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Do you know that there ARE wonderful men / dads / DH's / DPs

129 replies

Twiglett · 30/12/2006 16:57

and I'd like to hear about some of them

sometimes I see all the relationships that people put up with on here (and in RL) and I wonder whether some people actually know that men can be fabulous and human and decent and kind

DH is great ... yes he winds me up at times.. but then I'm not easy to live with at times either.

he gets on and does things that need doing .. ok admittedly not the way that I would do them but he still does them

he plays with the kids .. the kind of stuff I can't stand like getting down and playing board games

he loads and empties the dishwasher and washes up and hoovers and he doesn't EXPECT dinner on the table and will happily cook .. he brings me breakfast in bed .. he's been off work for 2 weeks and apart from today has been up with kids every day

he wouldn't even understand the concept of being unfair or abusive ... emotionally, physically or monetarily

and yes he's exasperating and annoying at times .. but then aren't we all

lets hear it for the good guys .. who I firmly believe even without evidence to the contrary are in the MAJORITY!

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NappiesGalooooooooooooria · 30/12/2006 17:37

ditto emsieswill. i am the most beautiful thing in the world to him, even when im scaling, spotty, minging, smelly and with greasy hair and bad breath.

hes not perfect, he does wind me up at times, but overall? well, let me put it this way; if Karma is right, then i am more than happy to have put up with all the shit of my early life if it meant i would end up with him. he really does restore my faith in life, human nature, love...

iota · 30/12/2006 17:37

www - that's a bit greedy - having 2 wonderful men - the ex I had before dh was awful

AttilaTheMeerkat · 30/12/2006 17:37

Mr Meerkat is a genuinely kind, quiet and patient man most of the time and I am sincerely lucky in that regard.

Like the other posters have also written we do have our moments certainly and I'm sure we do drive each other nuts at times.

DH is great both towards me and our son and continues to calls me by the pet name he gave me when we first dated. He even quite likes the collection of paperweights I have amassed in the glass cabinet over the years.

I often tell him that he worships the quicksand I walk on!!.

NappiesGalooooooooooooria · 30/12/2006 17:41

www - dh1 and dh2 - i love it!
you must be a very good person to be around if you attract/inspire such loveliness in others (and lucky too)

RubyRioja · 30/12/2006 17:41

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Charleesunnysunsun · 30/12/2006 17:42

Way to go for starting this thread Twig, all i read on here is about horrible partners and i count myself lucky to have the man i do.

He is a great partner/father/lover/friend he would do anything for me and our boys.

He makes me feel specail and wanted everyday of our lives even after loads of years together.

He does the housework and takes a 50% share in looking after the kids including nappies/feeding and nigt time wakings.

I can trust him with anything and i will never have to worry about him cheating or lying as he is the most honest lovley man i know.

He drives me bonkers sometimes but i wouldn't be without him.

QuootiepieTheNewYearsAss · 30/12/2006 17:43

Do you think you could state where you found these men when you post please?

WideWebWitch · 30/12/2006 17:45

ha ha, ok,

Dh1: work, Hammersmith, London
dh2: Pub, The Dartmouth Arms, Dartmouth, Devon

MyTwoCupsOfKindness · 30/12/2006 17:45

my dh is also a wonderful man. i'm a paranoid, nagging old hag and the mere fact that he hasn't caved my head in with a shovel and buried me in the back garden is a testament to his saintliness!!

he is a fantastic, fully involved, hands on father who is so close to our sons i feel left out sometimes!!

he's got his faults, my god yes! but he is far better than i deserve!

Freckle · 30/12/2006 17:45

Don't you think it is sad that we hesitate to sing their praises because of all the wankers out there causing their partners such misery?

Perhaps we should do it more often so that those who are in miserable relationships can realise that really decent (such a soft word but which has such strong meaning) men are out there which may give them strength to ditch the prats.

ludaloo · 30/12/2006 17:47

My dh is a wonderful man too!
(Quootie.....found him in a pub in Coventry 11 years ago...slumped over a table )

He is a fantastic father, very patient husband, works very hard running his own business to support us all.

I LOVE HIM TO BITS

QuootiepieTheNewYearsAss · 30/12/2006 17:47

Right, Pub I can do! Thankyou for stating which pub

unknownrebelbang · 30/12/2006 17:47

You must be some woman WWW!

My DH fell on me drunk in a seedy nightclub in the Potteries, oh what a romantic start, lol.

QuootiepieTheNewYearsAss · 30/12/2006 17:48

2 found in a pub!

Charleesunnysunsun · 30/12/2006 17:48

My DP was my ex boyfriends best mate

MyTwoCupsOfKindness · 30/12/2006 17:49

sometimes its like its the done thing to slag off your man - does anyone get what i mean? we get together and moan and laugh about our men, its like its expected. have a coffee and laugh about the daft bloke! sounds awful when i think about it!

lulumama · 30/12/2006 17:50

DH - he is a devoted husband and father. ok, he should change more pooey nappies, but hey ho! he works 80 hours a week , so i have been able to stay at home with the children, he has made my doula website for me. he has his faults, sure, but who doesn;t?

he supported me through terrible depression, including 3 weeks in hospital, he has always been there when it matters.

he has never, would never, raise his hands to me......he thinks i am the most beautiful, glorious and wonderful woman on earth..

he knows all my clothes, underwear & shoe sizes and can go out and by me an entire outfit, a tasteful one, with accesories....!

he loves the kids more than life itself....although i do worry that DD will never be allowed out!

he is generous to a fault, and kind , and humble ...

AND HE IS ALL MINE !! we have been together for almost 10 years, married for 8 1/2, and have grown together and learnt from each other

there are days i could quite happily lock him out, but in the long run, we are right for each other! and i know he would never , ever heap the sort of abuse on me that some of my fellow mnetters have had to endure.

thanks for starting this thread..it has made me realise, once again, that i am indeed blessed and lucky.

iota · 30/12/2006 17:50

I met my dh at work (staff of 800, so plenty of choice).

We got to know each other before we started going out, so knew we liked each other.

Helgand · 30/12/2006 17:55

I met mine at work as well QP, and yes, thanks, Twiglett, this is a great way of getting the annoying little things into perspective.

NappiesGalooooooooooooria · 30/12/2006 17:59

met mine at work too, Quootie. i was temping on reception to earn money to go off galivanting round the world (some more) and he was a tres important director type upstairs.
everyone warned it would all end in tears, but i both he and i knew it was magic/perfect/destiny right from the first minute...

Freckle · 30/12/2006 18:01

I met mine in a pub too! OK it was a work-related thing - social club for young lawyers and the first meeting was in a pub - hang on.... so were all the others actually! We socialised as members of the club for about a year before we "got together" so were already friends and perhaps that's what's been the founding stone of our relationship. We knew each other pretty well before we became romatically involved (sorry, had to stop myself laughing there as dh doesn't really do "romance"), but hey.

Kbear · 30/12/2006 18:02

My DH is fab - he's my rock and I am his.

We row, who doesn't, but we feel strongly about our family unit and work things out.

We complement each other but also clash sometimes but ultimately we consider each other's feelings (like he's been in the pub all afternoon watching footie and I don't mind in the least as I've been shopping and enjoying pottering around BUT if I had said can we go out as a family today he would have done it, to make me happy).

Just to balance this love-fest - he irritates the arse off me sometimes, he has a shift work job which makes him grumpy as hell sometimes but he is an all round good bloke. He works hard to provide for us and although he hates his job, he goes, rain or shine, nightshifts and everything to do a potentially dangerous job and I love and respect him for that.

We've been married 15 years in April but I've known him since I was 5.

QuootiepieTheNewYearsAss · 30/12/2006 18:04

OK - I need to get a job and go to the pub more. That should up my chances

Blondilocks · 30/12/2006 18:09

My ex-OH is a pretty decent bloke, good dad, could cook, good mate, & when he was my OH he was fab at it. Plus he has amazing taste in jewellery & is completely honest about how bad clothes look.

Shame it didn't work out, but still I can't really complain about him.

I have several male friends & they are all lovely blokes - really nice people. Not sure about the dad thing as none of them have children ... well not yet!

Munz · 30/12/2006 18:11

totally agree twig - I may well moan about DH (a lot) but on the whole he's a goodie really - he could be worse.

he gets me little gifts (a bar of choccy! lol) when he's feeling kind for no reason! lol. he makes me dinner and doesn't moan, holds my hair back when i'm pukeing up - ok was giving birth at the time but the thought was there

doesn't care if the house is a tip. or dinners half burnt cos i've been dealing with J. baths J every night and is general half of a team not him and me - lets me do what I want within reason (ie doens't cost the earth etc), and I know he worships J as much as I do.

ooh and also his xmas card this year said on the front

"you have the one quality which makes a perfect wife" - inside it said " you don't expect/ask for a perfect husband" !

(he wrote how true).

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