go in, or call, (which ever is the least stressful) and say are you still up for coming round at 7pm? To which he has the choice of 'yes' or 'no'.

What's your suggestion? And why should I give him my phone number?

Maybe I need a crash course in clarification techniques in communication.

Ah, Muddle, that's crystal clear, thank you for translating. I take it you haven't been on the prosecco too, then?

Hahaha thank goodness for Muddle!

BTW, Muddle have you seen my eldest daughter's logical input re: my ridiculous convo with B on Friday? If not, it's on page 25.

Yes, it's very important as it shows to what extent my daughter is brighter than I am.

I'm reaching out for the local red wine. A glass might help me decode Crazy!

I am not promising anything with the red wine but as long as Muddle is here we will be fine!

The point Crazy is that there will be less pressure on Muddle to intervene as translator as we will both understand each other very well.

Haha that is true as well!

What muddle said earlier much more concisely is that if you off your number you can walk away as said you have done everything possible to get his attention.... if he chooses not to use your number that's on him not a reflection of you!

I still think I should give him a time and place...and the phone number crazy. I think you are hoping he will take the lead here? Forgive me for being sceptical about that! There's some kind of reverse respect here by him being happy to follow my lead.

I spoke to a male friend of mine (very adept at bedding lots of women...except me ) and he said that B's 'it's as you wish' was unambiguously meaning 'you take the lead'. And he told me that it did NOT betray a lack of interest; quite the opposite.

Exactly what we have been saying - he wasn't closing the doors on you!

No, not hoping he should take the lead, but to diffuse your expectations that he should ask for your number.

Oh, very wise and perceptive Crazy. It's kind of you to want to take care of me.

Give him the time and place very clearly and then give him your number just before you leave in case he gets lost/held up.

Have just caught up on what your daughter said and I agree with her completely, you've done a good job there This, now channel some of that and be very clear and to the point tomorrow

Prosecco clears the mind

Again - what Muddle said!

Evening ladies...this...duchess is just after your male friend...she doesn't want to really take care of you lol...we all know what she's like lol ...tell him to stay away from parks wearing tee shirts as she will be ready to pounce

We are a very weird and dysfunctional but loving family on this thread

See what I mean..... thanks Sweeney!

And I must point out... I have some standards.... not many... but some