So I met a guy, we went on a date a couple of nights ago which went really really well (he said so as well so wasn't just me haha) ... Since said date we have been texting pretty much constantly (obvious gaps when we are busy/asleep etc but generally have always been messaging)
Yesterday, business as usual, I had work in the evening and as I was going into work his last text was us discussing our second date and him saying he wants to take me somewhere really nice and that he's gutted he won't be able to see me for over a week. I reply then go into work... Come out of work, and had a message from him in reply... And then another message just making general chit chat about 2 hours before. Replied when I got home... And he opened it and ignored it! But at the time, I didn't think much of it. He was moving house that day and was probably busy. I'm sure I'd hear from him later. But later, this morning, nothing. But he had been posting on Facebook last night, an emotional post about him moving house. So, I liked it then sent him a message saying aww did the move go well then? Are you feeling all emotional? ... And again! Open message, no reply!
So my question is, would it be weird to maybe give him until later this evening and if I don't hear ask him? I'm not normally like this after a first date and feel like a bit of a bunny boiler, but I just don't understand how you can go from planning a second date and all the like, to not even dignifying my messages with a response, all in the space of 2 hours?? I'm not thinking an angry rant or anything, perhaps just a little sort of 'jokey message' like 'was it something I said?' ... I guess it's more for my sanity than anything really as I know deep down its hardly going to change anything... I am just going out of my mind trying to work out why the hell he has just done such a u turn all of a sudden and whether it really is something I've done?? I don't think he's ever completely ignored my messages!
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I feel like a bunny boiler but...
Rup3rt · 03/06/2016 09:21
You wouldn't want a relationship with someone who blows hot and cold anyway. Would you?
He's already got you wondering if you've done something wrong, or he's found out something bad about you! No, no. He's just mucking you about, nothing to do with you, your character, your personality, what you have or haven't done.
Agree it's better to meet soon after making contact. If you take ages it builds up a fantasy of sorts - lots of projection.
Onwards and upwards 
You would kick yourself if you sent another text and he still didn't reply. We've all been there OP I'm sure 
And if he never replies, then he definitely isn't worth wasting precious time over
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If it were as simple as deleting all his contact details I would do it but I have him on all sorts of social media including snap chat where we send a lot of our messages! And if he notices I've deleted him from everything, well I may as well have sent the third message 
I think I will be ok. I'm quite certain that I don't plan to drunk text him and that should see me through!
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