Brave Babes Battle Bus is Racing Along.....

[venusandmars]

Our lovely mouseface usually starts these threads but I've just noticed that the previous one is almost full, so I'm facing technology and get the next one set up.

Anyone, absolutely anyone, who feels they have a problem with drink is welcome here. Whether you're trying to stop, or cut down a little, whether you've been sober for years, or even if you're too scared even to contemplate what is happening. If you think it will help you to post, or lurk, then please do.

There's often a lot of nonsense and banter, but lots of good sound advice.

And there is always lots of support and care and no judgement.

This is the link to the previous thread, if you want to read what's been going on so far The Previous Thread

And this is the link to JesusWhatNext 's original thread started 6 years ago The Original Thread

Lala have you any arnica? Works wonders on a bruise. I reckon there's a few of us on here who've had a bruised arse or two. You aren't a loser my dear, you got a little lost that's all. There's a whole world of difference. What have you got planned for the rest of the evening? x

Hey, if the boobs swing it, that will do.
The black splodge on the General is on his paw, which he has folded over in that photo in a very camp manner. He has a white tummy and black leggings.

Hey lala x why don't u think you like him anymore? That's me way past the "witching" hour on day 5 AF. In 2 days I will be AF for A whole WEEK! Im
Buzzing about it. And I really mean that. I stopped getting excited about other stuff a long time ago. Drink was all that really mattered. Now im excited about the fact ive managed to stay away from it and on Wednesday I won't wake up with a hangover and ne and hubby are taking the kids out for the day as he got a holiday/day off work. Can't wait to wake up super early and fresh to make our picnics and see my baby girls face at all the wee animals (we going to a local farm park thing) xxx I feel so good. Sorry if it seems im rubbing it into to anyone still struggling. I really am sorry im just to excited to not talk about it xxx

Halle I think you are experiencing 'The Boing'

halle

I wasn't going to show you my work locker but damn! I left me pompoms behind....

I am shoogling them in my head though! Well done!!!!!

Disclaimer: That isn't really my locker. There's no crisps in it for a start.

And I dare say those shorts wouldn't go over one of my cheeks, let alone two.

wry you make me laugh , you could write for a living, you really could.

halle ah the boing. Such a sweet place to be. Well done you

Morning ladies. Off to start another busy week. Had a blip on Thursday, have been on a very low carb and calorie diet and accidentally got shitfaced at a work do (on a lot less than I normally drink with no issues). Has taken a couple of days to get over 'the fear' and the horrible hangover. I am such an idiot. That's me AF for the next few weeks at least.

Been lurking here somewhat shamefacedly under a duvet in the sidecar. Some lovely wise posts from Venus and Baby and co, and Halle I have been cheering you on and delighted for you

Wry good to see you back Hon. Sorry work is difficult. I'll be back later to chat but now need to get the kids up for school. Later taters x

Morning babes.

Welcome back hope, just think how great you'll feel in a few days with some af days under your belt.

Also feeling shitty here as drank a bottle of wine last night, when I didn't really want to and certainly didn't need to. Don't know why I did really. Anyway. Af now until Saturday. You'll find me curled up at the back of the bus today stuffing sweets into my mouth.

What's the "Boing" babes? Lol AF day 6 (yassss) .... I have it marked up on a calendar and everything including an old pic of me is like to look like back before i started drinking like a fish and turned into a whale xxx

The Boing is the happiness that comes when you feel the benefits of being sober

Ahh well then yeah I definitely have a "boing" in my step. However .... I only have motivation around the house at the moment. It's such nice weather and really I should be up and out walking with my daughter but I dont have it in me now I feel guilty to her. We will play and watch movies all day but j just don't feel like going out xxx

Halle, can you make yourself a deal and step outside into the garden for 20 minutes (if you have one)?

Morning all, just checking in really briefly to say I won't be stopping on my way to work tonight to buy supplies for tomorrow morning...brain set to self destruct mode so maybe putting it here will help (I still might though, but I do and don't want to....thought that habit was broken). Am in between nights and had a bottle of wine this morning, that's not new but increasingly thinking how the fuck can I justify this as moderating??

So aim is for a totally AF morning tomorrow, then hopefully an AF evening too. But if I feel like shit I know I will drink, and I've consciously given myself that as get out clause. So basically still going round in circles...

Hey Elba xx I didn't realise you were drinking in the mornings Aswell. Why not focus on one tiny thing at a time. For now accept that you may have a bottle of wine every night but that you're going to stop drinking the mornings. Make small steps hun xxx

Can I creep in? I know I need to stop forever, I am fine usually, moderation all the way and then every few months I go mad, drink so much I can't remember and then beat myself up for literally weeks afterwards. I've been in bed all day, off work sick, thinking I'm getting cystitis and crying with remorse.

How can I get through this? How can I link how bad it makes me feel now, with stopping me doing it in the first place? Why am I such a total idiot?

Hey you sound like me cauliflower. Can go so long moderating ok then BAM black outs and making fools of ourselves. I don't have any words of wisdom as im only 6 days AF and I ain't sure I'll stay sober. I might drink tonight or tomorrow but I will try not to. And if I manage,great, If not we'll I'll just start all over again. Are u married? Kids? Is it affecting the relationships you have? Xxx

Welcome cauliflower and well done for being brave and making the first post

Thanks for the welcome. Yes two dds whom are my absolute world and DH. Marriage is probably ok, we both do this and then recriminate together and swear never again. He wants to change too but he doesn't beat himself up the way I do.

My DH isn't a big drinker but I annoy him the with all the questioning I do the day after a night out. He is also very honest with me (to honest in my opinion lol) when telling me all the embarrassing things I done. It's doing his head in. I torture myself for days after a night out. I can't eat with guilt etc. Ive been off it 6 days so far and I feel fantastic .... But im not stupid. I have a weakness for alcohol and I Cld easily fall off this bus at any point but I will jump straight back on grateful that I won't be judged for my stupidity. If anything I truly believe this bus helps many cut down even if they don't stop altogether and even cutting down is an achievment. If I decided one night I was gonna have a drink I totally believe Id keep thinking about this bus and NOT allow myself to drink anything stronger than a shandy and seriously try my best to stay as sober as I can xxx

Hi halle sorry probably wasn't clear, I only drink in the morning on when I'm working nights, so it's my evening if that makes sense. X

Sorry, running late for work so can't post more but welcome cauliflower and hi to everyone else!

Ah right Elba, I get you now xx how is everyone else tonight? Still not touched a drink super happy about this, altho im still taking my meds. Don't know how I will cope coming off them xxx

Hello.
I love the idea of 'the boing'. I'd like to be in that place! Yes halle I'm married. DH drinks a bit but I hide away and drink on my own.
Hello cauliflower. I'm starting out again too. It's so easy to beat yourself up. I know I can do AF but I just can't sustain it.
Am going to try for an AF June if anyone wants to join me. It's got to be easier with a bit of moral support from those trying to do the same.
Is anyone else on meds to support staying AF? I have them but they give me really black moods so I struggle to take them.
I'd love to know from anyone who has a decentamount of sobriety under their belt, what it was that made it click for them x

I don't know what to do, I think I want to be AF but then I have a family holiday next week with extended family. None of them big drinkers and no bad influences. I know I'll be fine with the odd bottle of beer or glass of wine and will be reassured by my own restraint. It's only about twice a year I lose it, but that twice a year is enough to make me not want to ever drink. I need to make some proper decisions, at the moment it seems very much influenced by who I drink with.

I personally wouldn't be to worried if I only got extremely drunk and couldn't control
Myself once or twice a year. I wish it was only once or twice a year for me lol xxx