Hi, I apologise in advance as this may be a bit all over the place but just going to get it all out in the hope of some different opinions please!! .....
I have 4 children between 9 an 1 years old, my elder 2 are from my first marriage and I receive a basic amount of CM for them from exdh. My 2 little ones are mine and DH's.
DH works full time and I work part time and fit my hours around nursery and school and our lovely dog.
Anyway my issue is DH refuses to share money, as well as my wages which is about a third of his I receive tax credits and child benefit, in total I end up with a little more than him each month BUT I pay all the childcare fees, I buy 80% of the food, I buy 99% of the children's clothes and pay for all the children's activities. His argument is that he doesn't think the children should be in childcare as he thinks his 70 yr old mum should look after them. His mum is in my opinion completed out of date with how to care for children and manage their behaviour, she has even admitted to banging the table and shouting at my 1 year old for not eating her lunch before (she told me like it was a good idea then denied it to him!) she currently looks after my 2 youngest one morning a week which I hate but dh insists they should spend time together. Anyway, I have nothing left at the end of the month whereas he saves his money. We can't afford a family holiday abroad but he is planning on going abroad for a mates stag do, he goes to the gym most mornings before work and leaves me at home trying to get 4 children and myself ready to leave at 7.30am to drop them all off at nursery etc and get myself to work.
I suppose I just feel really hard done by, he used to moan when I was on Mat leave that I "sat on my arse all day" so I went back to work. It feels like his life hasn't changed and he still has plenty of cash and free time when all I do is go to work and look after the children and I'm left with nothing.
Please advise if I'm being reasonable about being fed up of this or not?