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Do you know that there ARE wonderful men / dads / DH's / DPs

129 replies

Twiglett · 30/12/2006 16:57

and I'd like to hear about some of them

sometimes I see all the relationships that people put up with on here (and in RL) and I wonder whether some people actually know that men can be fabulous and human and decent and kind

DH is great ... yes he winds me up at times.. but then I'm not easy to live with at times either.

he gets on and does things that need doing .. ok admittedly not the way that I would do them but he still does them

he plays with the kids .. the kind of stuff I can't stand like getting down and playing board games

he loads and empties the dishwasher and washes up and hoovers and he doesn't EXPECT dinner on the table and will happily cook .. he brings me breakfast in bed .. he's been off work for 2 weeks and apart from today has been up with kids every day

he wouldn't even understand the concept of being unfair or abusive ... emotionally, physically or monetarily

and yes he's exasperating and annoying at times .. but then aren't we all

lets hear it for the good guys .. who I firmly believe even without evidence to the contrary are in the MAJORITY!

OP posts:
hunkermunker · 30/12/2006 23:05

DH2 is useless.

DH1 is the only one for me

hunkermunker · 30/12/2006 23:07

DH1 put the shelf back up yesterday above the PC that fell down on my heavily pregnant self over a year ago

VeniVidiVickiQV · 30/12/2006 23:16

Wow - he truly is an angel

Seriously, he is fab. He was brilliant with my two the other day (even if it is because he smells of dolly mixtures )

sunflowervalley · 30/12/2006 23:20

Well my DH has let me sleep in since the start of the christmas holidays and got up with dd and ds.
He cooked christmas dinner and has cooked all week,done the dishwasher everyday,hoovered,washing.

Done the shopping today and made a quiche and muffins with the children this afternoon.

I feel quite lazy,but have enjoyrd the rest and the pressure he has taken off me this last week,it's been great.

H'es back to work on Tuesday so making the most of it.
He has been in a good mood as well.

hunkermunker · 30/12/2006 23:27

He does smell of dolly mixtures. Odd bloke

Your DP is not so bad himself though, VVV!

Crystaltips · 30/12/2006 23:29

Oh Twig ... you are a good girl !

Makes me want to try and find all the bits I love about DH ... ( He's just rolled in from a round of golf ..... that started at 9am ) ... soooo he is professing his love to me

He is a great bloke .... my DIAMOND

  • he doesn't do much about the house - but he cleans my car every week.
  • he never cooks - but he always suggests a take-away when he sees that I am knackered
  • he never helps with the school runs - but he does take the kids away when he knows that I need some me-time
  • he lets me set the fire every night
  • he lets me do all the food shopping
  • he lets me do the ironing
  • he lets me cleaning .... BUT he is the bread winner ... and he never comes into the house complaining about HIS day.

I just love him with knobs on !!!!!

jajas · 30/12/2006 23:31

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brandy7 · 30/12/2006 23:39

im jealous of all you lucky women. i hope that il meet someone who i would speak so highly of, like you are of your men

DetentionGrrrl · 31/12/2006 05:48

It does make a change to hear some happiness- i think it's all too easy to dwell on the negative.

My DP is generous and considerate, has never told me what to wear, where to go, who to be friends with etc. Supported me with Higher Education, knows where the hoover is, loads and empties the dishwasher, and gets up at weekends with DS.

I know how lucky i am, and i tell him as much as i can too

eidsvold · 31/12/2006 06:02

He does have his moments but am sure the opposite applies with regards to me.

He is a very generous man in spirit and practical ways.

The biggest thing he has done is move to the other side of the world to give our dds a better quality life - giving up a very secure and well paying job, all his friends and family.

HE adores his dds

QUOOTIE - met him in a pub in Essex when I was working part time.

sunnywong · 31/12/2006 06:07

Mr Wong = Top Diamond Geezer

and everyone, just everyone who ever meets him always tells me that. He's super cool too.

welliemum · 31/12/2006 07:10

Another fab DH here.

Am very very very lucky.

snowfunwhenyoureknackered · 31/12/2006 07:47

Dh is really great, great dad, husband, son in law.

A really great person.

agalch · 31/12/2006 08:40

So nice to read a thread about good men.

I first met my dp at a wedding when i was 12 and he was 20,he was my uncles best mate and was his best man at the wedding.I fancied the pants off him and spent the next few years asking my uncle about him and wondering if he would ever come back to the village we both lived in.

He came back eventually(had been travelling Israel,in kibbutz's etc) and i met him in the local pub(he didn't have a clue who i was).I was 17 and he was 25,my aunt persuaded him to take me out on a date and although he was wary cos i was younger than him the rest is history as they say.Been together 18 yrs,have 4 fab children and we are gettig married in April 2007.

Can't imagine ever being with anyone else.We are best friends and how he puts up with me i will never know lol.

Works 7am till 7pm and baths dd's,cleans bathrooms and does any other jobs i havn't managed to do that day.He is genuinely one of lifes good guys and i am happy i have him!!!

Katy44 · 31/12/2006 10:39

Wanted to get on this thread too - DH is the best person I have ever met. I met him at school, we've been together 7 years, married for nearly 2 and expecting our first baby soon. He's a fantastic H and is going to be a fantastic dad - he leapt out of bed with the biggest grin on his face when I told him the test was positive. He's accepted our lives are going to change and has already stopped most of his 'young, single' behaviour. He sounds so proud on the phone to other people when he's talking about our bump, and I've heard him talking to her and kissing her when he thinks I'm not paying attention!
He drives me mad sometimes but I think it's a small price to pay

Anniegetyourgun · 31/12/2006 11:41

Of course you usually get the negative side of relationships on a discussion board like this, because people are venting or looking for help with a problem. Every now and then a thread like this reminds us of the positive side. There are quite a few "buts" and "times he drives me crazy" here too, but after all two adults are never going to agree 100% of the time. To quote the fabulous Futurama: "Let's face it, Fry, you're a man and I'm a woman. We're just too different!"

I'd just like to give a little pep talk to all those people who think their man is a saint because he puts up with them. You deserve love, because you give love to others. Are you saying that wonderful man is wrong to love you? Of course not! Do you expect your best friends to be perfect? Well don't expect yourself to be perfect either. You're human, you're allowed faults. (That doesn't mean you shouldn't keep striving to be better, of course, but forgive yourself if you don't always achieve it, as you would/should forgive your DP and others.)

Here endeth the moral preaching!

HappyDaddy · 31/12/2006 12:27

Nah, we're all arseholes.

Isyhan · 31/12/2006 18:36

Ive got a fab DH too. He's so geat Im not telling anyone in case they want some of him too!!

DominiConnor · 31/12/2006 18:58

Here's a little game to play at parties with men of any age...

Ask them to sum up the type of bloke that they perceive that most women go for.
Upon a piece of paper you'll have the answer.

Is is "like that Sean Bean..."
No
Rich ?
No
Tall ?
No
Enormous penis ?
No
Intelligent ?
No men think that, not one, including gays.

More than 90% will say...
Bastards
7% will say
"complete bastards"
The remaining 1-2% will use words stronger than "bastard".

whatwouldjesusdo · 31/12/2006 19:35

lol
I am attracted to intelligent men. Intelligent bastards, that is, if my record's anything to go by.
Now that I have finally got over the effects of my crappy upbringing, and am ready to look for a nice man, Im 39 with 4 children, and my chances are approximately zero. Im deeply envious of the couples on this thread.

Kaz33 · 31/12/2006 19:36

Got to add DH Kaz33 to the mix, we have had a few tough years but;

  • he is kind, gentle, funny, super cool, great dad and even mopped the floor this morning ( I hadn't done it in 6 months ). He admits (eventually) when he is in the wrong and does something about it. He puts up with me and that is an achievement.

At the moment he is curled up on DS2 bed, telling the boys "Stories in the woods". Sometimes he is in there for an hour !!

Love him.

REIDnotREEDorREAD · 31/12/2006 19:45

This is a fab thread!

My DH is a star. He looks after ds (not the way i would but still brilliantly) he does cleaning and cooking with out a second thought, wrks 10 hour days 5 days a week and has never complained. He often sends me flowers when he knows i'm having a crap day and always tells me how sexy i am (and means it) even when i have my pjs on and geasy hair tied up.

He is just bloody brilliant and i couldn't be without him!

Blandmum · 31/12/2006 19:45

Mine is.

Chipstick · 31/12/2006 20:08

My DH of 9yrs is wonderful, the most devoted father to our children I could wish for and very supportive to me.
He does all the family ironing, 90% of the vacuuming and helps out loads with childcare when I'm at work during the school holidays.
Yes he can be grumpy (I can be worse during certain times of the month!), he can watch far too much tv but I love him dearly, for good for bad.
His biggest fault at the moment - he works shifts and is on nights tonight! So happy new year to everybody and if you are lucky enough to be with your partner at midnight - enjoy it!

booge · 31/12/2006 20:17

Dh is a star, he loves us all and shows it often, works really hard, helps in the house (he's doing the laundry as I type this) and is my best friend and confidant. We sometimes row too but we're only human.