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Brave Babes Battle Bus is Racing Along.....

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venusandmars · 23/04/2016 23:52

Our lovely mouseface usually starts these threads but I've just noticed that the previous one is almost full, so I'm facing technology and get the next one set up.

Anyone, absolutely anyone, who feels they have a problem with drink is welcome here. Whether you're trying to stop, or cut down a little, whether you've been sober for years, or even if you're too scared even to contemplate what is happening. If you think it will help you to post, or lurk, then please do.

There's often a lot of nonsense and banter, but lots of good sound advice.

And there is always lots of support and care and no judgement.

This is the link to the previous thread, if you want to read what's been going on so far The Previous Thread

And this is the link to JesusWhatNext 's original thread started 6 years ago The Original Thread

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WillAndDisgrace · 30/04/2016 18:40

I'm so low :(

WillAndDisgrace · 30/04/2016 18:41

I don't want to be here but for my boy

WillAndDisgrace · 30/04/2016 18:41

I have no one. Not one friend

WillAndDisgrace · 30/04/2016 18:42

Who the fuck do you call in this situation

WillAndDisgrace · 30/04/2016 18:43

I think I need to call the Samaritans

dementedma · 30/04/2016 18:44

will call them if you think it will help. Talk to someone. Don't drink to oblivion

WillAndDisgrace · 30/04/2016 18:46

The web number doesn't work :(

WillAndDisgrace · 30/04/2016 18:46

I'm so upset

laladidah · 30/04/2016 18:47

will I will echo what ma Says. You poor thing. Here if you need to talk xxx

WillAndDisgrace · 30/04/2016 18:47

I can't stop crying, my boy is here and DH has gone

WillAndDisgrace · 30/04/2016 18:49

Xx

WillAndDisgrace · 30/04/2016 18:50

It's so stupid

laladidah · 30/04/2016 18:50

will can you talk please... I am worried about ...

WillAndDisgrace · 30/04/2016 18:52

This is a man who beat me and stood on my neck....and I just want his love

WillAndDisgrace · 30/04/2016 18:52

I'm my own worst enemy

laladidah · 30/04/2016 18:53

will you beauty. Is there somewhere else you can go? Please darling, even if you are drunk...

WillAndDisgrace · 30/04/2016 18:54

He's still on probation for it, yet I'm the one bending over backwards

laladidah · 30/04/2016 18:54

If I remember correctly, you are in London??

WillAndDisgrace · 30/04/2016 18:55

No lala, you sweet thing X not tonight I can't . I'm not I danger now anyway

WillAndDisgrace · 30/04/2016 18:57

Sorry babes.... X

laladidah · 30/04/2016 19:03

Listen lovely... I was in an abusive relationship, he raked his fingernails down my face, and then tried to deny it. He also picked me up and threw me across the room, on mAng an occasion.

If you have the chance to get out, then go go go! I know it's easier said than done... Ok talking terms to DP and he has promised not to drink. He is a lying bugger. He won't be back to the end of May..

Anyway. Please stay strong

dementedma · 30/04/2016 19:10

will there is always hope. Please try not to get too smashed tonight. Can you got to bed now?

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venusandmars · 30/04/2016 19:11

Oh will you poor love this is the Samaritans link - you can call or email

At a time like this you just have to manage from moment to moment. THIS moment, NOW you are alive and awake with dc who loves you and needs you. Hold on to that.

You know logically and rationally that this man is not for you - but we are not here to tell you to leave him, or to criticise any decision you have made. We are here to support YOU, to help you get through this awful, awful moment, to give you a space where you can feel safe to say whatever you need to say. Throw it all out here.

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venusandmars · 30/04/2016 19:20

ma so sorry for your dd what a shitty thing to happen. My nephew and his gf split after 4 years together and then they got back together, and now are married. They just needed a little space to grow up - each on their own. And my dd's boyfriend split with her after they'd been together for 18 months. He was just scared by the commitment - getting into something before he'd realised how deep it was. I know dd was gutted, but I think also it was a brave decision for him - better than going on and on and getting married if that wasn't what he wanted.

I remember many thousands of years ago when I was young, and I split up with a boyfriend, not because I didn't like him, or get on with him, or even love him (in a way) but because I just could see myself being happily married to him for the rest of my life. I recall telling my Mum that I didn't think I could split up with him because I didn't have 'reason' and she said that intuitively knowing that we'd not be happy long term was a good enough reason. (thank you Mum x). But I bet my exbf's Mum was feeling like you right now.... hugs to you all.

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ClaretAndBlue30 · 30/04/2016 19:25

A hand grenade does sound useful lala. Hope you are ok will, don't know what to say other than we all care about you so never think you don't have somewhere to turn. I know we're just faceless names on the internet but I for one, definitely feel concern and worry for anyone struggling on here.

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