That Sunday Feeling!

[Hushabyemountain98]

Welcome to to my new thread. I hope that all my MN friends from Onwards and Upwards will join me and maybe a few new ones!xx

Hi Hush - how you doing?

I'm off on holiday today so I'm looking forward to that. A week in the Austrian Alps will do me just fine I think.

How did it go with your counsellor?

Hi WTAFF.

How exciting for you. Have a great time.

My counsellor visit was good. I always feel exhausted afterwards though. I suppose it is all my emotions coming out.

I am okay. I have had the usual ups and downs. I am busy this week as I am moving my sons out of their student houses.

I hope you are okay?
Have a super time.
Safe journey.
xxx

Good afternoon all.
I hope you are all having a good day?
I have walked the dogs.
I have just bathed my old dog and he is hard work!
Sitting down with a coffee too recover!
The weather is something of nothing today. It is dry so far!

Feeling a bit low as at the moment I seem to be in a limbo as still no news from my solicitor!
Have to take my old dog to the vet for the day tomorrow for more blood tests.
I think after that it will be moving my eldest from his old to his new place. What is a Mum?
Then just have to deal with the youngest one!
Have a good day xx

This post is about the delusions of a cheating husband.

I won't go into the whys and how's the the right and wrongs of me accessing these messages but suffice it to say I have. Hand on heart I never checked his phone for texts or anything when we were together - I trusted him. Now I don't.

Anyways you know he announced he was "unhappy" on the 1st May and when I questioned him finally admitted there was someone else. At which point I told him to pack his stuff and leave. I know he's spinning it as he left me but I didn't give him a choice I took his keys off the side and told him to go. He may have been planning to go anyway but he was also shocked when I took his keys, was only going to take a few things and was planing on coming back to mow the lawn etc. I soon put him straight.

He left me and my daughter who he'd known for 14 years. So most of her life. She's 18 now and thought of him as Dad No 2. He text her Friday or Saturday which I wasn't surprised at because it was nearly Father's Day and he was feeling sorry for himself. This is all for context so you understand where I'm coming from with the messages I'm about to post. Names omitted.

Facebook messenger

He posts a picture of a bottle bag and a homemade picture saying to 'worlds best uncle happy Father's day"

Now this is the neice he has seen no more than 6 times a year at most even though his brother lives 10 minutes away. So that's Easter. Her Birthday and Christmas plus a few other times when he's gone round to meet his brother to catch the bus up town for a football match. So I'm pretty sure it wasn't her idea but probably suggested by his brother who is feeling sorry for him.

He then puts the following in a message to other woman:
Sorry baby x had to show you what 'neices name' did for me. Man I choked x felt so nice x this is all part of us x I love you x

She then replies:
Oh baby. How beautiful! Even I am choked! Your family love you so much because of how selfless and ace you are xx

He then replies:
Loved it x Love family x new family x family values x love you x we'll get there x happy days x

What alternate reality are they living in when they can talk about him being selfless, family and family values.

They are both a pair of lying, cheating, wastes of space.

How do two grown ups talk like that? What's with the Baby this and Baby that and all of the kisses. It's like reading the messages a 17 or 18 year old (or younger?) would send.

I didn't feel upset or sick or anything I just couldn't believe the crap I was reading.

I just said to my daughter (didn't mention the messages). I've got the better end of the deal. I don't want to be with someone like he is now. I've got my daughter and the dog. He's living at home with his mom and dad (at his age) and he's got a woman who cheated with him and whose to say he or she won't do it again in the future.

Sorry for the epic post but this is how delusional these cheats are. They convince themselves that they are decent people living decent lives. They are not!

If you had told me two months ago that he would write such drivel I would have laughed you out the room.

Hello ThankGod,

I am really sorry to read all this.
Words are cheap and they sound like a couple of kids!
It is pathetic really!

As you said you have the best part of the deal. Your daughter and your dog.
You sound angry rather than upset.
We all deserve so much more than this.

My dh's other woman wrote all kinds of things that made me feel dreadful. But words are cheap. I was his wife for over 30 years and we have two beautiful sons together and neither of them can take them away.

I hope you are having a nice evening with your daughter.
I am going to have a nice glass of wine in a minute.
xxx

Good Afternoon All,
I keep doing this but I wonder whether my thread has run its course!
What do you think?

The weather here is rubbish. We have had a lot of rain again.

My old dog is at the Vets until late for his blood tests. He will be pleased to come home later.
Have a nice day xx

Hush I just think it's that time of year. People are on holiday etc. I have found this thread and the previous ones an absolute godsend over the last weeks. Even if I or you or anyone don't always have anything momentous to say it's like an anchor to normality.
I hope your old dog is ok. You will have to spoil him when he gets home.
Weather here isn't great but it's not raining at the moment.
It's my daughters last exam tomorrow then it's party party party.

Good Afternoon ThankGod. Thanks for that. It is nice to be appreciated or needed! I am glad that it has helped you. It certainly has me!
My old dog will be really glad to come home after being injected and blood taken three times over the day. I expect he will be starving as he has not eaten since 8pm yesterday. My younger one is lost without him!

We have some sun at the moment.

I hope your daughters last exam goes well tomorrow. It is such a relief when they are over for her and you! You can go out and celebrate.

I have been getting boxes ready to take to my eldest sons house tomorrow so he can box up stuff ready for moving on Friday. Also seeing if the air bed works as he will need that initially until his bed is delivered! My youngest is coming home at some point as he needs to vote tomorrow. We will probably go together!

Have a good day xx

I keep doing this but I wonder whether my thread has run its course

I dont think it has Husha. Look at Thankgods last post, and mine before that. There is something here for everyone whether they post or just read and I think its the time of year thats making the whole site less busy, its not just your posts.

Personally I've been out all day. I left home and 10am and got home at 10pm. I don't normally have days as long as that but I was tying things up so I can get away tomorrow for 2 weeks. I went and did banking, paid a few bills elsewhere, then met a friend for a cheeky Ramadan lunch that started at 1.30 and ended at 5. After that I went and bought the nice dates and date biscuits I always bring for people before going to my SIL's for Iftar which is the meal people break the fast with. We had a great time, just like the old days and it was just wonderful. We had a house full of my lot and her lot and my goodness how we've grown as a family. There's so many of us. I was late to leave at 9pm and before I came home I had to go and pay for my new curtains and sofa set thats part of the new look and feel bedroom Im finally having done after 3 and a half years. So just after 10 I was home at last and Im now sitting here having a cheeky glass of wine and a chocolate biscuit.

x
Dont stop posting.
xxxxx

Thankgod, anyone who can write that kind of drivel let alone make it public is desperate and trying to prove way to much to themselves and others.

You will not be the only one with raised eyebrows xxxxx

Hello Tattie,
I am glad that you don't think my thread has run its course.
You had a long day today but it sounds asthough you enjoyed it.
I love dates. The trouble is once I start I cannot stop. I like figs too.
It was a real family get together and that is nice.
It is good that you are changing your bedroom too. I hope you will love it when it is done.
I hope you enjoyed your glass of wine and chocolate biscuit.
Enjoy your break. I cannot remember if you told me where you are going. I will have a look back to see.
Good night xxx

Hi Hush. I'm glad your thread is still going strong too.
Hope you're ok.
Good night all xxx

Good morning Pisco,

Glad you still like my thread.
I feel really tired this morning.
Never mind.
I hope you have a good day.
Will be back later.
xx

Good morning. It's too much stress and worry making you tired. Not good for anybody. Get the lads to do the work, you just supervise x

Good morning Pisco,

So much for an early start.
Have made coffee for myself.
Taken tea up for my youngest.
Just watching Breakfast before getting in the shower.
Really wet outside again!
Not great for dog walking.
So much for flaming June!

Not too much work today. Only driving and delivering boxes etc. Mums taxi service!

Tomorrow is the day. I better make sure I have some breakfast.
I know I shouldn't do certain things but when it comes to it I always do!
I just hope they appreciate me. The jury is still out on that one! I suppose as I have always done it, it is just what they expect! It is just the norm for them!

I hope you have a good day and that the weather is better where you are.
xx

Good afternoon all,

I am back from doing Mums taxi service.
The weather is still awful and worse to come apparently!
My poor old dog is not so well.
I am hoping that is is just a reaction to yesterday.
I better get some things done as I am not going to achieve much here tomorrow as I will be busy moving my son tomorrow.
Just could do with it being dry!

I hope you are all having a good day?xx

Weather here is ok. Warm and dry but a bit overcast. I even risked hanging out some washing before I went to work.
Feeling a bit sad today. Think it's because my daughter has finished all her exams now and so her leaving for university is one step closer. Had a little cry earlier in the car but I'm trying not to cry in front of her anymore.
I know I keep saying it but I thought to myself when she goes to university I could easily go from leaving work on a Friday to going back on a Monday without speaking to anybody other than the checkout operator.

Hope your dog feels a bit better soon Hush. It's worrying when they aren't well because they can't tell us what's up.
I'm playing taxi service tomorrow and Saturday. Daughter has got loads planned from tonight onwards.

He's just text to see if he can collect his post when he comes to vote.
I've told him I'll leave it by the bin. I've locked the gate and called the dog in.
None of us want to see him.

Hi ThankGod.
I am glad your weather is a lot better than it is here.
I am sorry that you are feeling sad because your daughter has finished her exams and that is a step nearer her going to University. You want them to go out into the wide world but because of a set of circumstances that are not your fault you would rather they didn't. Then you feel guilty for feeling that way.
I think we need to find other things to do with our lives. The trouble is that is easier said than done! Not seeing people to talk to is not good. Even if it is only a fellow dog walker.
I hope your daughter enjoys all her plans after finishing her exams.
No it is awful when dogs are like this as they cannot tell you what is wrong. I am just hoping that the blood tests will reveal the real problem so he can start proper treatment.
Enjoy your evening xx

Well done ThankGod. I think it is easier if you do not have to see them.
xx

Hi husha. Not like you not to post. Hope you're okay?

Hush hope moving your son hasn't tired you out too much?
My daughter was upset by yesterday's EU referendum result but I explained that's what can happen when you live in a democracy - results don't always go the way you wanted.
I've got another viewing on the house so have got to finish tidying round.
My daughter has another party tonight so I'm playing taxi service (again).
The dog is currently snoring on the sofa - I think I must have woken him too early. How is your old dog?

Good morning madame and ThankGod.

I am sorry that I didn't post yesterday but I was just so busy and then I was tired out! Thank you for caring! It is good to hear from you again madame. I hope you are doing okay?

I was up all night on Thursday. I watched all the results come in. I was really upset by the result and I think it is totally the wrong decision.
We shall see! I am sorry ThankGod that it upset your daughter too. It is good that her exams are over.

I moved my son from his current house into his new home. Moved three car fulls and I still have one load here. He just needs furniture now!
I did some cleaning in the old house. I think renting houses to students is money for old rope!

We went for dinner afterwards which was really nice.
When I got home I was so tired. I dropped off to sleep on the sofa. Still one down one to go on the moving front!

I hope the house viewing went well ThankGod. It is a real pain keeping everything just so for the viewings!
Mums taxi service again! I know the feeling!
Sorry that you woke you Dog too early this morning. Dogs can certainly snore!
My old dog is still not great. Just hoping the results will be conclusive and he can get the right treatment.

Well I better close and get my day started.
Have a good Saturday.
The sun is shining here today. I hope it is where you are too?xx☀️😃

Morning all.
The house viewing didn't go well. They were in and out in 5 minutes. Oh well!
I'm just worried now about what will happen prices/mortgages etc. We have a Separation Agreement detailing how much he will pay each month towards the mortgage etc. but I'm sure that he thought it would only be for a few months. Not sure what will happen if it doesn't sell for months and months. Or what will happen if mortgage rates rise.
I'm shattered - had to drop off and pick up my daughter last night from an 18th birthday party. I've never been the best sleeper and obviously I'm even worse than normal at the moment.
We've got to pop into town to do a last bit of holiday shopping - she's off on her girls holiday in 2 weeks.
Enjoy your day.

Morning ThankGod.
I am sorry that the house viewing didn't go well.
On to the next one!
I think your husband will just have to continue paying. It is not your fault. You are trying to sell the house. If the mortgage rate rises that is one for your solicitor. There again that is not your fault either!

I am sorry that you are shattered. I still feel shattered and I do not understand why as I had a good nights sleep last night.

Enjoy the holiday shopping with your daughter.

Have a good day xx