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DRY 11

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TeapotDictator · 04/03/2016 12:08

Time for a shiny new thread.

Old thread here

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FuzzyWhiteLegs · 03/04/2016 10:27

Well done all, and welcome Stellar Smile

Lucy could you send some of your nice weather this way? We had one nice day last week and since then it's been grot! I want to go run off my winter fat blanket Grin

Oh yes, was it your blog Lucy that had a great link to the Zero alcohol awards? Some really useful info about what's out there, I'll try and post up the link later when I get a minute to find it.

Have a great day all! Don't forget to take care of yourselves - especially if you are in the first few days sober. Lots of vitamins, distractions & plan some sober treats, I really believe it's so important mentally and emotionally to look on this as something amazing you are doing for yourself, and treating yourself kindly is a big thing for many of us. Brew

FuzzyWhiteLegs · 03/04/2016 10:37

Oh! I made a fab mocktail last night :

1/3 Apple juice
2/3 Ginger beer
Squeeze fresh lime
Dash elderflower cordial
Mashed mint
Lots of crushed ice

Bloody lovely! I did a version for DD too without the fizzy (she doesn't like fizzy drinks Grin), and decorated them with straws and cocktail umbrellas, and we made pizzas - a perfect evening that I am damned sure would not have been any better for including alcohol!

Lucy2610 · 03/04/2016 10:43

It was me Fuzzy - thanks :)

Stellar67 · 03/04/2016 10:44

Thank you all. I've read the thread and it's very motivating.

I am going to buy some lemonade type treats for tonight and going to do my nails. Smile have downloaded half a dozen books to read.

What does everyone else do?

FuzzyWhiteLegs · 03/04/2016 12:05

Link to Lucy's blog from where the zero alcohol awards Smile

ahangoverfreelife.com/2016/04/01/the-zero-alcohol-awards-2016/

FuzzyWhiteLegs · 03/04/2016 12:06

Stellar I do yoga, Netflix, run, adult colouring. Wish I had the coordination to do my nails!!

Boodles84 · 03/04/2016 15:50

Afternoon all,
Welcome stellar Flowers
Day 7 for me today feeling good but not complacent. Had a great day out yesterday but it got stressful towards the end and all I could think about Was getting drunk it was really hard for a few hours Sad. I had that devil on my shoulder telling me I'm ok, look your ok, you can have a few drinks. Exactly like you hurricane Lucy and fuzzy and anyone else I've missed have said. Do you call it the wine witch, it's a very fitting name if I've got that right! anyway I got through that and am so glad.
This time last week I had completely ruined Easter Sunday with being spectacularly hungover, that was the final straw for me and I jumped in here. I promised myself that day I wouldn't let alcohol spoil things for the kids ever again.
Been cleaning today but mostly just chilling and enjoying being sober! A friend Called in earlier this morning and before now I would have made excuses as I'd be in too much of a state the house would be upside down!
I also think I've lost some weight, a few pounds maybe. Haven't weighed myself but I think tomorrow I'll weigh myself and then every Monday as I do need to lose the chub!
Fuzzy That mocktail sounds lovely! I think I'll do something like that for next weekend so I feel like I'm having a treat.
How you feeling today vxa?

vxa2 · 03/04/2016 16:15

Boodles you are doing brilliantly. I am ok today but if I hadn't to my DH that I am stopping drinking I would probably have had a couple of glasses by now. Have been keeping busy in the garden. Back to work tomorrow which is going to be tough. Normally if I had a bad day at work I would relax with a drink and if it was a good day I would celebrate in exactly the same way Blush.

I have worked out how much I spent on wine each week and am going to save it for a treat. Hopefully that will motivate me.

Stellar67 · 03/04/2016 18:13

Yes money saved will be interesting.

Stellar67 · 03/04/2016 18:15

Sorry posted before I meant to. I am really tired so I think I'll just go to bed super early.

BreakingBod · 03/04/2016 21:54

Hi everyone, I'm part way through reading the thread, but just wanted to jump in and formalise my commitment to giving up drinking!

I've tried several times before, and have done a couple of dry months (1 month at a time, eg Dry January) but always go back to it, usually starting with rules such as 'only on a Friday' but as you all know, this inevitably creeps up, and before I know it I'm back to 4-5 nights a week. I really DO want to break my bad habit of at home wine drinking, but from past experience this is harder than it appears.

I've stocked up with nice fizzy drinks and am hoping that joining this thread will help me resist the 'oh sod it' moments when they inevitably arrive. In the past I've relapsed due to the feeling that I'm 'missing out', even though my rational brain knows that all I'm actually missing out on is a fuzzy brain, disturbed sleep and a sore and bloated stomach the following day. I really want to succeed this time, so I'm sure I'll be posting lots for the first few days/weeks. Right, I'm off to catch up with the rest of the thread...

Lucy2610 · 03/04/2016 22:02

Welcome BreakingBod :)

AbsoluteBeginner · 04/04/2016 06:40

Welcome BreakingBod. You might consider £2.50 on Andrew Johnson's Quit Drinking app is money well spent. Like others on here I really think he's helped me although I don't really know/ understand how. At worst, his App is a very easy and pleasant method of getting off to sleep. Good luck, keep talking to us Smile

Stellar67 · 04/04/2016 08:08

Hi breakingbod. I'm a newbie here too.

Day 2 here. Feel okay. :-)

vxa2 · 04/04/2016 14:53

Day 5 and I don't feel like giving up any more. Where's my willpower gone ? I was doing ok but this afternoon it feels really hard.

BreakingBod · 04/04/2016 14:59

Hi, thanks for the welcome. Good to see another day 2 person Stellar. Last night I listened to my Aisla Frank giving up alcohol hypnosis app, but I'll have a look at the Andrew Johnson one too.

Oh no vxa has something in particular sparked that do you think? Maybe just think about not drinking for today, and hopefully by tomorrow you'll be feeling more motivated again..? Clearly I'm the wrong person to be offering any advice, hopefully someone more knowledgeable will be along soon x

HowBadIsThisPlease · 04/04/2016 14:59

vxa - what's going on? What's so hard? Where are you now? What emergency supplies do you have? Any Easter chocolate left?

Don't panic! It's just a moment! It will be over

BreakingBod · 04/04/2016 15:03

Just been reading this on the Mummy Was A Secret Drinker blog - hoping it might inspire you vxa:

"Gradually I've begun to see the impact that the constant drip feed of terribly expensive premier cru vino has had on me and my family. I've been killing myself and wasting my life. I say ENOUGH IS ENOUGH! Damn you, you silky tongued back stabbing friend of a wine witch. Get out of my life and never come back with your false promises and subtle traps."

vxa2 · 04/04/2016 15:21

Thank you everyone. I am at work after a week off. Usually I would have at least a bottle of wine on a Monday evening and would be thinking about it all day - feeling guilty about those thoughts. My job is quite stressful and I was dreading coming back. I think it's just being back into the normal work routine when I won't be going back to my usual wine routine. I am not going to crumble though. I have lots of lovely soft drinks at home and I'm going to try and relax in a bath. I think I am also on edge because I am waiting for a call from the alcohol support service but I only spoke to them Friday and they said 1-2 weeks so it is not going to be yet.

HowBadIsThisPlease · 04/04/2016 15:29

Right, got it.

I feel you on the work stress thing. Glad you have a strategy.

Think of how good you will feel when you get into bed after the bath and you DID IT. you didn't pick up. think of how great that will be tomorrow morning, after a good night's sleep and a clear head.

FuzzyWhiteLegs · 04/04/2016 16:06

Hey there vxa - sounds like you have a good plan for this evening. If you find yourself struggling come on here, there is often someone around.

Welcome BreakingBod Smile

AbsoluteBeginner love your name - I presume it is a Bowie ref?

Where is Matron?! Come baaaaack...

Well it is finally sunny here this afternoon and...I have pulled a hamstring Angry so no running for me tonight! Hopefully a bit of gentle yoga will be ok instead!

vxa2 · 04/04/2016 16:23

You're right. Clear head in the morning and not risking being over the limit to drive. I was really ashamed when I worked out that actually some mornings I must have been over the limit. I think that's was one of the things which made me realise my drinking was out of control. Going home soon and DH is there already and is supportive so I know I am lucky although he doesn't really know how serious it got.

HowBadIsThisPlease · 04/04/2016 16:24

Can you phone him and get him to pour you a something-on-ice ready for you?

vxa2 · 04/04/2016 16:46

Good idea. That's what I'll do. Smile

HowBadIsThisPlease · 04/04/2016 16:50

Good luck vxa!