DH has gone missing

[HeadWrecked26]

Name changed for this as I don't want this attached to my usual name.

Long story short DH (and his friend) has gone missing and I have no idea what to do!

He went out to friends on Sunday evening around 6. He called at 9ish said he was staying out but would be home approx 10am Monday morning.
All fine as he didn't have work etc etc.
I had a message from his friend st around 2pm Monday saying that DHs phone has died and that DH is really sorry he is late but he'll be home by tea time.
Since then no one has seen or heard from DH or his friend.
I've checked the police custody suite, hospitals, as many friends that I can think of and been round to friends house but obviously no one was there.
I'm worried sick, I can't sleep, can't eat and my anxiety is only letting me think the worst has happened.

I know this is about ranty, sorry for that! I just needed to talk about how scared I am. Can anyone think of a logical explanation to where they could have got to? I need abit of hope that he's okay!

What's your plan op? Call family, work, today?

Bit strange he's not missed from work as surely you only book holiday if you are doing something.

Any news? Sounds very concerning. Hope you're ok OP.

Mumsnet is the last place I'd be if my dh had been missing for 4 days

Really? There isn't always anything you can do but sit and wait after you've called the police, rung round everyone you know, put stuff on social media etc...

I can definitely understand why someone in the op's situation would want support and advice about what to do.

Do you think he has gone to the football and thought they would be back, just did what they thought would be a crazy 24hrs but got caught up in trouble?

Will answer what I can from your replies,
DH on a zero hour contract and not actually due in work until 10Am this morning so I will be calling them when he shift starts to see if he goes there.
Friend doesn't work.

Off course in the days between him going out and my thread starting I've been doing all I can! Been on his social media accounts to speak to people on there and contacted his friends friends and no one has seen or heard from them.
DH is nc with his family so they don't know anything.
I have met the friend (who is male) a few times but don't know him well at all if I'm honest.
Absolutely nothing is missing from home bar his keys and phone.
I didn't just ignore the message I received Monday I tried to phone and they didn't answer which did initially make me think this was DHs immature way of leaving me but I think it's going on too long now to be simply that.
One of DHs friends who is also friends friend has been to friends house also multiple times and there's no sign of anyone there or being there.
Missing persons report has now been filed

And I most certainly am not a troll. I can honestly say I wish this was all a joke but it most certainly isn't.

It could be 1 of 3 things that could have happened to him. The first one being something terrible could have happened to him. The 2nd he could be on an alcohol and drug bender and he is cheating on you as I type (No one knows much about the OP). He may have left you and moved in with another woman is his stuff still in the wardrobe.

Its highly unusual for a grown man to be missing for this amount of time he has a baby. Unless he is chaotic and if he isn't then I wouldn't be wasting my time putting a thread on MN I would call the police.

Hope you hear from him soon op

I would be frantic and think of nothing worse than posting a thread about what to do next

So you can't think why someone who had no support and no idea what to do next would post on here? You have a very limited imagination...

FGS stop troll hunting-just report the thread or leave it.

I hope you find him soon OP

Have they been in? I am still worried about Co poisonig

Sounds awful. Hope you get some good news today.

Op, what have the police said? Did you file the missing person report?

Do you have any RL support?

you must be going out of your mind.

Gosh OP hope all turns out ok!

I really hope he turns up and that nothing bad has happened to him.

If he does turn up, I would dump his sorry arse for disappearing on you and his child for four days and putting you through all this stress.

Have you been to the friends house?
Can't understand why you would leave it 3/4 days with no action. Unless he has done something similar before.

Do you have family close by for support?

What a baffling situation

Would him leaving you be a shock op?

stealth that would be my worry too as the DH and his friend haven't been seen.

Sorry x posts there.

When he left on Sunday, what was he going out to do op? If it was my dh I would have an idea if he was going to the pub or just visiting a mate or whatever. Whats your explanation for him not taking any money?

I didn't just ignore the message I received Monday I tried to phone and they didn't answer which did initially make me think this was DHs immature way of leaving me but I think it's going on too long now to be simply that.

That explains everyone's delay in acting a bit, to be honest.

One of DHs friends who is also friends friend has been to friends house also multiple times and there's no sign of anyone there or being there.

Has he been inside? CO poisoning is a possibility, especially as they are both missing - or any other accident that could happen in the house.

I hope he makes it to work for 10am, so you know he's okay.

After reading your update OP - I apologise for being cynical. Just seemed so far fetched. You poor thing.

Hope he shows up soon. How long have you been together? Has he ever mentioned going on benders before you were with him? Does he have any issues with drugs/alcohol/gambling?

Well done for filing the MP report. Please stay on their case. Does his friend live anywhere near you? Could you go into the local pubs and see if they have seen him?