So....can I ask my electrician for his phone number?

[TrafficJunkie]

Or is there an etiquette which means he's not allowed to do that sort of thing? :)

Another one with an electrician DP! You could go with the old one, is that a screwdriver in your pocket or are you just happy to see me.

I'm quite sure you are neither sad nor desperate TrafficJunkie!

I've 'known' my mechanic for over a year now. Recently I've been feeling the vibes; sustained eye contact, lots of smiles, a bit of teasing and hand touching. My car window wouldn't close this week (very practical when driving in the pouring rain on the motorway, as you can imagine) so off I drove to see him! Kind of hard to know when he's getting on with the job in hand how he feels about me and I tend to get a little quiet in those moments. There's no in-your-face flirting but he keeps talking to me as he's wrenching my car door off! I know he's not married and has no children but I don't know for sure if he's single or not.

I have a car at home which I need to sell and he readily agreed to come over and check it out for me (it's not insured so I cannot drive it to the garage ) He asked me to call him up after May 8th to fix a time as they will be on holiday from 1-8 May.

Anyway, all this just to let you know I think I understand how you feel!

ooh he deffo likes you righttime you should ask him out. :) Invite him to stay for a coffee after he's checked our you car. ;)

Pathetic question for you all. If a guy likes you will he flirt all the time? It kind of feels to my confused mind that when he's working he's focused on the job in hand and when he's not he's sending out signals. Or am I just being delusional?

muddlewitch i dont know. sometime early next week - its quite an important thing to do with my boiler or something.

nah, rightime it sounds like he at least thinks you're attractive. does he try to impress you? does he try to make you laugh?

and no, he won't flirt all the time if he has an important job to do.

I'm so stressed just thinking about it though TrafficJunkie I'm really not sure what to think. The last few times when I saw him (I don't spend all my life at the garage as I have three children and a job to tend too ) I was really picking up on something but I'm just so, so bad at flirting back when I'm attracted to someone. Honestly, I'm hopeless.

He seemed happy to see me yesterday (after three whole weeks ) but he was not obviously flirting with me. Agghhhh! I'm confused.

It's so much easier to encourage you to make a move than to make it myself.

haha don't tell me. :) I'm the same with Electricman. Well, I would urge you to ask for his number. You could say you'd like to text him to arrange him coming to help you out with your other car. Then, when you have his number you can text him a few times unrelated to the car and see how he responds. If he responds well, you can get a bit flirty and then see what he does. baby steps if you're rubbish at flirting. i (apparently) have quite a flirty disposition naturally - but as soon as I want to turn the charm on for specific results, I'm totally rubbish.
But, i can tell you that a few hair swishes and touching his arm will let him know that you definitely want him - and then he should do all the work from there onwards. :)

He's not a really chatty type TrafficJunkie but yes he did try to make me laugh a little (although jokes about the weather in England - I live in France - tend to wear a little thin for me but he's not to know that, I guess ) and I'll be honest with you I'm a sucker for a man who's good at his job. It gets me every time!

I am so looking forward to the next appointment with your electrician!

I think I should try and find out if he's got a girlfriend or not first before attempting the hair swishing thing, no? What are you going to do?

I'm seriously laughing at myself for having a crush on a younger than me mechanic.

Can you (both of you) not say "Oh, I bet your partner finds it handy having an electrician / mechanic on call whenever they need one?", nonchalantly whilst handing him a cuppa. If he smiles or nods or says yes, etc., you know he's in a relationship, and if he says "I'm not going out with anyone at the moment/ I'm not married / Don't have a partner / etc" then there's your chance to say - "Oh, nor am I. I'll let you have my number and we could go for a drink some time if you're interested." Leave your number on a card / bit of paper, and exit the room. You've then let him know you're available and interested without having the embarrassing face to face contact ongoing if he's not.

And yes, I'm a naturally flirty person too TrafficJunkie but I clam up with the right person.

Your appointment is next week?

I'm off to work. I'll be watching this thread with bated breath. Meanwhile, keep dreaming!

BackforGood, you are a genius. Perhaps you could come and say those words for both TrafficJunkie and I?

BackforGood well put. Personally subtle flirting I would miss altogether. Full on flirting, freaks me out. To me it looks like Jack Nicholson in a woman's body.

rightime yes please. haha. Backforgood I really really like your idea!! I'm going to write my number on a piece of paper and have it waiting in my pocket. (Or is that too "i do this all the time"??) but that is a perfect thing to say, it really is!! i can easily say that without feeling weird. And it gives him a total get out if he doesn't like me by pretending he has a gf.
Although he did refuse a cuppa last time he was here, but i can make myself one whilst he's fumbling with my boiler.
He did speak to my kids, which I thought was sweet. Some tradesmen ignore them completely :)

I shall update the moment I get a call from the HQ. :)

righttime nothing wrong with a younger bit. electricman is also younger than me, i'd have to reasonably assume. :) So I think we should be both try backs suggestion - if its fruitful we can hair swish to our hearts delight. As long as we dont get him in the eye. :) Ive done that before.

Here's my advice op. Say to him, "I seen you in town with your wife last week", if he says he's not married say "oh it must have been your girlfriend". If he says he doesn't have a girlfriend go for it!!!

Shamelessly placemarking!

I really hope that both of you have exciting news to report back soon about your respective electrician/mechanic!

Happy weekend to you DrSausagedog! If things go according to plan TrafficJunkie will be the first back with something to tell! I'm so glad I found this thread. A dose of refreshing optimism does so much good.

I can't even cope with waiting to see what happens here

Oh this is too weird. Electrician gave me his number last week . Though I haven't followed it up because he's not really my type typical bearded tattooed hipster. Must be an electrician thing .

Go for it, you have fuck all to lose. Worst that will happen is he says he has a girlfriend/wife. You haven't lost anything either way plus I always find it gives you a confidence boost going out and asking for what you want. Men really do appreciate that level of confidence in a woman.

As Back says definitely do the line about "I bet your partner finds it handy" and take it from there...

However if he doesn't say yes or no (which he may do) then be careful as he could just be after sex or not want to say either way.

How often have you spoken to him and what about? Could you find out where he lives and then maybe say something like "I heard that pub there is really nice do you know it?" And wait for him to maybe chat about it and lead on to an asking out. Also really get to know him, quite a bit of chat so he knows enough about you to know you're not a sex mad housewife or a bunny boiler and also that you have stuff in common. He may also not know you're single either.

Nothing wrong in also putting on a prettier top, bit of bright lipstick etc, jewellery that is a talking point.

Just to give you some encouragement, traffic I have had my eye on someone at work for ages and last week i plucked up the courage and asked him out. Without missing a beat he said yes so I gave him my number. As one of my friends pointed out, getting him to call me then puts him back in the dating driving seat, so to speak.

But, yes, the embarrassment I felt was enormous!!!!! But the ego boost on both sides must be worth it.

incidentally, he hasn't called yet; which is the downside of a scheme like this - waiting by the phone for days...

:) it's a amazing that everyone's getting so excited 😂😂 I haven't spoken to him much at all. When he pulled up I was still in my PJs so I got my eldest to let him in whilst I got dressed. I took AGES because I had seen he was pretty (haha) only to find him waiting at the bottom of the stairs for permission to start! 😳
Brief chat about why he was there and then he set to work. I was busy wrangling my 4 kids ready for school as we had to leave literally 10 minutes later. I offered him a cuppa which he politely refused and then I asked if he was ok with locking up if I wasn't back in time.

I decided not to hurry home after school and I went to grab a takeaway coffee and arrived back at 9.45. He was waiting in his van. Then we talked about the electrics thing, with my lingering eye contact and smiling and I think I saw a small flirty smile but it could have been wishful thinking (hence why I didn't mention it before) or maybe he was nervous cos he picked up what I was doing?! Ha.
Then he said they'd call me to arrange the next visit (beyond his control) And then he left. I did a weird a faffing with the curtains thing to see if he'd glance back before he moved off, but he didn't.

And that's it. In all its glorious nothingness. 😂😂

soggy that's brave, well done!!! I'm worried I'm not his type....He's all fit and stuff and I'm on the curvy side! What if he thinks "oh no, the fat chick is asking me out?"