Sleeping with someone on a first date....can I get a poll?

[monkeychop]

did you have sex with your DP on first date and did it a) lead to a relationship or b) he/she lose interest straight after? Just interested really?

Girst mert up??

I don't think it matters either way, if you want sex on the first date go for it-if he's up for it too of course, if you don't then don't.
Try not to make it into an issue, it's really not that big a deal-remember, sex is fun.

Am single atm but yes, I've slept with a few people on the first date including the father of my kids We were together for 16 years or so after that so it didn't do any harm.

Personally, I'd hate to really fancy someone and spend months falling for them and having a great time, only to then find we were incompatible in bed.

thisisnow that could happen at any time no matter how long you've known the person.
I'd been with my ex for quite a while, moved in together with a baby, and he was shagging all sorts. Luckily never caught anything.

A first date is ok why not if you are attracted to each other and your careful with protection?

Me & DH did we have now been together many happy years, have a ds, DD on the way.

Reading this thread made me think, many of my firsts 'dates' came after having sex. Other first dates lead into relationships (3 months plus) some stayed without sex being introduced at any stage.

There was one man I had sex with without waiting that wasn't interested in a relationship (when I was) but I doubt it was the fact we had sex before dating for a while as don't think he'd have been interested even if we hadn't.

My current relationship of 20 years was from the former of the two types of dating I did

I did with my last date. That was 7 years ago and he is now my DH and we have a 2 yr old DD. I wanted to, he wanted to and it was good sex.

Yes. Been together 24 years and married 16.

Yes dh1 we were in bed within a couple of hours of meeting and I never really went home ten years two kids. Dh2 I knew vaguely and we had a serious romp on first night sex about two days later been together nine years married five so he's got another year in him yet [grins]

Only ever had one ONS... Except I ended up marrying him and six kids later it's going strong!!

Nope 6 weeks still together 17m on now engaged .

I don't think I have ever been dumped for a ONS if I have done it but then it becomes obvious very fast if they want to see you again only at night lying horizontally at your house or out in public having other kinds of fun.

I did, and we're now married. I didn't think it would lead to anything though, or I would have made him wait.

Yes. But then we are both dirty, dirty ho bags.

Yes - met in a nightclub, what seemed like it was going to be a one night stand turned into relationship, been together 4 years now.

I did and we've now got two kids and are getting married in August!

I don't think it makes a blind bit of difference to be honest.

I think it completely depends on you and your partner and the situation- and how 'into you' they are. I slept with my husband before the first date (oops )
We had it lined up but bumped into each other drunk the weekend before.
Worked for us!

Yes and we have been together 17 years and married nearly 11 years. But I had actual one night stands before meeting dh and never really worried about it.

Nope. Never have, and if split from dh, probably never would. Waited few months. Together over 20 years

"I made them wait 3 months"

"I think people give it away too early"

The 1950's called, they want their judgements back.

Sex is fun. If you want to have sex have sex, wear a condom, enjoy.

If he/she leaves you afterwards move onto the next.

I've done it twice, went on to have long term relationships with both.

Yes, with STBXH because I wanted to and he wanted to. It was great. We were together 7 years, married for 5 of those.

I've just started dating again. I had a date on Tues with a lovely guy I've been chatting to online. We had one drink then went back to mine. Lovely evening! We plan on seeing each other again but if it doesn't work out I won't feel bad about it as we both had a great time.

I tried by he ran away scared 😂🙈

He went to use my toilet after a night out, when he came out toilet I was stood there naked , I've no idea what I was thinking I was drunk. He pegged it out my house as fast as his feet could carry him.

Luckily he returned the following day and we been married 4 years

We dabbled but didn't have sex. Think that was date two or three (terrible memory ).

We've been together over ten years. Married for nine.