So....can I ask my electrician for his phone number?

[TrafficJunkie]

Or is there an etiquette which means he's not allowed to do that sort of thing? :)

ThisIsTheRightTime "fun and frivolous" is perfect. Desperate is not very attractive

Com' on TrafficJunkie! We're all holding our collective breath!

I read this thread last week, and want to add my support to the "be direct" approach, several reasons:

He's doing a professional job - it wouldn't do his reputation much good if he misread signs from a customer, asked her out and she took offence - so if I were him, I'd play safe unless 100% sure.

If he says no, it just means he doesn't want to go for a drink with you. It doesn't mean you're ugly/unattractive/whatever you might fear.

Even if he says no, surely he would be flattered? I always turn this around - if someone asked me out, and I said no, would I think less of them? No, I'd think they were brave, and I'd respect them for it.

If he says no, you don't have to see him again.

If he says yes, you'll have a date to look forward to.

Two years ago, I was in a similar situation to you. I knew two different men, and quite fancied them both. So I contacted them both, and asked directly if they would like to go out for a drink/date with me. One very nicely said no thanks, and has remained very friendly whenever I've seen him since. He just didn't want to get involved with someone who had kids - fair enough. The other was really chuffed, and said he'd been plucking up the courage to ask me the same question. We're now engaged and planning a wedding.

Take the plunge!

What a heartwarming story willconcern!

So, willconcern my car mechanic, who gave me a few clear signs earlier in spring which I didn't pick up on at the time, (I wasn't ready) might be worried to take a risk with a client too, then, incase he got it wrong?

When he comes round next week to take a look at the car I want to sell, how should I play it?

Perhaps I should take up nail biting. Seriously this is so much fun though!

Thisistherighttime* - well he might be, or he might just be shy, or he might be a bit tongue tied when with you (DP said he was!).

I'd ask him how he's been, and just ask outright! What do you have to lose, really?

willconcern what would you have done if they both said "yes"

DrMorbius hey I'm on that thread!! ;)

But thanks - yes I am too invested in success. I guess it really doesn't matter too much though. I actually went on a date today with a guy I asked out (over the internet though, not face to face) and as it was successful I feel more brave! So, i'm just going to give it a go!

Last update: I couldn't rebook, so he has to come tomorrow. The one they are sending (and it didn't sound like there was more than one covering my area) is on annual leave soon after so makes appointment times awkward. So, house has been spruced and i will be up early to dress nicely enough to be asking someone for their number (not in my jammies like last time!!) and I'll ask him when I get back from the school run. The job will apparently take betwen 1 hour to 3 hours - so he'll at least be here still when I return :)

Oooh this is so exciting!

BLOODY HELL TrafficJunkie, I'm so excited! Pressure, pressure!

Hahaha. Yeah a bit!!! Let's hope it's A) the same one and B) I get a chance to ask him!

DrMorbius I'm on the dating thread.
I certainly am not a last chance saloon Sally or a basket case! I like to think of myself as pretty decent catch and of sound mind.

Lets hope you amps are high ;)

This will amuse him;!.

"The national grid it came to pass
Its wires were made of brass,
In windy weather they'd flash together,
And sparks flew out of its arse!"

DrMorbius you gave pretty sound advice before you went on about the dating thread. But then I am on there so what do I know. I am curious though as to what kind of label you would put on someone who voluntarily goes through pages and pages of stuff he/she despises?

ThisIsTheRightTime do drop by and make up your own opinion! All welcome. Even the "last chance saloon Sallys", the "basket cases" and the "not really dating". We don't discriminate. Or judge. Unlike some.

Go TrafficJunkie, I am very impressed! Fingers crossed it works out!

Thank you JollyXmasJumper! Good for you for not judging! A rare quality these days.

just read this thread from the start....how exciting!

Good luck Traffic. Really hope you pluck up the courage to ask him out, and hope even more that he says yes!

You have nothing to lose at all....go for it!

Apologies to all the ladies on the dating thread. My comment was really just light hearted. On reflection it was not very funny.

Jolly I said "I stumbled across the thread", no mention of going through pages and pages. Also I never used the word despises, I said "hilarious". As I said my comment was light hearted miss judged but not intended to hurt.

That said, two themes came across to me, when reading the thread.
A) the women people on the thread, treat men like aliens and seem to have very little knowledge of men or their actions.
B) spend an inordinate amount of time analysing and assigning rational to trivial things. Eg - How long he took to respond to a text, did he say good night, how did he say good night etc etc.

Is today the day Traffic?

And ThisIsTheRightTime don't be put off by DrMobius' idiotic statement about the dating thread. We're all pretty awesome on there, and even if you're not dating you're welcome to join us!

Apology accepted DrMobius
Allow me to answer your points:

1. as has already been mentioned, most men are clueless about subtle flirting, men and women are different so of course we're not going to understand how men function, we're not men

2. overanalysing is kind of what we do best. It's stupid, ultimately pointless and frustrating, but it happens.

Apologies for the sweeping generalisations there, obviously I can only really answer for myself.

Ooh, the big day dawns.

Just place-marking seconding the people who said Do Not Be Subtle. Especially do not give him your number under a pretext and hope he takes the hint.

A man who makes unsolicited advances to a single mother whose house he's been working in would be on very dodgy territory. There have been threads about "my Asda delivery bloke asked me for a date!" Before and the recipients have been universally freaked out and felt threatened.

It is for you to make it blatantly clear that you are interested, by saying "would you like to go out for a drink sometime, here's my number"

Good luck.

MyGastIsFlabbered men are easy to understand. Think like a 8-year old in an adults body and you are 90% there.

I have one thing to add. I was impressed by the dignity and optimism of the posters on the dating thread, in cases when they had been treated rather badly.

Traffic forget subtlety go for the visual "killer look", short skirt, high heels, or totally the opposite. Wear short tight gym kit if you can pull it off (the look not the clothes ) Good Luck.

Yes he is here right now :) ah he's so pretty. 😂
He will still be here when I get back he said, so I'll ask him then! I can't make small talk right now - the kids will just join in!

Fingers crossed !!!

This is so exciting! I'm just starting to date again after an LTR so I'm loving this! Go Traffic!!!!

Ooh how thrilling. Hope it goes well op!