DH has gone missing

[HeadWrecked26]

Name changed for this as I don't want this attached to my usual name.

Long story short DH (and his friend) has gone missing and I have no idea what to do!

He went out to friends on Sunday evening around 6. He called at 9ish said he was staying out but would be home approx 10am Monday morning.
All fine as he didn't have work etc etc.
I had a message from his friend st around 2pm Monday saying that DHs phone has died and that DH is really sorry he is late but he'll be home by tea time.
Since then no one has seen or heard from DH or his friend.
I've checked the police custody suite, hospitals, as many friends that I can think of and been round to friends house but obviously no one was there.
I'm worried sick, I can't sleep, can't eat and my anxiety is only letting me think the worst has happened.

I know this is about ranty, sorry for that! I just needed to talk about how scared I am. Can anyone think of a logical explanation to where they could have got to? I need abit of hope that he's okay!

So sorry to read your latest update

So sorry op! He's a total cunt!! Be strong for you and your son

So sorry he put you through all that OP. I've been following but had nothing to add that others hadn't already posted just kept hoping he was alive with a great apology for putting you through all the worry. Stay strong. Now he has to face everyone knwing all he put you through.

What a wanker. So sorry for you.

Bloody hell OP. You DJ is a cunt of the highest order. To out you through that and think he could get away with it. We are all here to help you through the next stage.

Your DH not DJ. Sorry.

What a stupid shit

God. How awful. I'm so sorry that he's put you through this.

Oh fucking hell. I did hunk maybe he had got talked into a drunk football weekend, or that he even made it to the south of France for a match but this is shit. So sorry OP. What a twat to do this to you and DC, for wasting police and NHS time - what's to bet his friend managed to get hold of him after the police turned up at his house? Bellend

Oh my goodness...what a horrible update.
I'm so so sorry

What an utter bastard!!!

How on earth did he think he was going to get away with it?

I know your heart probably feels broken right now but I'd say you've had a lucky escape.

Turn that hurt into anger and bag all his stuff up and lob it at him! He'd need A&E after I'd finished with him!

Take care OP

Jesus OP, what wanker

What a cunt. So sorry OP. Sounds like you'll be better off without this pathetic excuse for a human.

bloody hell - you think you have heard some stories then you get a shocker like this. So very sorry. I also agree about an sti test for yourself - so sorry.

Far out!!! What an absolute wanker!!! Start bagging up his clothes. I hope you're okay and friends and family with you. Bastard. I can't believe anyone would do something like this! I hope you throw the book at him!

Shows the measure of the 'man' to put you through this.... I'm sure you must feel very raw right now but in time you will see you are so much better off without him.

Oh god OP, I'm so sorry. You sound like an incredibly strong woman, you and your beautiful Son will get through this. for you xxx

Just catching up and so sorry to read this OP. How do you feel about it? He will so regret this later in life and you'll be miles better off without him and his immature ways.

Get legal advice, get money moved and keep level headed friends around you. Tell everyone immediately what he's put you through; it'll help if you have a wobble about ever taking him back. Going it alone as a mum will seem terrifying but you'll be brilliant... You've already shown resilience beyond belief!!!

So so sorry to read your last update OP. I really hope you are as okay as can be and managed to sleep a bit xx

I'm so sorry. What an awful thing for him to do. You sound great and he sounds like an idiot; it's definitely his loss.

Really sorry it turned out that way, although I'm not surprised, unfortunately.

If he has mental health problems I hope he can sort them out, but he simply seems callous and selfish.
I don't think people with mental health problems disappear with a friend like that.

What absolute shitty cowardly behaviour. So sorry Op though clearly you are well rid of him.

OP I've been following your thread and I'm sorry it's turned out this way. The days and weeks to come won't be easy and I wish you love and strength. The relationships board is a great place to seek support and advice when you need it. Good luck to you and your son

Sadly this thread makes uncomfortable reading. It is of course a dramatic story. But there are posts on here that are beyond unhelpful. Lists of questions. Has the OP done this or that? Then berating her for the situation being far fetched, her responses too infrequent or the situation too implausible. And on occasion, posters going to great lengths to say that for their partner would never behave this way. Of course everyone is free to post what they like. I'm just commenting on what I've seen and I feel so sad that someone asking for help had so much negativity and pressure thrown her way.

OP you owe us you nothing: not an update or a reason or an explanation. Anyone not happy with what they see can leave the thread or report it. So many posters have been supportive, I hope that is some comfort OP.

OP - I'm so sorry to hear this. What a hideous human being he turned out to be .

I hope she was worth it

Surround yourself with friends and family now and accept all the support you can get my love xx

there's no moving forward from here

You will move forward, you and your lovely lad. Maybe today, maybe tomorrow, maybe next week or next month... you will dust yourself off, relearn how to put one foot in front of the other. You'll fake the smile to begin with until one day you'll find its real again. You will absolutely do everything you have to be the best mum that little boy could ever have, because this has all shown that you are a good person. You've done everything you could for this man, in the face of many posters speculating what he had done all you wanted was for him to be safe. You are a good person, and you will continue to be a fantastic mum. One day, one minute at a time. Please take care of yourself, and if people offer help, let them.