you know I've been living in my MIL"s house for over 2 years .... well I 'm moving out. Just me

[sunnywong]

that's it really

After yet another vicious row, yelling and roaring and swearing and screaming at me and this time hurling my camera to the ground and smashing it in front of the kids with MIL yapping away in the background, and that was from DH because "I wind him up". I have finally realised that I am not going to live here anymore and I 'm getting a rental property around the corner as soon as I can.

I don't want to split up from DH, I still love him and want to be married to him, but he has to choose which woman he wants to live with. Me or his mum.

I have the money to pay for rent now as I am working a couple of evenings a week as a chef and I know DH will help with all expenses.

The only thing is the kids. I haven't quiet thought it through. I told the big one, 5, that I can't have Daddy shouting and yelling at me anymore and that the reason we shout and yell is because it's too crowded in MIL's house so I was going to get a place of my own and the yelling would stop, Of course he cried and I told him it wasn't his fault and that I would still be around all day every day, which I will, just that at night I would go to my own place like all the other mummies (and daddies) had there own places and he could come and stay with me any time. Does that sound like I've effed with his mind or was it right to tell him? I expect he will do half the week with me and half with Dh and MIL if DH decides to stay with his Mum (my's boy). I do aim to be around all the time and be full time carer for ds2 who isn't at school yet.

I feel tremendously relieved that the root of my sadness and depression is coming to an end and I don't really know what will happen between me and DH but I think he has to step up to the line and choose which woman in his life he is going to live with

What do you reckon?

suzy - did not see this thread until now - sorry to hear you had a rough time leading up to Christmas.... glad to hear there is some resolution and an end in site - June date for extension. I think you are a saint for living with MIL for 2years - don't think I could do it and she is an absolute wonderful woman but I need space. hope it all calms down.

Yes- we must Israel, I had a big clean out of my in-box the other day and I know I can find your email address if you tell me your intials IYSWIM, let's catch up in the holidays.

Eids, I feel such an attention seeker now, it's not exactly rough just a bit of a strain - how are you going anyway?

Breadgirl - I know exactly what you mean, soiled laundry is very very very personal isn't it, I mean you just don't want anyone else seeing it. I am pretty certain that MIL would be happy out of the goodness of her heart to was all our laundry in by hand with that big block of blue soap you get all over Asia. I take you your MIL and AIL are also Chinese? If not it's very unusual for the Aunty to get hands on too isn't it?

no - sometimes you need to just let it out for men to see what is right in front of their face iyswim. all is well in the eidsvold household although dh moaning about rain is getting on my nerves - we need it so badly. But he is on holidays this week until New Years so he is miffed we can't take the girls out and so is going stir crazy....

But can't complain all is well here.

Suzy...just sent you an e.mail with my phone number...to an e.mail you sent a year ago....where did this year go??

June is not so bad. Ikwym about shoeboxes, we have a mansion here in the country next door to you...people actually call it that...it has 3 bedrooms,...to me its tiny, to my fellow t-ites its huge...and i could never share this tiny space....

Ive never seen blue soap here....ill look today? For handwashing?

I want a tumble drier, hate hanging my laundry on the balcony...Dh told me to put knickers on the inside of the hanger and pervs use fishing lines to steal them! Tis high up! Urban legend i thought...until i met someone who had had her undies stolen..
Cant wait to be home...

FF that is very funny, until it happens to you

T-ites, country next door to me..... Timor, Taiwan....where are you?

and eids, sorry to be dumb, but why can't you take the girls out? Too humid?

yes, my PIL and AIL are chinese .. AIL has actually been living in Australia for about 15 years or so but she is still very chinese.
oh, have not heard about the big block of blue soap!

You're a love, Suzy - and your boys are edible. I'm glad I missed this till now or I'd have been fretting about how I could sneak you a proper squashy bosomed hug but now you seem happier I will only do the manly punch.

Remember though - I have my eye on you and if you look remotely like you need it, I will clutch you to my ample bosom quick sharp.

was too rainy - we were hoping to take them to the beach and to the park - park is lovely and shady when sunny and a bog after it has rained.
They have not even been able to get out in the garden!!

Thank goodness it is sunny today so we are taking them out later and hopefully be able to take them swimming the next couple of days.

Other than that - had to get out early as it has been sooo hot - the sun has been fierce - so out and in early.

We did take them shopping yesterday and out to lunch - sizzler their favourite.

just found your thread suzy. Couldn't read and not post. Glad you have reached a truce. I cannot begin to imagine how claustrophobic it must feel.
Start carving notches on the concrete exercise yard - only x days before the extension is built. Make sure DH gets his ass into gear and sets the ball rolling, or the concrete mixer turning asap.