I have ended an affair

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And I'm devastated, both married, flame away I deserve it
Talked for weeks all very emotional stuff, absolutely fell for it, how gorgeous I am etc, met up, didn't have sex but played around a bit
In contact all day every day, I started to have feelings for him and told him
Surprise surprise he doesn't feel the same and just wants sex and fun
I'm heartbroken and don't know how to get over it
I know it's all my own fault and I deserve every bit of unhappiness
I'm just so upset and feel like a fool

Lyingwitch can't help herself Adora - the vitriol is palpable!

you don't even know if it's true.

As any post anywhere on the forum.

It's easy to be a gobshite behind a screen.

Dead easy to be a gobs hire and dismiss others experiences from behind a screen also.

*gobshite

Oh no, Memy has told me to fuck off, how will I ever get over it.

Really? Are you still in High School?

Dearie me.

Your vile language directed at me merely shows you for what you are, not me but you carry on, it's kinda entertaining my afternoon.

OP, you say you have no wish to leave your husband, is that given the current situation? No wish to leave him and be on your own? What if your feelings for OM had been reciprocated? Given that you are devastated, and have turned down the offer of no-strings from OM, that suggests that you would of taken things further if he felt the same and would of wished to leave your DH.
So what you are saying is, that you are a person who is quite happy to put how your life turns out, fully in the hands of the man you are with at the time, handing over all responsibility and destiny to another person.
Maybe what you could do with, is taking charge of yourself and directing the path your life takes, instead of putting your happiness in the hands of another.
I suggest you take time to think about what you want out of life, and what is important to you. It is a big risk to pass your future to any man that comes along. Needing to have your validated by a man is a vulnerable place to be in and is likely why you fell for all the flattery. Love yourself more, respect yourself, then you won't be feeling you need others to validate you.

This arguing and direct attacks is really not helping the OP. Is it too much for people to disagree with others respectfully rather than resort to swearing.

Oh and if the words fuck off offend you so much, why the fuck are you on MN? We are allowed to say naughty words you know, dearie. cunt

Gosh if ever I want to feel good about myself I will just re read the above lol.

Oh and if the words fuck off offend you so much, why the fuck are you on MN? We are allowed to say naughty words you know, dearie. cunt

You might not be offending Adora but you are me! Reported.

Don't you feel good about yourself anyway?

The thing is Adora, you can't act outraged at my vile language as you put it, because naturally I'm going to AS you, and see quite clearly you called someone a cunt on another thread.

So what's that about? I tell you to fuck off but I'm using vile language, you call someone a cunt and that's ok?

Well, this is edifying isn't it.

For once AF, your user name is the least sweary thing on here

For once AF, your user name is the least sweary thing on here

Totally agree with everything LyingWitch has said. I am always baffled why when people come on looking for support they would be subject to bitterness and bluntness and posters who simply want to spite.

OP, take heart in the fact that you did resist the invitation to sex. It is all so human. The people who can't empathise with this situation are the ones who can't acknowledge that mistakes happen. Sounds as though you've learnt a lot from yours.

I am always baffled why when people come on looking for support

Support doesn't equal agreement.

If 'mistakes happen' and it is all OK, no problem in talking to her DH about it then is there?

OP i feel for you. It's another human story and most martiages, even successful happy ones have them. This time you were lucky, it wasn't a ' true love's dream' that we are all taught to dream of but something seedy. Lust and attraction are incredibly powerful emotions ( procreation needed!), you wanted to see a romance that wasn't there. It very, very rarely is.

Learn that lesson and don't say a word to your DH.

I'm baffled at the complete ignoring of the husband the poor other married lady, they don't seem to figure at all in this mistake.

Still they have you fighting for their corner so very reasonably and articulately don't they eh, adora1

Thanks Silver, I always support the underdog.

Whoosh

I would consider this a lucky escape. These things rarely end well. I not that long ago developed a crush on someone I work with; it took me completely by surprise (am happily married). We were just flirting, he would say how great I was, would put his arm around me when we were in a pub etc, 'accidental' bumping into each other that type of stuff. I felt like a teenager and it felt like a drug. I was finding myself wishing that things went further and fantasising about It. It was so wrong but felt so good. It was like an obsession. One day we were all going for drinks after work but he had a meeting last thing. I wasn't sure if he would join us or go straight home. It was horrible. When it became apparent that he wasn't coming I was so disappointed, I just couldn't enjoy myself. I left the pub almost in tears and stood outside then said out loud 'this ends now'
I am pleased it did and that nothing more serious happened but even so loathe myself at times still. For the thoughts. So my advice is be grateful that it has come to an end. It will be painful to start with but try and find the strength. It is worth it.

Oh op I feel so sorry for you.

Not.

Your poor husband has a right to know that the mouth he kisses has had some others fellas cock in it.

Seedy little meetings.

People that have affairs are nothing short of disgusting.