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Do you know that there ARE wonderful men / dads / DH's / DPs

129 replies

Twiglett · 30/12/2006 16:57

and I'd like to hear about some of them

sometimes I see all the relationships that people put up with on here (and in RL) and I wonder whether some people actually know that men can be fabulous and human and decent and kind

DH is great ... yes he winds me up at times.. but then I'm not easy to live with at times either.

he gets on and does things that need doing .. ok admittedly not the way that I would do them but he still does them

he plays with the kids .. the kind of stuff I can't stand like getting down and playing board games

he loads and empties the dishwasher and washes up and hoovers and he doesn't EXPECT dinner on the table and will happily cook .. he brings me breakfast in bed .. he's been off work for 2 weeks and apart from today has been up with kids every day

he wouldn't even understand the concept of being unfair or abusive ... emotionally, physically or monetarily

and yes he's exasperating and annoying at times .. but then aren't we all

lets hear it for the good guys .. who I firmly believe even without evidence to the contrary are in the MAJORITY!

OP posts:
Munz · 30/12/2006 18:12

one moan thou - real minor and me being an ungrateful mare I know but every occassion he buys me thorntons chocs (the small box) I wouldn't mind I love chocs but hate truffles - which he loves so he gets them all back again! lol) i'm nopt posh dairy milk for me but every time it's blinking truffles! lol.

SmileysPeople · 30/12/2006 18:18

This is a lovely thread.
My Dh is a gem. We are a real team, hedoes loads round the house and with the kids and is V patient with me.

I do think we need to big up men a bit,for the sake of our sons if nothing else.

fullmoonfiend · 30/12/2006 19:05

thank god for a nice thread - don't want to sound crass but was beginning to feel a bit apologetic for being happily married with a nice dh on here recently....

He's crap at DIY, grumpy, often a little lazy...
But today he has let me stay in bed all morning cos I'm poorly, done the shopping, taken the boys out, found me a fab web site with music on and is cooking dinner for me

And as for being crap at DIY, grumpy and often a little lazy, well I'd say we were ideally suited

MistletoeMiggins · 30/12/2006 22:22

what a nice thread!!
it gives me hope to read about so many happy marriages/partnerships

unfortunately my soon to be ex H had an affair & left but he didnt match any of your Husbands

if anything, this thread has made me realise that there are plenty of decent men out there & my ex wasnt one of them

happy new yr to all you lucky ladies

Blossomhill · 30/12/2006 22:25

I would not change one thing about my dh (well possibly the nagging )
He is honestly perfect and I love him to bits xxx

SmileysPeople · 30/12/2006 22:28

Oh I'd change plenty, but that's because I'm never quite satisfied.
But in reality I KNOW he's a goodun.

poinsettydog · 30/12/2006 22:33

dh has just made me a proper meal!! and this is most amazing as he doesn't cook. He is feeling proud now nd wanting much gratitude.

SmileysPeople · 30/12/2006 22:37

Yes, my Dh is great and does do LOADS, but will often follow it up with "alot of men wouldn't do this you know." Which does take the shine off it.
But I don't complain (often)as he's right!

SherlockLGJ · 30/12/2006 22:39

Do you know that there ARE wonderful men / dads / DH's / DPs

Yes I am married to one of the best in the world.

I have posted on here time and time again about how wonderful he is.

Mars has posted about how wonderful a cook he is.

I am one lucky girl.

SaggarClaus · 30/12/2006 22:39

Great thread Twig

My dh is brill too. Not perfect, but neither am I (in fact I can be a picky, nagging old cow) but he'll do for me.

MrsJohnCusack · 30/12/2006 22:39

this is nice
my DH is lovely, and very possibly the sweetest man around. And he does way more than most with DD - who adores him (even if she currently treats him like her personal slave).

I do moan about him a bit at the moment, but that's mainly because he's around all the time and I wish he could get a job to occupy himself...and he is a bit dreamy and forgetful around the house which does get very irritating. BUT then he is looking after DD a lot of the time and I am having lots of rests whilst pregnant which is lovely and I am very lucky indded.

nothing I moan about matters because he is the sweetest, kindest, most loyal man you could possibly hope to meet and he puts up with a lot from me. And I know he will always support me in whatever I do and would never stop me from doing anything I wanted to.

I found him when we both worked in a record shop in central London.

DontlookatmeImshy · 30/12/2006 22:43

My dh is lovely too and I really don't appreciate him enough. Yes he has his faults but don't we all. Sometimes I wonder how on earth he puts up with me.

Smurfgirl · 30/12/2006 22:44

My boyfriend is lovely I am very lucky to have him. He is not perfect in the housey stuff but he tries so hard. He always has time for me and puts up with all my silly ways. He is so supportive and encouraging all the time. We do argue but he will always apologise and move on, he has never held a grudge unlike me! He tells me I am beautiful every day, even when I look like a minger!

Oh and I found him in my house

SherlockLGJ · 30/12/2006 22:46

Oh yes she found him in her house..........

It only took God knows how many MNers to tell her that he fancied her, the way she fancied him.

How long ago was that Smurf ????

TheArmadillo · 30/12/2006 22:50

I met my dp at school and we have been together for about 7 years.

He has his faults, but then so do I.

We fit together really well.

He works hard, is a fantastic father and treats me well. He looks after me when I'm ill, never expects me to cook for him (though I do) and when I do tells me what a wonderful cook I am. He has a fantastic sense of humour and is very kind and thoughtful (though sometimes needs prompting )

For some strange reason he seems to think I am the most attractive woman on the planet, yet he never pressures me for sex and is perfectly willing to accept no for an answer.

And...he gets up with ds at night if ds wakes and has done since since ds was about a yr old.

VeniVidiVickiQV · 30/12/2006 22:50

My DP is fab.

He is thoughtful, in an unconventional way.
He just 'does' stuff (fixing, mending, building, making, cooking, ironing etc)
He hoovers

He is a brilliant dad
He loves me

Smurfgirl · 30/12/2006 22:50

Been together for 18 months now getting married in just under 2 years!

Its so romantic

SherlockLGJ · 30/12/2006 22:52

18 months

LGJ starts to feel very very old.

brandy7 · 30/12/2006 22:52

aw VVV

Smurfgirl · 30/12/2006 22:53

Why SLGJ? I have known him for 4.5 years now i think?

expatinscotland · 30/12/2006 22:55

In answer to the OP: YES. Definitely yes.

I met my DH, and I just knew, pretty much from the day, what kind of man he was.

I'd been around enough to know.

Looks, money, outside trappings, status, etc.?

What are they? Doesn't gold hide in rock that look fairly ordinary, even ugly to some?

Let them keep digging!

I held fast the words of my father, 'A patient one always wins in the end.'

I kept the faith, I made the leap.

I found the gold.

When I did, I didn't let go.

expatinscotland · 30/12/2006 22:56

We met 26 April. We were married 28 May.

5 years next year.

He's more man than any other I've ever met.

Don't have a SINGLE regret.

hunkermunker · 30/12/2006 22:58

My DH is amazing.

He is kind, thoughtful, an amazing dad to our boys, funny, loving, can cook, (sometimes) cleans the bathroom while he baths the DSs, and today he took DS1 to Sainsbury's and did a mahoosive grocery shop while I lay in bed and bfed DS2 and we both dozed and then he amused both boys all afternoon, gave both boys dinner, bathed both boys and then made my dinner while I, er...slept on and off I did change various nappies and do some playing and chatting with DS1, but largely I've had a PJ day

In my defence, I've not had an unbroken night's sleep since DS2 was born nearly a year ago and it really caught up with me today.

I think I married well though (I watched Sense and Sensibility this evening too).

hunkermunker · 30/12/2006 23:00

And when I'm back at work on Sundays next year, he will be babysitting the DSs "for me"...

And he's cooking roast beef for lunch tomorrow and I'm taking DS1 out for the morning (DS1 has asked to "go and get petrol" - he knows how to have fun, that boy!).

VeniVidiVickiQV · 30/12/2006 23:04

What about DH2 Hunker?

Actually, DH1 is pretty handy around the house, I agree

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