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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Springing Into Some Warmer Weather, Staying Sober Togeher

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Mouseface · 30/03/2016 00:05

Hi, tis me, Mouse

Welcome to the Bus. We're delighted to have you here :) Not because if you're new to the Babes you are here for help, but because we welcome every kind of drinker. And for all of the reasons life throws at you.

Those that do drink, those that don't drink and of course those who do but don't want to say just how much..............

We've all had our own personal Groundhog Day , some still are and don't want to remain trapped in the same cycle day in, day out, and some still are and want to be which is fine and why we're here.

To talk, to listen, to just be us, like you are YOU. You never know, one day you might just want to wake up on a different day? :) There's no judging here, no 'sides.

After all, something made you click on and read this :)

Come say hi! We even do Brew & Cake if you're super quick!!

And if you want to see what we got up to in the last thread, have a look RIGHT HERE

And this is where our adventure began, almost six years ago now!!

ALMOST SIX YEARS AGO...........

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Bloodybloodyhell · 11/04/2016 07:11

Morning all. And thanks for the encouragement.

Feeling a bit rough, but I'm awake - and...

TODAY, I WILL NOT BE DRINKING.

Willanddisgrace, I will check in later and maybe claim one of those stars, if that's Ok?!

Good luck to everyone else too. New week, new start...?!

ClaretAndBlue30 · 11/04/2016 07:49

I'll have one of those will ta!

bloody I second that. TODAY I WILL NOT DRINK.

elba thinking of you. Keep us posted.

isinde for what it's worth I think you're fab for climbing back onto the bus, clinging on to the sidecar, regardless of what life throws at you. Many many people wouldn't have. That just shows your love for your dts.

Happy Mondays all.

WillAndDisgrace · 11/04/2016 08:08

Thats the apirit bloodyhell! Is your DS back at school today? If not it's a lovely day to get out for one last ay of fun!

Here you go claret Star

soberisthenewblack168 · 11/04/2016 08:34

Morning all sorry to have disappeared. Dealing with my narc DM is draining me. Since her diagnosis she has become v clingy and v scared which I am struggling with as she is asking me to support her in ways which she never could support me. Managing a few AF days as I am worried about losing the plot. Great to see everyone posting again . I am with you all in spirit 😀😀
WillAndDisgrace love the name........do you know MIFLAW is a man and his name means Man I Feel Like AWoman..........another great name.

Paffle · 11/04/2016 08:48

Well done to all AF day 1s. StarCake

Those who didn't manage it, we've all been there. Being hard on yourself wil make it more difficult IME. Be gentle, forgive yourself, remind yourself that you are worth it. Xxx

ClaretAndBlue30 · 11/04/2016 09:43

Thanks paffle wow 7 years! Amazing.

I am battling with my anxiety today - which I know will disappear in a flash once I have a day af under my belt. So today is a day to endure knowing tomorrow will be a lot brighter.

Rarity75 · 11/04/2016 09:58

New poster. Did my first AF day yesterday after a massive session on Saturday.
Don't like who it makes me, don't like losing control. I need to be in control not the drink.
Fingers crossed, first time I've addressed this as a problem. First time I've sought support.

ClaretAndBlue30 · 11/04/2016 10:01

Welcome rarity you've come to the right place. as I always say; be kind to yourself today and pat yourself on the back for making the first step to addressing your issues.

Rarity75 · 11/04/2016 10:02

Thank you claret.

WillAndDisgrace · 11/04/2016 10:04

Hello Rarity and welcome. Well done on your AF day....lots of support here from fab ladies Flowers

Rarity75 · 11/04/2016 10:10

Thank you will
I feel quite nauseous today, think I'm still not right from Saturday

ClaretAndBlue30 · 11/04/2016 10:24

It can take a few days I find. Lots of water and pampering Flowers

Rarity75 · 11/04/2016 10:34

I am drinking tea by the bucketload and I can't face food Confused

ClaretAndBlue30 · 11/04/2016 10:43

When you're ready some toast or fruit will probably make you feel better. If you can, take a nap, it'll help you recoup. If not get to bed nice and early tonight - I am aiming for 9pm and no later!!

Paffle · 11/04/2016 11:50

Well done rarity. You've done brilliantly to have an AF day and seeking help is a huge deal. Brew

Rarity75 · 11/04/2016 11:53

Realising I have a problem was massive for me. I don't drink excessively every day. But I do drink every day. And then every now and then I can't stop. I get horribly drunk. I'm always remorseful afterwards. But it's no way to live. Time for a change and a new me.

ClaretAndBlue30 · 11/04/2016 12:49

Rarity, you sound exactly like me - I drink regularly but not to huge excess (although still well over government guidelines) but then every so often I go out and get utterly obliterated - making a complete fool of myself and putting myself in very dangerous situations.

if I could keep the at home drinking at about 2 glasses and cut out all other drinking I'd be pleased. But I've been trying and failing at that for years now. However it's different now I have my little girl, I need to get sorted.

Rarity75 · 11/04/2016 12:56

Exactly claret ditto to the dangerous situations also. I've been very lucky over the years. I also have a DD she is 5. How old is yours?

Rarity75 · 11/04/2016 12:59

I stopped drinking much after I went onto antidepressants couple of years ago. Alcohol had become a really unhelpful coping mechanism. I drank heavily at home. Stopped after I accidently set my cooker on fire. Stupidly thought it was just because I was depressed.
I'm a lot better now but my use of alcohol has crept up again and is once again a problem.

ClaretAndBlue30 · 11/04/2016 13:01

It's the dangerous situations that really scare me - my most recent was last Tuesday, and I can barely remember how it happened.

Aw 5 is a lovely age Smile, mine is 18 months. I really want to conquer this before she can notice my drinking - she deserves better than that.

Rarity75 · 11/04/2016 13:08

It's living with yourself afterwards, and the looks of pity and worry from family/friends.
Are you ok now?

Elba84 · 11/04/2016 13:18

Shit shit shit bloods worrying. LFTs normal (doesn't actually mean a lot) but one of the haematology tests very abnormal. Liver/ drinking not mentioned by me or GP but liver disease and alcohol intake can occasionally be a cause, but lots of other potentially serious causes too. Just had more done and really worried about clotting as have been bruising so easily (which I have ignored). She's getting haematology input and I will know more on Friday. Told me to avoid doing my own research Sad but of course I'm going to. I know too much to not worry.

Stupid thing is I'm scared of being told to completely stop drinking...don't think I could at the moment. But have to make more effort to at least moderate and have AF days. The reality is that I could have completely buggered up by body, or it could be unrelated to alcohol but i will always blame myself for drinking.

Rarity75 · 11/04/2016 13:20

Elba Flowers fingers crossed

Tangfastics · 11/04/2016 13:27

I finally have an appointment with the alcohol nurse. Tomorrow 11am.

ClaretAndBlue30 · 11/04/2016 13:41

rarity that's good you managed to cut down before, hopefully you can use the same tools to help you this time. I'm ok, it was a bloody fright - but fortunately no-one knows about it (it was on the way home) so at least it wasn't humiliating as well as dangerous.

elba hope you're ok. As much as it probably doesn't feel like it, this might be for the best, they'll be able to help you should you need to cut back/cut out the alcohol, but try not to worry yourself before you get a proper diagnosis on Friday. Are you planning on tracking your units this week?