DH has gone missing

[HeadWrecked26]

Name changed for this as I don't want this attached to my usual name.

Long story short DH (and his friend) has gone missing and I have no idea what to do!

He went out to friends on Sunday evening around 6. He called at 9ish said he was staying out but would be home approx 10am Monday morning.
All fine as he didn't have work etc etc.
I had a message from his friend st around 2pm Monday saying that DHs phone has died and that DH is really sorry he is late but he'll be home by tea time.
Since then no one has seen or heard from DH or his friend.
I've checked the police custody suite, hospitals, as many friends that I can think of and been round to friends house but obviously no one was there.
I'm worried sick, I can't sleep, can't eat and my anxiety is only letting me think the worst has happened.

I know this is about ranty, sorry for that! I just needed to talk about how scared I am. Can anyone think of a logical explanation to where they could have got to? I need abit of hope that he's okay!

Why the very specific co speculation?

OP, is he a boozer?

You said you wondered if this was an immature way for dh to leave you ............ is this likely OP?

If things have been strained then I'd think it's a real possibility that he's buggered off with friend on holiday abroad or something.

Definitely ring his work this morning.

OP, you poor thing. How awful.

It's natural to be suspicious but it's just a matter of alerting MNHQ which I'm sure has already been done. Otherwise be supportive or keep schtum.

Is the reason you have name changed because of relationship stuff on your usual username which might shed some light on all of this?

If he has form for staying out all night without contact, if you thought the message from the friend was his immature way of leaving you then that implies that there is a lot more going on which you haven't written here which doesn't all point to a happy and loving relationship in the first place.

Apart from serious illness or death, nothing else would be able to bring the relationship back for me if this was my DP.

Is there some black hole in Manchester we should be aware of?
Only the canals.

Why the very specific co speculation? confused

It happens a lot more than most people think. Around 200 people a year are hospitalised in the UK with poisoning each year, around 50 die from it. During tough economic times, people put off what they consider to be non-essentials like boiler maintenance, so it becomes a bigger issue.

It only takes 2 hours to become unconscious. For some people, mostly those who go out to work or get away from the CO source for a while each day, they have a lot of strange symptoms first. Paranoia, confusion, being very forgetful, etc.

You need oxygen therapy to recover, and people with CO don't regain consciousnesses on their own to get help, so it relies on someone visiting and checking they aren't at the house passed out.

It might seem a long shot but statistically it's more likely than quite a few alternatives.

I hope he is found safe and sound very soon OP.

You poor thing.

Another option is he's doing it as an attention thing, and has planned it enough to take cash to make himself harder to find. Obviously you've done the right thing in involving the police etc but this is one outcome where he ends up safe and well, albeit having done an utterly shitty thing to you.

My dad has done this a few times. My poor mum.

Concerned too about possibility of c/monoxide. As pp says, someone (eg police) needs to get into friends house. I'd call police and express this concern OP if you've not mentioned this already to them.

to you and I hope this resolves itself very soon and it's all very easily explained.

Let's not pick the OPs personal life apart and just give her some support eh? It's a shit situation and she is alone with a young baby. Keeping everything crossed for good news soon OP

Did the police say what they would do when you filed the missing person report? Hopefully they'll go inside the friend's house and see if they can find anything out there.

The thing with the potential for carbon monoxide poisoning falls down though because the DH had already been gone for 24 hours when the friend contacted him to say he'd be back by teatime, so probably about three/four hours from then.

So he'd already dropped out of contact, after he went out, was already out for 24 hours longer than he'd said he would be, so the assumption would then be that he'd been overcome within the three hours from when the friend contacted OP (and didn't return her subsequent call) and the time he should have been home for the second time.

Nope. CO poisoning doesn't stand up as a possibility in that instance.

Oh my gosh you poor thing. This sounds terrifying!

We've established I'm a dick for not doing the report sooner. I'll say that and hopefully no one else insinuates it. I now know I should have and it's been done now.
Yes it seems far fetched but I'm being honest, this post is true, every word! I dont know what else I can say to prove that.
No one has actually been Inside friends house but police have obviously said they will be going there.

This is out of character for DH, very much so and to answer an earlier question yes it would be a shock but was my first thought when he friend didn't answer the phone and didn't come home.
Relationship is fine as far as I'm aware, have the odd bicker/row but nothing out of the ordinary I don't think. I have anxiety which can be bad at times and I put my initial thoughts of him cheating or leaving me down to that fact.

Just to clarify the name change, I've posted personal stuff on my usual name and as this is an extremely 'outing' post I didn't want the two linked and if anyone here does know me in me in rl I didn't want them to be able to trawl through my posts. It's for no other reason than that I assure you.

Thank you for all the helpful and kind replies. At this point I honestly don't care what he's been up to or where he is I just need to know he's safe and well.

Agree with wannabe. Hints that all might not be well in the relationship and the friend already contacted the op a day later.

Thinking of you and praying that he's safe.

Cross post there op. Well you'll soon know if he has turned up to work. Hope he does.

You'll soon know if he's showed up for work or not. If not then the police ought to be very concerned and start doing whatever it is they do in these situations.

I hope he is ok OP.

I went through a tiny bit of what you're going through last night when DS didn't come home from work (he came home eventually and is fine). I found the missing people website while googling what to do. They offer emotional support and practical advice for friends and relatives when someone goes missing.

Hope he turns up soon, safe and well.

Stop troll hunting! If it does end up deleted it may help someone else in the same situ or make someone buy a CO alarm!
Anyway it does happen - my dad did it to my mum several times, he went on long benders but she didn't know if he was dead or alive. People are looking at it as if it were their darling, reliable partner but op's may well be a loose cannon character that's why she's not banging down the police's door immediately.

I hope he turns up safe and well very soon

Hope you heat doe thing soon.