Step right up, it's dating thread 97

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We don't half get through these at speed!

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now)

i feel the same scarftown if i wanted a relationship id still be with my husband!! I'm struggling to find a FWB tho!! I had a date with this guy last night and fully intended on sleeping with him, however he was about 3 or 4 stone heavier than his profile picture. The last guy i went on a date with was too shy (both wanted relationships).

If you're a female IDWAR, do you get to be the one who says, OK, well I'll call you. Probably. If I'm free on thursday we'll go out.

Cos now, that doesn't sound tooo bad actually!

OK, so us relationship seekers are getting IDWARs and you lady-IDWARs are getting relationship seekers?! The universe really sucks sometimes!

No updates from here. FrenchCanadian has not messaged despite seeming keen to meet up for coffee... Maybe I broke some kind of Canadian dating etiquette by giving him my number or suggesting we chat more? Meh

And I was at book group tonight and there was a new guy who looked vaguely familiar and I think I might have seen him on dating sites. It would definitely have been a right swipe though...

Oh, and I found my perfect man on Bristlr. Amazing beard, tattoos, writer, into sports, makes his own beard oil. Only 31 though. Still, I sent him a message that basically said "hey, you're fit!" and surprisingly, have had no response. I think I am also becoming a bloke...

My Tinder matches went quiet, including Arty. Sigh.

There was someone I'd matched with on two occasions on Tinder. I messaged him last week while I was a bit tipsy and later unmatched him. But he's popped up on POF, which I logged into for the first time in weeks. He's unfeasibly pretty, and unusual (this is good!). Having a wee chat.

I'm mid 30s too Scarf! Well, OK I'm late 30s but looking for men mid 30s-early 40s. I actually think it's a fairly crappy age. Lots of men coming out of first marriages and wanting to shag about for a bit before settling down and starting again with someone younger and prettier and with no pre-existing kids of her own...

Yep, I'm 36 and agree with Folk, really struggle with men around my own age. PrettyUnusual is 46, the very, very upper end of what I would consider.

Thank you 314 your let me push you comment made me laugh out loud! :)
Wish I had thought of it at the time though he said it in quite a distressed way so I would have felt mean....

Woo hoo waving.....brilliant!! Hope you left the moose burger at home!

So p!eased for you Waving :)

That sounds like good news Waving! Enjoy!

Hurrah waving!! Well I'm speaking to someone just now who just wants a shag. It's quite funny!! Bit pathetic too!!

Oh Waving I hope you get a snog!

Just got this message from someone:

"Honestly I've been glancing at your page for the past 20 minutes trying to figure out something witty to break the ice, you got me a bit star struck. At the end of the day, me complimenting you would be nothing new. I'm sure you've heard on a regular basis how cute, sexy and beautiful you are. How about we skip that stage and start planning our first get together. P.s I'm very adept at catching spiders ;) "

I have no idea if this is something he copies and pastes to everyone (the spider thing is a reference to my profile)...but that would have sold me on responding...if he had been my type. Bummer.

Wow good news waving!

Good new about the date waving :)

Mom - it does sound like a standard response, but the spider reference means he read your profile..might be that he's just trying to stand out.

I had a first date last night, which was ok, but just ok, no spark and got a bit bored towards the end.

I'm getting a bit meh, it seems that I just meet people and they're never someone I want to second date..I think either there's something wrong with my selection process or I'm too picky..

There's moths wrong with you, sparkly it's just a soul destroying needle-in-haystack situation.......

Mom that's deffo a standard message but at least he is making an effort....

Nice loo update waving, more details now please!

folk I think you're spot on re the demographic. I'm late thirties and the reality is that guys my age or a few years younger are looking hoping for younger women. If you push into early forties, again I think there's a lot of newly single men wanting to shag about. I also (honestly) think that there are a lot of men doing OLD who are having mid life breakdowns. Then you've got the final
Lot (mid to late forties) who are Laissez faire. Still look good, solvent, confident and know they are a catch but are happy to date a myriad of women (smart, funny, beautiful) women but will tend to end thing every 12 months or so. Until they meet a 24 year old and then the world stops.
I honestly think dating apps have just made this whole world so tricky

Re us lady-IDWARS getting relationship seekers (that term makes me laugh out loud), bear in mind two things. 1) it's early days and they could just be lying 2) I do wonder if there is an inadvertent element of us being a little unavailable that is then making them more keen??? Going back to making them catch a moose???

scarf and ladylou, do you eventually want a relationship?

sparkly is there defo no chemistry? I always give it a min of 2 dates before establishing that. Date one is always so nerve wracking