On line dating and (much) older men.

[coalfire]

I've tried so hard! I have rewritten my profile. I've put up smiley pictures. I am fifty and I have an age range of 46-58 for a possible mate. And yet ONLY MEN WHO ARE SIXTY PLUS CONTACT ME. With an average age of 65.

I don't want to have a seventy year old boyfriend in five years. I am sure there are lots of young seventy year olds. But as my last boyfriend was 36 it mean I will have effectively skipped over 35 years of men. by the time my kids are grown up I will have to start looking after my 75 year old partner.
I am not sure what to do. Or I am sure what to do. I should lie about my age. these men are no doubt lying about their age. Loads of them look around 101 anyway.
I am feeling so exhausted and cynical. I've been at this for months, and I think one 50 something has contacted me in this time.
What can I do? Any online dating sites you can recommend?

My friend is 6'3", attractive for 49, still has his hair! Nice teeth, job, apt, reasonable job, very easy going apart from being v fussy. .. anyway point is, all he is doung is firing out emails in to space. Very very low % of replies v v v few dates.

And he complains about internet dating. Ive had more success than he has had!!! Because not all men are as stupid as he is. Some men would like to go on a date at some point.

A new low. Sent a message to a man. Very innocuous but polite message. His age range included my age. Just. Very, very top end. (he is my age).
He read the message. Didn't look at my profile, and suddenly he disappeared though I can still see him in my messages, online and active.
Think he has hidden my profile! Without even bothering to read it!
This must be my all time low.
Went back and looked at my pictures. They are very innocuous.

He must really have found me hideous...

Oh Coalfire. I'm sure you're not hideous. Whatever reason he had, it just wasn't meant to be. I don't like smokers, people with weird age ranges, people who refer to women as girls. These things wouldn't bother others. Give yourself a break from it for a while.