Ghosted

[muffymk]

Hi all

Im just so hurt, sad, angry.

My boyfriend ( I suppose he isnt now) has ghosted me. We were together for over two years. I knew he was at a crossroads in his life with his job and kids but he then said that he didnt 'know' about us. He said this over the phone . He came over the Sunday but he was quieter than usual had sex. He told me he loved me in the morning and on Monday night he told me. Since then i have heard nothing even thought i keep messaging him desperately to give me some closure but again nothing. We saw each other nearly every day and this is killing me.

He always came here. I never even knew where he lived or met his kids..after two years. This is like a bad dream and my head keeps spinning. Its like im at some messy crime scene with no key witnesses telling me what happened

You have closure now, op. I know it hasn't been easy but now you have the closure, you will probably think that a huge emotional weight has been lifted.

Good for you for seeing the light. He will be back in touch, begging you back, not long from now. What an arse..

I do not care. I see him for what he is. Shallow, controlling, not letting me in to his life. Jealous of other people's achievements. He was kind in a montary way. But his kindness has come at a high price x

Ok another wave of sadness here. Please talk some sense in to me

Not trying to make you feel worse Op but surely he must have met someone else? That explaination he's given makes no sense at all. What an absolute coward.

Muddy, you don't need us to talk sense into you. Read back your thread and you will be able to talk sense into yourself .

Post some more about what he is like and how he has treated you .

Or Muffy, not muddy #autocorrectfail

I have no idea if he has met someone else. But thats the explanation he gave
Im actually not surprised by that as he was always 'things must be done a certain way' he once finished with someone because they fell up the stairs ....mad

He divorced his wife because she went out a lot and finished with someone else because she bought him £30 trainers oh and went on holiday with her sister and left him with the kids for a few days....

Its like he doesnt say whats bothering him, He just re writes history in his head and then wooosh

Doesn't sound like he actually had a home then?! Anyway I'm sure you know you've had a lucky escape. So many things don't add up. Seriously you can do so much better. He's crazy

I dont know

or he hankers after what he had with his ex wife

It sounds like you've had a lucky escape. It will take time to really feel that and you have to grieve but move on and be happy. Better times are ahead. No one has a right to judge your lifestyle. Lots of people have children who are picky eaters, don't care how they load the dishwasher and lose spoons. It's called being human.

Sorry this has happened OP, and that you are in pain. He does sound like a dick though.

(As an aside, if he was with you all that time I can't figure out where he keeps all his clothes and when he does clothes washing etc? Not that it matters, but if he wasn't doing it then someone else was).