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I found out I'm pregnant after a break up and today spoke to my ex...

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helpisneeded96 · 23/04/2016 02:05

To cut a long story short; my ex dumped me out of the blue 2 months ago, maybe a little less than this. He gave me no excuse other than he was unhappy and had forced the relationship for too long. This was all new to me because he never said anything about being unhappy. It was like he wanted the relationship to 'just end' without thought for reconsideration. He's 23 and I'm 22.

Anyway yesterday after many tests and hospital visits I found out I was pregnant. My ex had refused to speak to me on every form of social media so I had to get my own MOTHER to break the news to him. How embarrassing?

At first he claimed the child wasn't his, he then told my mother to put me on the phone. I spoke to him in private for about 2-3 hours. He kept asking for proof that I was pregnant which I told him I would give him, he then launched into plain and simple abuse about our past relationship even though I was the innocent party. He told me that I had treated him badly for 4.5 years - this wasn't true at all. I can count on one hand the amount of times we argued.
He then went on to tell me he DISLIKED me, why would he dislike me when I've done nothing wrong to him? He broke up with me. Hearing all of this broke my heart even further because I don't need this kind of abuse when I'm pregnant.

He then went on to tell me that he had been informed I was 'seeing someone new' I asked him who had told him this as it wasn't true and he just laughed. I asked him again and he laughed at me again, refusing to tell me. He then went on to mention a guys name who I've had a brief fling with during this 2 months (Sort of a rebound) and told me he'd been looking through his profile as we spoke. He kept laughing at the poor guy and making comments. He said to me "When I found out I felt really, really bad and kind of jealous, but still I don't want you back - I never even want to see you again"

Now we've established a date for him to come and see the midwife with my next month and I'm terrified. I think a part of my heart will always hold onto him coming back to me, but from all of this I honestly don't think he will. It was a complete blow to my face when he told me he didn't like me as a person and that he never wanted to see me again.
What do you guys think? I don't know what to do. Thanks.

OP posts:
Northernlass101 · 28/04/2019 17:21

This won't be a popular opinion but I don't get why people keep babies in situations like this?

You are only 22!!! And by the sounds of it have no support from the father? Why bring a baby into a unsettled world.

You need to think about this as it will effect you for the rest of your life.

sha1414 · 28/04/2019 17:32

yes thats exactly what's on my mind. but im afraid if i abort this time will it affect my health? as ive done abortion 5times already.. im scared of my health..

magoria · 28/04/2019 17:36

sha1414 you need to start a new thread.

People are going to read and reply to the OP in this not yourself.

Only you can decide if you want to keep this baby. You can tell your ex now and be prepared for in the worst case hassle all the way through the pregnancy or you can tell him when the baby arrives.

sha1414 · 28/04/2019 17:46

im not considering to keep the baby. i don't want to affect the baby's life and mine. i got no support by my side as well. if i speak to my ex about this he will definitely not do anything to keep me or baby well taken care off. he will mentally stress me out more! he might even say its not his child n back out.. should i just go ahead n try taking pills to self abort? as my pregnancy is still early..

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