So....can I ask my electrician for his phone number?

[TrafficJunkie]

Or is there an etiquette which means he's not allowed to do that sort of thing? :)

Well, I wasn't expecting that!

Blimey! I think it sounds super creepy too!

Ahhh, maybe you are all right, then, ChipsandGuac, Horsemad, BasinHaircut, etc. Thank you for offering me a new perspective on things. Thank goodness for Mumsnet! So, what exactly is creepy about it? My head is muddled and I need clarity.

I've been away and very busy!!

No call at all this week. Poooooo. Bit shit!!! He obviously knows it's nothing to do with the job and has decided not to call because he's scared of what I'll ask 😂😂
Never mind.
I'm not going to call again because that would be weird. Maybe next time I need an electrician it'll be him!

righttime sounds like you had fun!! Doesn't sound creepy. You weren't plied with alcohol you willingly accepted it. They did nothing untoward and actually very sensibly drove you home after.
Sounds fine to me.
But I think he does fancy you, so you should call up the garage, speak to him on the phone and ask him!

Traffic, I think the office woman has never passed on your message! I'd tyry to call again and be more assertive with her asking that he calls you - say you need to know hot to operate or maintain whatever he's repaired.

This, not creepy - sounds social and relaxed, very typical in France! The only thing that's off it that the married garage boss was hitting on you, but I'm sure if he continues you can put him straight politely ha! the Mechanic does fancy you I think- but as he's switching GFs it sounds like he's after a bit of fun with attarctive women to take his mind off his GF - mind you, often it starts that way and then if the new woman is right the healing process speeds up magically! Alterantively if you also just want a little fling, you could suit each other very well - and then again who knows where that goes, When he picks up your Jag, see if he is a bit more forward after you getting more relaxed and closer yesterday.

Oh man op was hoping for a happy ending. My Dh is a gas engineer that works for a big company that has social housing contracts across the country it's not J.T is it?!

No its CHG.

Now I'm waiting for righttime to update us!!!

I don't know that I can call back monkey wouldn't it be a bit odd? Also he only replaced a valve on my got water tank pipes or something - nothing at all that I need to touch and I know that - I don't want to come across as some idiotic bimbo!!😂😂

Don't call back that would be odd and in danger of looking like a stalker.

imagine if she has passed the message on and you called her up 'assertively' telling her to pass the message on. Embarrassing!

Sorry he probably did get the message but hasn't acted on it for whatever reason. Onwards and upwards!

Ooh. Righttine....sounds promising! Look forward to hearing your next instalment! 😊

Traffic....might your sparky have left a screwdriver or something that you need to return to him? You could phone again and let them know that.

Then when he pops in and says it's not his, you can pretend that the washing machine fixer must have left it?

I dunno.

I really wanted this to have a happily ever after!

it's not embarassing, Pam - I don't mean she needs to be agressive, but she could phone and say that she's never heard from him so she's not sure whether the message got passed on or not! The point is, he hasn't called so it's hardly strange or stalkerish when THEY are being unprofessional and not getting back to the customer or not passing the message on! The woman may have simply forgotten and maybe be apologetic about it even. And by 'assertive' I don't mean shouty , just to let them know that whatever she asked for, wasn't done - calmly obviously!

Op yes, it's a shame it's not a whole boiler repair - you could have asked how to adjust hot water temp or something. Maybe you have some other small issue (not for repair but just to ask advice on?). Unless you've cooled off and now you are 'meh' about him, I can't see what do you have to lose by trying once more.

I just came to this thread, read it through thinking... I wonder if it is CHG.
I used to work for them.
I think the ladies in the Office would almost definitely have twigged, they are a quick bunch.
Now I am trying to work out if I know who it is from your description, but I didn't know the electricians overly well.

Good morning Chimchar, LovePGtips and TrafficJunkie! So good to get some positive feedback from you. Hand on heart, all four chaps treated me with respect in their own sweet way. Nothing sordid and creepy about it at all.

I think car mechanic chap has found a way into my head. He drives my car, enters my home and gets undressed in front of my eyes! Clever sod! I can see the poor thing is hung up still on his ex breaking up but he is being completely respectful towards me in his behaviour. I'm old enough to take things for what they are. I have few expectations.

Interesting point here (well only in a minor way). A couple of friends here in France said that him getting undressed (stripped to his underwear) whilst I was in the room was obvious flirting. I immediately responded to them by saying that no, on the contrary, he was at work, in his environment doing the usual after a day's work; changing into his jeans and t-shirt without caring whether I was there or not. My friends replied if that were the case he'd have done it more discretely in another corner, somewhere.... Hmmm .... Any opinions? Yes, I do feel like a fifteen year old!

I can see your point, OP - if it seems very casual (him undressing) then it could appear as if he's just going about his usual routine. Shame you don't know where does he usually undress, ha - for comparison. Did he catch your eye just before/just after/DURING!? If not, I wouldn't read too much into this specufucally but he still does fancy you!

Traffic, I think the issue with 'he left an instrument at my place' is, that the office can phone him and ask if he had any intstruments somewhere last week - without even mentioning you first - and then of course he says 'no' as he'd noticed, and then te office will ring you to say he hasn't. Or if they do mention it's you asking, then he''ll feel awkward - lie and say 'yes I ve left something' - if he immediately twiggs that you are after something else, or even if he says 'let me check' he will know there and dthen that you are interested. NOthing wrong with that one but the 1st scenarion no good.
Btw you really shouldn't care what an office woman thinks about you (she can't know anything for sure anyway) but even if she thought you were asking silly questions, who cares, you know what you aer doing and he will certainly know that you aer not a bimbo but just wanted a pretext to speak to him. And that's another part of being more assertive, just do what you WANT to do, you are not harming anyone. Asking someone out is always potentially embarassing - a person can always tell others in the office, but so what tbh? you are never going to see them. Hopefully he's a good person and keeps it to himself of course - and responds! If you weigh up the worst and the best outcomes, it's worth it risking a bit of embarassment.

sorry, I meant This, not 'OP' in the first paragraph.

*undresses

also words missing in second part - sorry, hope you get the gist!

The other chap got undressed discretely in the corner behind the wall, out of sight. Yes, he did look at me... LovePGtips as he was joking about something. I recall that now. But I still maintain my opinion. Besides, he's a good-looking guy with nothing to hide!

ah so there was a wall to undress behind! yes, definitely flirting then, but also you ar right that he doesn't see it as a big deal - comes easy to him haha.. Showing you what's on offer - he's obviously confident sexually even though possibly not emotionally after GF left.

Never in a million years could I imagine the guys at my place stripping off in front of me!
Why would he think this was in any way normal?

So opinions are divided to some extent on this fundamental matter then CotedePablo and LovePGtips! What line of work are you in CotedePablo? Maybe a male environment such as their's - a little like men's locker rooms - breeds that kind of thing? To do it in front of a woman he hardly knows is nonchalant and a bit overt too, no?

My line of work? What's that got to do with it?

Sorry CotedePablo I must have misunderstood your comment. I didn't mean to be indiscrete. Being French I don't always understand the tone of things.

Just ask if he's single, if he says he is give him your number, if he's in a relationship then tell him that doesn't surprise you. Either way he'll be flattered and you'll know.

If he's single, interested and has your number then he'll call.