I've met someone and I don't know how to finish this title.

[ProfessorPickles]

I apologise for the terrible thread title, but I didn't have a clue what to go with and could no longer ask your advice
I still like train edition but didn't want to use it incase it's terrible, which it probably is.

So here we are, part three of the 'I've met someone' saga.
The first thread was very positive and exciting, the second was mostly negative for all of us and here we are starting the third!

Let's make it a good one!

I thought he was in a relationship.

Thank you This that is very sweet I really hope things work out for you.

Yes PG, he's not ages away but not close by either unfortunately.

He asked me what I'm looking for as in something casual, or a relationship and he hinted that if he met the right person he'd like a relationship and was blatantly suggesting me which is great

Thank you This that is very sweet I really hope things work out for you.

Yes PG, he's not ages away but not close by either unfortunately.

He asked me what I'm looking for as in something casual, or a relationship and he hinted that if he met the right person he'd like a relationship and was blatantly suggesting me which is great

That sounds good about the messaging, Prof. Lovely Man arrived OK and even had a signal at his place when he rang, but nothing since then. I have texted, but he's not a great texter at the best of time. And it's quite possible he's accidentally dropped the phone down the loo.

When will he be back? I still love the name Lovely man. So sweet.

Prof that's great! I think this is a big plus for the shy men that they are not players, and many of them aere looking for something genuine rather than to score with women - and he's being direct and not playing games about his wish for a relationship - all makes him sound sweet and a good guy! You now just need him to start being a bit less nervous as you know, he will have to get close to you at SOME point ha!

I meant physically close - but it's still great that he's opening up about liking you so much, for now!

Thanks PG, I'm feeling very happy. He is very straight forward and sweet, he's honest which is important for me. I need someone to tell me when I'm being an idiot and someone to laugh with
He's quite the opposite to my last boyfriend. He was kind, but very uptight and insecure. He made me feel boring and I couldn't be myself. I feel like graphics man could turn out to be just the opposite!

I won't mind if he's nervous about getting physical to be honest I'm terrified, it's been a while...

yes, if last bf didn't make you laugh - it was doomed! I think it's so healthy that you aer choosing what's good for you rather than being led by passion like This and I recently - I'm not saying passion first is always bad but it's much riskier than actually liking someone/getting on as close friends and then more developing. So your guy is unusual (traditional even!) but I think the slow approach is what you actually prefer deep down!.

and yes - you just confirmed that you ar in no rush yourself! all good then - but can't wait for you going on a date after he's back!

He's back next week. YY to them making you laugh, and feeling you can be yourself with them. As to passion, I've often found a meeting of minds comes first, and then almost before my very eyes my perception of them changes and they become physically desirable

He's quite different to my usual type both in how he looks and his personality and I think that will do me good too.
I also think it's good that I've known him for quite a while before finding out we both like eachother. I feel like I've seen what he's actually like, where when you get together fairly quickly you don't get to see them in their natural environment if you get me?

I definitely get what you mean PussyCat, I really can't have any reasonable amount of attraction, however good looking they are, if their personality isn't a good fit for mine. They could be a model and I'd feel nothing. Where I've found men attractive who really aren't physically attractive at all, purely because they're kind and give out good vibes. But because they were such a good match in terms of personality then I found them drop dead gorgeous!

Prof and Silvery, I'm not really talking about passion just based on looks - it's not the case for This and me with my unavailable guy - ok, B does sound gorgeous in conventional sense but it's his personality that really attarcted This, and in my case my guy isn't some hunk at all but fell for his mind and talent and I loved his eyes - BUT in both outr cases it was so strongly based on vibes and chemistry that we fell very fast without considering whether they reciprocate or whether they are up to something more long term (in B's case) - it sort of just happened and is too strong to step back so went though all the ups and downs emotionally.
Whereas with your guy, you aer not head over heels quickly and it's quiet and slow but because of this you aer able to really see him for what he is and also his attitude to you, and hte fact he started the whole thing so openly is just very healthy - me and This were in there well before any dates or cosy chats!
I definitely am not interested in someone who is just good looking - I like quirky men. Ihave a very good looking somewhat older guy after me but he is vey dull and although nice, just doesn't engagee my mind or sense of humour - we just get on on friendly basis despite his 'hints'.

Well yes - I think we may be talking about the same thing in a way, though.

What I didn't say is that after my perception has changed and I find them desirable, my mind then dwells on them constantly and all sorts of fantasies pass through my head until I have inflated my feelings for them, based not on my knowledge of them, but on what I hope they will be.

(I found I had to describe this in the present tense. Though obviously it's based on past experience.)

yes, Silvery, it's very similar with me.
I was just mainly commenting on Prof saying that just good looks don't do it for her - nor do they for me (at least not now, they did sometimes when in my 20s) but passion is not just based on looks, it's of course alway that physical chemistry as well as being drawn to their mind but even physical magnetism is never just to do with looks, it's a mystery formula ha, and that's what makes it heady!

Three cheers for heady! My initial attraction for B was based on the simple fact he is virile and then I reacted to his interest in me. BUT his behaviour and his words since then have revealed a sensitivity which appeals to my sensitivity.

Bon jour all! I am currently sat in a car park waiting for children to return after a long morning uniform shopping! I am all hot and bothered!

Cinema was sadly disappointing yesterday - the movie itself was pretty rubbish - but I did have a lovely hot chocolate on the way home

How is everyone??

Which film did you see CrazyDuchess?

I've just left the swimming pool. It's hard to imagine the shops being open on Sunday and that uniforms need to be bought as neither apply in France.

I'm feeling a bit more myself especially after my eldest daughter cut through the complex crap in my head after my rubbishy conversation with B on Friday. Apparently I see rejection everywhere and I need to stop. She helped me see what he was saying much more clearly.

I hope I have the courage to return tomorrow for my grande finale and I need to be clear enough which might involve keeping my mouth tightly shut!

Ahhh that is good - you have a sensible daughter on your hands!

Are the shops not open on Sundays?? Do children not wear uniforms to school?? I feel very confused! Uniform shopping on a Sunday is not for the faint of heart lol small bonus is the car got washed so I am happy about that!

Err film, independence day resurgence.... I love love love the cinema bit this film was a huge disappointment :( I should have trusted the reviews! Next week will be watching Now you see me 2... the first film was just brilliant!

No to uniforms and a big no to shops being open on Sunday Crazy! I think the Church plays a big role in that decision and that Sunday is a day for the family.

Yeah our Sunday trading laws are slowly going out the window! But more and more work is over 7 days now... sad time

In what world is that possibly logical Crazy?

Consumerism! Lol more and more things are moving to 24/7 365 day type models.... it's more likely to affect my great grand babies but this is the legacy we are leaving behind now with the demand for everything yesterday!

I an through worst kind, I am all about immediate gratification!

I'm guilty of internet shopping (not dating ) Crazy. I do think the Brits are infinitely better at consumerism than the French. We're more slow and steady (and boring) over here.