Do you know that there ARE wonderful men / dads / DH's / DPs

[Twiglett]

and I'd like to hear about some of them

sometimes I see all the relationships that people put up with on here (and in RL) and I wonder whether some people actually know that men can be fabulous and human and decent and kind

DH is great ... yes he winds me up at times.. but then I'm not easy to live with at times either.

he gets on and does things that need doing .. ok admittedly not the way that I would do them but he still does them

he plays with the kids .. the kind of stuff I can't stand like getting down and playing board games

he loads and empties the dishwasher and washes up and hoovers and he doesn't EXPECT dinner on the table and will happily cook .. he brings me breakfast in bed .. he's been off work for 2 weeks and apart from today has been up with kids every day

he wouldn't even understand the concept of being unfair or abusive ... emotionally, physically or monetarily

and yes he's exasperating and annoying at times .. but then aren't we all

lets hear it for the good guys .. who I firmly believe even without evidence to the contrary are in the MAJORITY!

Oh mb, sorry, we know he is

Dominiconnor, got over bastards in my twenties and realised that non bastards are a much better bet.

I've got a good guy, and am trying to raise three to be like him.

Such a good thread! Have read it all. It IS a bit deflating when reading other threads about men, but if it needs saying...!!

except DC. Have you been drinking??

Fab thread, I say we all toast our fabulous DH's!!!

I too am lucky enough to have a great DH. Obviously I moan a bit sometimes, but when I hear about what my mates put up with, I can't believe how lucky I am.

He is such a wondeful daddy, dd is only 7 mths old, I didn't think he would be so smitten with her as much as he is. Always said he wasn't really 'into' babies and preferred kids when they get a bit older, but he adores dd, and she adores him. I thank the lord every day for the wondeful family I have.

Last night I went to bed before him cos he wanted to stay up to watch Match of the Day. I moaned a bit, so do you know what he did? He got into bed to warm it up for me while I cleaned my teeth etc!! I can't tell you how nice it was getting into a warmed bed....then he tucked me in and kissed me goodnight. How sweet!!!

What a nice thread. There are lots of nice men (just not my ex husband)...

wwjd - "Im 39 with 4 children, and my chances are approximately zero."
I'm 45 with 5 children and I think the chances of finding someone nice are very high... of course I might be wrong and tonight's date wasn't the one but one persists....

my dh is wonderful even though iam alone tonight while he is at the pub.

He works all day comes home and cooks tea i never cook.
He then helps out with all 3 children untill they go to bed.
He then washes ds bottles ready for me the next day.

I love him to bits and my life would be very empty with out him.

I have a wonderful one too. He was my friend before we got together, 10 years ago this year.

He's supported me through depression, he helps around the house, he loves our son to bits and is a fabulous role model.

He still fancies me as much as he did when we got together and I know I could ask anything of him and he would do it... so I don't.

Hmmmm...you see mine has just infuriated me beyond measure for having to be told 5 times where we keep the almonds, told to give 4 to ds2 and then Dh breaks them in halves and ds2 kicks up rendering in necessary for me to give ds2 the unbroken almonds he always had. Did I once in my instruction to DH say "break the almonds?" No. I wouldn't care but I am trying to eat my dinner and I knew that when I had to tell dh for the third time where we keep the almonds that I would really be better cutting out the dolt and getting up and getting indigestion and getting the almonds myself. As that's what happened anyway. Sooooooooooo bone shatteringly DULLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL.

but apart from that he's wonderful

they're wonderful AND human

like us

I have one too
I pointed out this thread to him as he has already noticed (from looking over my shoulder - annoying habit) that most threads - and indeed girly chat in pub - tend to centre around crap husbands - he refilled my wine glass so I would have to post something positive

I love my lovely husband more than I could ever describe. In the eight years we've been together I've never seen him in a bad mood or even raise his voice. He has the nicest, most even temperament and we laugh together all the time. When I read posts on mumsnet about the aggression some people experience in their relationships, it makes me feel so sad.
We're having our first baby in 2 weeks and he's been a star all the way through my pregnancy, always ready with cuddles and supportive words. He's been doing bits of DIY all over Christmas in our flat to make it ready for the baby and I think he's going to be a great dad.
We both have a good group of friends and our families, but what is most important to me (and to him) is our home and the time we spend together.
The only thing that worries me is that if something ever happened to him, I could never meet anyone like him again. I honestly don't believe I'd be lucky enough to have another relationships like this in a lifetime...

actually thats one of the good things about MN - whenever DH irritates the living hell out of me with his obsessive computering, or his inability to pick up socks or load the dishwasher at least some of the stories here can make me appreciate how much he loves us, what a great dad he is and how fantastically funny and clever he is. Untidy though. Oh so verrrry untidy....

of course, unlike you others I am a model of perfection. See that Claudia Schiffer? she WISHES she was me.....

I love my lazy, funny, talented, scrummy DP.
He drives me mad somedays but we are totally supposed to be together.
I really have very little to complain about. I'd complain if there was nothing to compalin about though. I once went out with a guy who did everything and had me on a pedalstool and I hated it and walked all over him. DP and I have a good balance going on.

My dh is fab, without question my rock and, along with dd, the most important thing in my life.

He's intelligent, funny, good looking, laid back, loving, caring and affectionate. He's totally ham fisted around the house but will have a fair old stab at whatever I ask him to do (eventually!) He is the most appalling cook you could ever imagine but will heat up beans if I decide I don't want to cook.

He's wonderful with dd and she adores him. He's very hands on and got totally involved from the word go, did all the nappies, baths etc and now plays all the stuff that I'm no good at with her.

Oh yes, and he's got a huge cock!

just wanted to say what a lovely thread............and so good to hear

I have a fab one and new the first night i kissed him that he was the man i wanted to be with

He truly is part of me and has supported me through truck loads of crap

He is a fabulous Dad - runs his own business - gets up in the night ( texted me this morning to say he was "Up for a two hour party in DS4's room"' in the night! i slept through it

I picked a good 'un! The BEST!

Fab in best too ( essential!)

(notanotter)

Fab in BED ( freudian slip)

The thing that really starts to irritate me about these threads is when women are so grateful for a man who doesn't mind cooking now and then or doesn't mind changing a nappy. That really isn't something a woman should feel so blessed that her man does for her. He should be doing it. It's not anyones sole responsibility to change your DC's nappy or cook every meal that ever appears on the table. Some thigns are very much a shared responsibility.

Rant over.

Just like to say my DH is truly wonderful. Love him to bits!
It's been 10 years since we met (married very nearly 7) and I am still in awe of how I feel.

Until I met him, I could never imagine myself with anyone for more than 3 months before I would feel bored, irritated, monopolised etc.

We have been through different stages in our relationship from partying (probably a bit too much), to having children and being sensible! AND stayed compatible and 'in love' throughout this evolution.

Could go on, but will stop here (the gas man is coming to do something to the boiler - so I have to do a quick tidy!)

Blardy nice thread Twig... well done!
((So nice to hear all the wonderfuls out there!!))

www - i also have a lovely ex h and great dh. met ex while on holiday and dh at work. wwjd and xenia - i met dh at 37 with 3 children and it didn't put him off one bit! (i'm 42 now with 5) i agree with teecee that it's sad to feel grateful for cooking, etc, but it's nice to appreciate being with a good person. my dh is also drop dead gorgeous. i could just stare at him all day

Like others on here just wanted to say that my dh is fab. We too have been through different phases from being DINKY's to now having three lo's in three years. From the moment he walks in the door its teamwork, in fact if anything he takes over and treats me. He cooks all evening meals. He's always split the childcare onces he's home, he's positive and very tolerant.

I've no idea why, but he adores me. He's fairly faultless - is a heavy drinker, but yesterday went to see a counsellor about it and is about to give up, so can't compain.

i love my dh soooo much, we have never had one arguement in 7 years, he doesnt do a lot round the house but thats the way i like it, he is
a lovely dad
a great lover
a best friend to me
respects and worships the ground i walk on
gives me anything i need (inc my tummy tuck)
makes me feel loved everyday
he works so hard for me and the kids

i love him looaads

well...I dont know how it works here is the UK but it really to me seems liek every wife and hubby relationship I've come across is the wife does all the S#!T around the house and dad goes to work and thats his bit. while they can go to the pub watch all the matches they want and mum puts baby to bed and thats it.
I think thats why i'm having a hard time trainign my DP. He sees his dad doing F all and mom running around likea chicken with its head off and he thinks that my generation (22years) will do the same. NOT THE CASE
It should be split down the middle and no drama like in the coronation street east enders shite that they try to pull and fly off the handle when something doesnt go their way, like for say forgetting a pickle. Its not the end of the world, it can be fixed and there are far more worse things is the world. These "men" need to suck it up and if they did what we did everyday they would crumble. SO Women! Twiglett stand up for yourself and take no crap from this 'Darling' partner of yours. Your stong enough to be a mom and your stong enough to stand up to this man of yours. Stand your ground

My husband is absolutely lovely. We'll have been married 15 years in May and wouldn't do without him. He helps lots with kids (doing their bedtime now ) and does housework. He survived me having back surgery, losing our first son and my mood swings and moving countries twice. Plus he buys diamonds for "big" anniversaries I couldn't / wouldn't live without him.

livysmum my parents were like that my mum ran around doing everything my dad went to work. When i met (dh 10 yrs ago) i knew straight away that i was not going to be like my parents. Dh does loads for me i have posted that already. When he comes home from work and i see him through the window (i still look for him) my heart does that funny thing it did when i first ever met him

Think that sometimes role models have a lot to do with it his father helps his mother just like he helps me.