Step right up, it's dating thread 97

[MyGastIsFlabbered]

We don't half get through these at speed!

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now)

Oh good grief! Just to prove it really is weirdo day...just had a message from a 20 year old on Zoosk saying "you are beautiful and I don't care about the age, beauty increases with age" He is 5'3" and his profile pic is a bathroom selfie.

Born I don't know if it would make me less quick to notice potential for closeness elsewhere. It is entirely possible that I could be less open to other conversations with .... I don't know who exactly. But yes, that is a trap that I ought to be wary of.

What did he say Waving?

Feel free to ignore if you are busy with your Tinder guys!

I know, right? He doesn't care about my age, and thinks I'm beautiful...I'm sold!

Hmm, 314 I see what you mean, if he's meeting your "someone to chat to" needs then you're less likely to look elsewhere.

Chatty though waving...that's quite nice.

I've just turned my phone off! I am normally glued to my phone but I cannot deal with a message from MrEloquent tonight and I know if he does message, I'll read it. So, phone off! I feel weird already.

Waving, when I met Walt it really felt like he was 'the one'. I really, really fancied him, we had lots in common, we got on really well... But his communication (or lack of it) between dates made me really anxious and unhappy. He wouldn't go away with me for even a night or two because he was worried about telling his ex (even though they'd been separated for two years). He was very passive and appeared to do anything his ex asked him to. He didn't tell anyone about me - his friends, colleagues, family ... no one. And I realised that the whole thing was making me so unhappy, and not myself at all, and I ended it. It still feels sad, though - it 'should' have worked, but it didn't.

Are you going to reply to Soho this evening?

Remember the run up to when H dumped me Waving I felt like you do now. I just knew partly because the few texts he did send weren't signed off with 'x'. It is a relief now. I wonder if you shouldn't get in there first. Tell him his failings, how he fell short, how he was illogical and kept telling you his needs without asking yours! I'd love you to!

Trying writing some things down waving? Not suggesting you read him a list of his failings but it might help you to order your thoughts. I think if you are doing the dumping though, you are going to sound more in control and less petulant because you are.

Phone off night is going well so far! Next step is doing a whole night with no phone and no Facebook. Then no phone, no Facebook and no Dating Thread... I think it would be very healthy though.

Please do, you'll be doing it 1% for me too! which I know is not the reason for anybody to lob a grenade in to the relationship :-p

Yes, write it down and then hone it, polish it.
It will help.

ooh, and go back through old threads and write down all the times where he pissed you off/made you anxious. You've probably forgotten some things

Omg on the sloppy seconds comment!

And to the one saying 'a bloody reply would be nice'. I wonder if 'piss off' would satisfy his need for an answer.

I had someone message me the other day asking if I was dtf? Had to hoogle that a d then just blocked. Someone suggested that I come back with tafh? And then ssy take a fucking hike when he asks what it means. It's funny...but I'd rather just not engage.

Allstars I wouldn't waste any time on that one. He shouldn't be upset over a skipped phone call from someone he's never met. And even if he is disappointed he shouldn't be bombarding you with his feelings. As others said, it's manipulative!

So the guy I had a coffee with a week ago (and whom I had politely told that I wasn't interested) has messaged me again to see if I want to go out. Am just not replying...

And I am very glad that I am still talking to tradesman online. He made me laugh the other day and he always replies to my messages at least once daily, which I like. Nothing ever lengthy, but it's giving me something to do and it has gotten fun. And to think...I was considering stopping it a few days!

Has anyone tried out singleparentmeet? I set up an account because I thought you could access a few things for free...but it turns out you can't access anything unless you pay (not even likes or flirts). So there are 148 messages sitting in an inbox that I can't read. I have no interest in paying for a site though....not yet anyway

google

You'll be different from the last woman because instead of presenting it like a list of faults you can communicate the same thing really but stating how it isn't enough for you. ie, More like H did to me. "This isn't for me any more because..." {insert or delete} I really value consistency, communications, respect, equal levels of give and take. So I'm really sorry Soho, but you're not what I'm looking for. I'm really, really sorry. :-p Put your head to one side. Like you're worried about how he'll cope.

A few days ago* ignore all the typos, I am on my phone lol

Thanks for everyones help I feel a lot better now, I will move on and forget about it I think it was the best thing to move on from.

Just popping in, will catch up later.

Waving yes you do need your power dress/suit on it will help with feeling good about yourself and making your points get across Soho's mind!