I have ended an affair

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And I'm devastated, both married, flame away I deserve it
Talked for weeks all very emotional stuff, absolutely fell for it, how gorgeous I am etc, met up, didn't have sex but played around a bit
In contact all day every day, I started to have feelings for him and told him
Surprise surprise he doesn't feel the same and just wants sex and fun
I'm heartbroken and don't know how to get over it
I know it's all my own fault and I deserve every bit of unhappiness
I'm just so upset and feel like a fool

Why are so many ppl so judgemental? Nobody is perfect. I can't believe that those of you who are being so judgemental haven't ever done anything that you've been ashamed of? What's the saying?...."Let he who is without sin cast the first stone".

The OP posted here for support, I think she's realised that something must be wrong in her marriage for her to have fallen so easily (and quickly) for someone else with whom she felt a connection. What she does now is up to her and her alone. Only she knows exactly what her life is like and whether it's worth saving and she will have to live with the choices she makes.

Disagree with her; yes, but there's no need to be nasty or personal about it, and projecting your own past situations onto her isn't helpful if it's very negative.

To the OP: I feel for you; I think it must be easy to have your head turned if things aren't good in your relationship, but now you need to work out what it is you really want. Maybe a few days away on your own would help you achieve this. Whatever you decide I wish you the best.

How/where did you meet him?

Seems like you are very much at risk of this happening again unless you realise what led to it in the first place.