Someone called the police for DV

[DragonsCanHop]

"D"H exploded last night in front of the children over something really stupid (DDs) phone going off when we were sleeping.

He slammed doors and shouted at the children making them all scream and cry, I jumped up to defend them, told him he can't slam doors and talk to them like that. I got in between him and the bedroom door frame and he pulled me out of the way.

He was up in my face sneering at me, he called me all sorts of names and threatened to push me down the stairs, he was yelling at the top of his voice and I was telling him he had to go down stairs at least so I could settle the DC.

Eventually he did but only after yet more name calling with a look of disgust on his face.

I settled the youngest easily (told her it was a bad dream) and eldest came in with me and it all calmed down.

Next thing I know there are 2 policeman at the door, someone had heard him and called 999.

They wanted to arrest him but as it's not happened before and I'm still not sure why he did it I told them he didn't hurt me and I didn't tell them about him threatening me. They said they would log it as a disturbance after completing a DV log sheet.

He messaged our daughter this morning after leaving for work and asked if she called the police. We didn't reply.

I messaged him and told him to find somewhere to stay, we need time apart he replied no and then asked if I was throwing him out over a stupid call on our DDS phone.

I haven't replied and I've left my mobile at home, he keeps calling my work phone.

Please tell me I'm not making too much of this, I feel like I can't make a choice of what to do from now but I know he can't be happy and I've not been happy for a while either but never expected anything like this, he hates me.

[hpsaucy]

mrdragon just so you are aware. Every evening phone call you make telling dragon she won't be able to do it. I follow in the morning with a call telling her she can. She is so strong and has a network of people around her to help and support her. I've been there for the past 14 years and will carry on being there.

Maybe you should use the time you are alone, to think about how you could be a better father to your beautiful girls, if you think dragon has turned the girls against you she hasn't, you managed to do that all on your own.

If you PM me I'll forward all the other threads she has started over the years, about your behaviour. Could be make interesting reading for you.

[AnchorDownDeepBreath]

Make sure you report to your bank. They tend to be pretty interested in people who use software to steal others' bank details.

Mr Dragon, you are a twat.

[Fairenuff]

Yes, definitely get in touch with your bank and make sure your solicitor is aware of the stalking too.

[Friendlystories]

hpsaucy I can't tell you how glad I am Dragons has someone like you in RL. She has massive support here but there's no substitute for someone to give her a hug or make those phone calls to neutralise his poison. We will be here if she decides to come back with a new name but if not please tell her we continue to care and to hope for a brighter future for her and her girls

[AdoraBell]

If you are still reading this Dragon then do what Across suggested re reporting a key logger and the logging in to your bank account.

Mr Dragon you are pathetic. I mention near the beginning of this thread that I was targeted as the weak link. The youngest child. My father is in an unmarked grave. He had 6 DCs who could have arranged a head stone. All we wanted was to make sure he was buried and could not come back and start the abuse again. His grand children do not even know where he is buried.

That is where you will be. Forgotten. No one will visit your grave because once you are dead you will no longer matter.

[Lweji]

Even worse, nobody will visit you while you're alive, or in the retirement home. Or in hospital.

[AcrossthePond55]

MrDragon I'm going to tell you what I told someone just like you. If you don't stop and change you are going to die alone, a lonely and bitter old man. Your children will desert you, no woman will comfort you, and your friends will feel no loyalty to you. No one will mourn your passing.

Dragons on the other hand will die surrounded by love and comfort, with a lifetime of love and beautiful memories. She will have her children and grandchildren to comfort her. Her friends will be there to help her and her children. Countless people will mourn her passing.


You just think about that.

[LeaLeander]

Wow, everyone is right, the husband is an utter asshole. Utter, selfish, narcissistic SCUM!

No real man would let his daughters, whom he supposedly cares about, go cold. A real man would set aside his own selfish needs and beg, borrow or dig ditches for the cash to replace the boiler in the home his children are freezing in.

A real man would understand that putting the kids in the middle is giving them emotional scars they will carry for life, and would stop his fucking whiny self-pitying texts to his poor daughters!!!!!!!

But then a real man doesnt' need to manhandle and intimidate and stalk and creep women in the first place. You, husband asshole, are NOT a real man. You are a pitiful waste of human flesh and oxygen and you will always be alone and disliked.

Dragons, I will miss your inspiring updates. perhaps you can find another way to let us know you are alright, from time to time. Know that you are doing the right thing and you deserve a life away from that miserable, controlling, abusive lowlife.

[mix56]

Dragons, so sorry the sad sorry little dick has stooped so low.
Ask the police what to do about him accessing your bank account illegally. Hopefully they will prosecute him.
It really shows you have done exactly the right thing.

[FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse]

Dragons, really sorry the pathetic loser has cut off this thread for you.

What a sad twat he is that he would begrudge you seeking advice.

We can all see that you've been nothing but fair. I'm sure the bank's fraud department will be very interested. They'll be able to track log ins to his computer so there'll be more than enough evidence of his criminal activity. If I were him I would be trying not to antagonise you.

Weak men will always seek to cut you off from everyone rather than actually change.

He could be working on healing the damage he's caused to his dcs. Taking responsibility for his violence. Instead he's bitching about your internet use.

I hope, for the dcs, he finds a way to be a better father.

But it's just more confirmation for you that you made the right decision in leaving.

I hope you and your dcs are ok

[PhoenixReisling]

mrdragons What a twunt you are.

dragons if you are still reading this or any real life friends please, please report this spying to the police, change all passwords and even take all tablets etc to someone with tech knowledge to cleanse any electronics of any spyware software

[TaliZorahVasNormandy]

MrDragons, just to let you know. You deserve a miserable, lonely life and I hope your daughters see you for the useless, selfish, entitled, abusive, piece of shit you really are. You could so easily make some amends with them by actually being a decent person to their mother. But I suspect you wont because you think about only yourself.

Remember, what goes around, comes around and you aint gonna like what is coming for you. OP wont even care enough to say I told you so.

[TheHoneyBadger]

why warn him? just let him keep digging his own grave.

[dunfightin]

Dragons, you are not the first one who's twunt of an ex has found your place of sanctuary.
IME eventually boredom sets in and the irritating twunts go away nursing their false sense of grievance.
Mr Dragon go and look to yourself and your use of violence before you dare complain about anything and in particular the situation your own lack of control put you in