Partner is always horrible to me when I'm ill

[CopperPot]

Awful cold, cough, banging headache and fevdr for 3 days now. Plus my period just started and toddler and 6 month old to watch.

He says it's because of the way I talk to him- i got annoyed at him slamming stuff yesterday when I asked him to hold baby while I made breakfast for toddler and made bottles up. And that he's not a mind reader- how would he know to make me a tea/snack/bring Meds?

I'm just tired of it and feel even worse now. Anyone else have a partner who hates it when you're ill?

I kicked him Baboon

Thank you for advice.

Yes I do have it very much protected and wouldn't hand it over until it was all drawn up.

My friends are being really great. My dad was aghast and didn't know what to say but said we can go and stay there if we wanted to.
Flowers and gifts are arriving at the door he must've ordered a couple of days ago.
He's sent me messages saying he doesn't want to fight but I need to take responsibility for why this all happened because I was snippy apparently. I admitted I was, I'm human and was pushed to the limit and needed help while ill. That's all he wants to dicuss.

I called his father too and he is shocked and is calling him tonight.

he doesn't want to fight but I need to take responsibility for why this all happened because I was snippy apparently.

What a bastard. What an utter, utter cunt. He wants you to take responsibility for winding him up to where he punched a toddler?

Yes and that was the night before. I was practically hallucinating with fever and no sleep I was entitled to be snippy.

He's also completely denying it was wrong. 'It wasn't hard' 'how is a smack different from a soft jab' 'if you call police I'll tell then you've hit ds' I have hit him on his bottom before for biting his sister and other really bad things when I've been pushed to the limit. But that is wrong but I've never punched him. He's blackmailing me basically. I sent him this screen shot

So you're engaging in arguments with him?

Is that the best use of your energy?

Oh and the best gem today he's come out with was 'ds wasn't crying because I punched him it was because you kicked me and scared him' rewriting what happened. Ds didn't even see me kck him

He said he wanted to talk earlier, ds was out and baby sleeping said he wanted to not argue anymore so I agreed. Then he starts saying I need to take responsibility for what happened and it escalated. No shouting.

I just wantEd to hear him say it was wrong what he did but he wouldn't. He just kept saying it wasn't hard and he reacted because he was hit hard (!)

He doesn't believe it's wrong to punch a child.

There's your problem.

Sorry i mistyped about the kick, not your finest moment but understandable.

So he's saying you need to take responsibility and ds was to blame? what happens when your son is 13 and can hit harder? How does it teach your ds its not the way to resolve?

I think after reading about smacking I will call 101 on Monday when I'm better. I'm so sick right now I've had to hand hI'm the baby. I wish I felt better so I could sort this now. I've not slept more thand 3 hours a night for over a week on top of being ill. I just need to get better so I can sort this out. I know that sounds pathetic.

Lonny yes because it wasn't hard so it's no different from a slap.

baboon I'm annoyed athat myself because now he's using that. But I felt such rage at seeing him hurt ds. I'm glad ds didn't see anyway, still wrong though. I've never felt the need to hit anyone before but if you hurt my child I guess something kicks in.

Copper, please ask for this to be moved to Relationships X

So he's going to remain living in the house with your DS for the near future?

Op this is shocking.

Please please don't leave him or hand him your children. Muster up some strength and go somewhere where you and both children are safe. Then you can rest and decide on your next move.
You need put!

Please don't stay there!!

I really cannot even get up to drive it would be dangerous. I'm feverish and dizzy and nauseous.

I'm hoping tomorrow I'll feel better. Baby is back with me. Ds home from nursery and will be in bed soon. I know I'm awful but I haven't felt this I'll before.

We need to dicuss how we move on now as this isn't a healthy environment for the kids.

I can't wait for it to happen again.

Are you feeling any better today CopperPot?