To realise that dp is a nasty abusive shit

[midlifehope]

Lying here feeling very ill with headache and cough - been sweating all night. Asked dp to bring me a cold drink as I can't stand the light so can't get up. Have asked about 6 times. He hasn't bothered.

So what next for you?
What is the living situation?
Can you get out of this easily?
Do you have kids together?

Nothing

Does he know you're ill? How are you managing to post if you can't stand the light?

I think if you can post on mumsnet then you can get your own water and while you're at it show your uncaring husband the door.

I can't see it's possible to make a judgement based on the op.

Stick some sunglasses on and get you own water. He clearly won't do it for you.

How are you managing to post if you can't stand the light?

Good point.

Can't get out easily - 2 DCs house together etc

Unless there's a lot more to this than you've posted I think this is actually in pretty poor taste and is quite offensive to people who genuinely are in abusive relationships.

Someone who can manage to use the Internet could surely stand the light enough to get a drink.

Light from a tiny screen is not same as massive light from
Window. Anyway I'm not being abused twice. Floods of tears here. Bye

Well ay least you know he wont mind fending for himself when he's poorly. It doesn't look like he's going to look after you.

Hope you're on the mend

Bit of a knobber maybe, but wouldn't go as far as to call him abusive unless there's a lot more to this.

What's the backstory here, OP?

If there is a lot more to it than you've said then AIBU is not the place for help- try relationships.

Wow'! Aren't most of you just fucking lovely!

Scared off a sick & very upset poster with your nitpicking.

Well done.

Op I hope you feel better soon. Sometimes it takes a small thing like this to realise that your partner doesn't actually give a shit, it can be a real lightbulb moment. Mine was something similar and after years of being treated badly, that small thing was the straw that broke the camels back so to speak. If you come back to thread I'm sure there will be some positive support for you

Am I missing something here? Don't get me wrong, your partner sounds like an arse at the moment - however in the context you have given 'nasty, abusive shit' seems a bit dramatic. Hope you feel better soon.

midlifehope,

Hope you're alright? You're right, and it's not just a light "thing". It's the lifting head off pillow, rising from bed, walking downstairs etc. Just gather up your strength and fetch a container of water and some fruit up beside you. Possibly painkillers also.

Address this when you're stronger. I've had some sort of virus this past 2 weeks, and it's thrown my emotional wellbeing up the spout.

Wow'! Aren't most of you just fucking lovely!

You can't go around calling someone abusive because they won't get you a drink.

There may be a back story, but OP hasn't said either way.

midlife try posting in relationships.

I'm assuming this is one example of consistent behaviour to make you think it's abuse?

I know this is AIBU, but is there any need for some of you to sound
quite so bracing?

Thanks Yorksa he has now driven off leaving me too look after a 6 month old and 4 year old. I can hardly get my head off pillow