I have always sailed on the windy side of personality island...

[MissAlabamaWhitman]

And I don't feel as if I can commit to one person sexually, for life. Why should I?

Love you forever, definitely.
In sickness and in health, absolutely.
Till death do us part, unquestionably.

Forsaking all others? To be candid; probably not. Why would you expect me to?

What does it prove (or disprove)

Enlighten me.

Jez

Yes you did, but monogamy isn't entirely synonymous with fidelity.
Therin lies my lack of understanding.

Will you stop with the flowery, fake intellectual language. You're making a fool of yourself.

Yes you do have a lack of understanding. I have explained why society correlates fidelity and monogamy.

Pick up a book.

Your writing style is bloody annoying. You aren't as clever as you think you are.

Why are you talking like this anyway? You don't in your other threads.

I'm referring to the problems that you expressed when you said

"However as I now fully realise, I posted this question on the wrong board entirely if I wanted to garner any answers with more than a shred of objectivity, so my apologies for that."

Do you have a large vocabulary but little receptive language. My son has that. He knows a lot of words but simple sentences are a struggle.

In the sprit of enquiry I'm entirely content to do so fireside

God, you really are a boor. Yes, I did spell that properly.

Me:

Actually he also struggle to understand relationships.

Has your account been hacked op? Your older posts are normalish, the very recent ones are odd, like this one. Personality transplant?

That wasn't a problem which I was alluding to Cap. It was a mistake, which I apologised for.

I don't think my vocabulary is particularly extensive. I have Aspergers. I'm unsure of the exact extent of its impact on sentence structure, if indeed there is any.

It is you isn't it?
Russell?
Russell Brand?

I do love 'the windy side of personality island' though. Lol.

AgadorSpartacus You took the words right out of my mouth!

I'm quite enjoying your posting style, OP. But it has a certain flamboyance.

Well except it was a problem in that you expressed the belief that the choice of board is why you are not getting the answers you want. You are getting answers. You just hear them and then say 'but I don't understand'

My son is on the spectrum. He struggles to understand any perspective that differs from his.
Perhaps that's it. You are not able to accept simple explanations that are absoloutely clear to several other posters. It doesn,t make sense to you so you dismiss it.

My lack of understanding shouldn't be construed as dismissive.
I am not sufficiently arrogant to dismiss the experiences of a majority, no matter how illogical they continue to appear to me.

Sure.
But people have explained. So endlessly saying that you don't understand is dismissing the reasons they give.

There comes a point where you just have to accept that their choices just don't suit you and saying the flowery equivalent of 'I don't get it' is pointless and a bit rude.

People gave choices that make sense for them. They have been explained to you. You don't have to agree but that's pretty much it. Being sniffy about get biased replies because of the board you are on is wrong and rude.
You got replies. You just don't seem to be able to understand.

I don't believe it's sniffy to recognise the fallibility of posting regarding positive aspects of sexual infidelity on a board where the vast majority of posts are initiated by people who have been 'victims' of a spouse's infidelity and experience it as a great travesty.

I made a mistake by posting this here, it's difficult for other posters to be objective by virtue of their experiences. That is to be expected and it was remiss of me to not have taken this in to consideration.

I love with my mind, not my sexual organs

This I can relate to, but I can be pretty good at separating love from sex provided I know the rules of the particular relationship from day one. My concerns with being in an open relationship would be that my partner finds someone sexually more exciting than me. If that was coupled with a deep liking and respect for that person I think I'd be more than a little worried he'd become too emotionally attached and possibly go off with her. So monogamy is safer in that respect.

I came across this in active conversations. I did not register or care that it was in relationship and that had no effect whatsoever on my reply.
I have been very happily married for 27 years and have never dealt with any fall out from infidelity.

Your replies simply a reaction to your awkwardly worded op and your seeming dismissal of any opinion other than your own.
Something you continue to now do with me.

I think you're just having us on now.

Actually, thinking about it more I'd say that I very rarely treat sex as an expression of love. To me sex is adult playtime, something fun to do; affection and kindness are my expressions of love.

Please note Cap the difference between the seeming dismissal which is your experience of my replies and an actual one.

Ok. It's all working perfectly for you on here and it's just me misunderstanding.
You carry on then.