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DH has gone missing

961 replies

HeadWrecked26 · 16/06/2016 00:47

Name changed for this as I don't want this attached to my usual name.

Long story short DH (and his friend) has gone missing and I have no idea what to do!

He went out to friends on Sunday evening around 6. He called at 9ish said he was staying out but would be home approx 10am Monday morning.
All fine as he didn't have work etc etc.
I had a message from his friend st around 2pm Monday saying that DHs phone has died and that DH is really sorry he is late but he'll be home by tea time.
Since then no one has seen or heard from DH or his friend.
I've checked the police custody suite, hospitals, as many friends that I can think of and been round to friends house but obviously no one was there.
I'm worried sick, I can't sleep, can't eat and my anxiety is only letting me think the worst has happened.

I know this is about ranty, sorry for that! I just needed to talk about how scared I am. Can anyone think of a logical explanation to where they could have got to? I need abit of hope that he's okay! Sad

OP posts:
WeekendAway · 16/06/2016 22:53

Stick If that were the case then surely the very helpful counselling friend could have found a moment in the last four days to ring the OP, don't you think? Hmm

Original poster
HeadWrecked26 · 16/06/2016 22:57

I did not in any way shape or form make this whole thing up.
My husband is a cunt and my marriage is over.
Does that make you troll hunters happy?

(On a positive note thank you for the supportive comments today I've appreciated them all. )

OP posts:
WannaBe · 16/06/2016 22:57

The idea of a breakdown is completely implausible.

The friend text to tell the OP he would be back that night, but he'd already been out for 24 hours by then.

If the friend was with him while he had his breakdown, then what reason was there for the friend not getting in touch?

As AF said up thread, his being in a&E is a red herring. This man left his DW on Sunday night, got a friend to text that he wouldn't be back until the next day, and then just didn't come back, but was seen in another town with the same enabling friend. And even when admitted to hospital he didn't get them to ring the OP, she found out by calling the hospital.I've no doubt he'll feed the OP some bullshit excuse though.

Rainbowlou1 · 16/06/2016 22:58

I've just read this whole thread and I'm so sorry you are going through this.
The support on here far outweighs the rest ime
Good luck to you and your little one Flowers

StealthPolarBear · 16/06/2016 22:59

What if he'd said the op was abusing him or violent? I'm not suggesting that is the case, just if he said that it may explain it.
However I thibk the most likely explanation is that he left the op and he's now either had an accident or engineered one so all will be forgiven.

NoahVale · 16/06/2016 22:59
Sad is he quite young op?
Dontlaugh · 16/06/2016 23:00

Stick you'd go easy? Wtf? He went awol for 4 days!
With no contact and no means to contact.
What
The actual
Fuck
Has to happen
for a man to take responsibility for being part of a household? This is not acceptable on any level and no matter what he was doing, it is not ok to fuck off for 4 days without any means of contact with family.

eversoslightlytired · 16/06/2016 23:00

I hope you are ok OP. I am very sorry for the loss of your marriage.

ThenLaterWhenItGotDark · 16/06/2016 23:01

Are you still at the hospital?

magoria · 16/06/2016 23:02

I am really sorry OP.

Hard and painful as things are right now. At least you know and can deal with whatever the issue is rather than the horrible unknowing.

xx

AnyFucker · 16/06/2016 23:02

Op, where are you now ? Are you OK ?

PovertyPain · 16/06/2016 23:03

I'm so sorry, OP. Flowers

I know many posters were cynical about what was happening, but I'm sure you will find many more that will give you support. Why don't you start a new thread and ignore this one?

WeekendAway · 16/06/2016 23:03

Did you go to see him Head? What is he in A&E for and what's his story?

Only1scoop · 16/06/2016 23:04

Oh Gawd its Deputy Dawg

AliceInUnderpants · 16/06/2016 23:04

Oh OP what happened at the hospital?
I hope you will be okay. Are you home now? Is your friend still with you?

Only1scoop · 16/06/2016 23:04

Sorry wrong thread

TooMuchMNTime · 16/06/2016 23:05

I feel for you OP Flowers

ohgoshIdontknow · 16/06/2016 23:05

This is an astonishing story. I hope you're ok OP

EatsShitAndLeaves · 16/06/2016 23:05

OP - sorry to hear that.

Hope you are back home with your little one and have some RL support Flowers

SmallLegsOrSmallEggs · 16/06/2016 23:06

So sorry OP.
And so totally unfair on youSad

ElornaElephant · 16/06/2016 23:06

I'm sorry op Sad I hope everything settles down and turns out okay for your and your baby son, sending you strength. Flowers

CalmItKermitt · 16/06/2016 23:06

Really hope you're ok OP.

RoseRedHead · 16/06/2016 23:06

Oh headwrecked my heart goes out to you it really does love.

All that worry he has put you through!

How are you doing?

At least maybe you can get some sleep now.

There are decent posters here for handholding if you need it.

Perfectlypurple · 16/06/2016 23:07

Hope you got some answers op. 💐

Vlier · 16/06/2016 23:08

So glad for you that he is alive and that you have answers. I wish you the best of luck. And yell at him till he's deaf, will you?

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