How does your DP DH express his liking of other women, celebs or otherwise? Am I being too sensitive?

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I honestly don't know if I'm being stupid about this one but sometimes I get to thinking DH is ALWAYS going on about other women. OK, he'll mention celebs or women on TV he's liked past and present but he just seems to do this an awful lot. Obviously there are guys from films TV and sportsmen that I like too but I don't go on and on about them.

Add to that he'll comment that 'such and such at work was wearing nice high heels today' or he'll admit that he was ogling the ladies coming out of the gym.

I'm probably being a silly so and so but sometimes I just think 'ok enough, I get it, you like to look at women!'

Perhaps it's just the thick women whose hips he'd like to smash then

That makes sense

On a slight tangent, I am fascinated by all the tiny bits of language that we use without thinking that add up to mysogyny. The drip drip drip- bloody hell where did that massive bucketful come from? effect.

Nobody would ever say that they "held men in high regard, especially the ones that used their brains" would they?

As you were, it was just a passing thought.

Well, I for one am glad he is not single.

Sorry, that was in reaction to that hideous comment made by PP's 'husband'.

OP, your DH is very rude, a complete lack of social manners seems to be his problem. Was he like that before you married him?

Bertrand to somewhat go along with your tangent , although I suspect I am deviating from your tangent here. So "balls" is often used as a term for bravery , confidence etc etc. I have to say I do not get hugely offended by it. But I think that is partly because I cannot quite take it seriously as I am old enough to remember a thing (and I think I am right here - haven't checked) which was a debate called Town Bloody Hall - a panel discussion with Germaine Greer , Norman Mailer and some others. A woman from the audience asked Norman Mailer a question which was - "You once said it took balls to write " "Yes" he said - "So Mr Mailer, can I just ask you what colour ink you dip them in". He had the grace to see it was a point. So I am probably wrong for not challenging all uses of "balls" but frankly I no longer take it seriously - maybe I should more as for those too young to remember that , it is drip drip . Hmm, made me think. Sorry, probably not what you were thinking of.

Yep, BB

Gotta agree with you there. One fewer arsehole in the gene pool. Every cloud...

You sound as delightful as your nobhead husband, Di11

Welcome to MN anyway with your unusual husband and mis-spelled moniker.

Out of interest dg11- who do you think "acts" in the violent porn you watch?

You and your husband are well suited. I can't think of anyone else who thinks smashing a woman's hips during sex is an acceptable thing to think or say.

Bert you are wasting your time.

I haven't read the entire thread but comments like that arenot normal in a respectful relationship.

Could be various reasons why he does it. Maybe he thinks he's a real catch and is a bit of a lady's man, or maybe the opposite is true and he has low self esteem. He may think you are too good for him and he wants to dent your self-confidence and keep you on your toes so you don't leave him.

Perhaps he doesn't have much experience with women and does not know that this is not acceptable - esp if his mates are like that.

Perhaps he's just an idiot.

I had a boyfriend once who (in hindsight) had some issues. He just got a kick out of messing with my head. It was some kind of power trip. He'd say things like that then turn it round on me when I got jealous, as if I was terribly insecure.

You have to work out why he may do this, and depending on the reason (and whether the behaviour stops) decide to either leave him or stay. I dont think Id put up with it as its disrespectful, but would depend if I had kids, etc.