Breaking nc with my dm?

[Dirtydishwater33]

Can we talk about how this might happen & what might be the consequences? Over a decade nc on my part & I never regretted it. I sometimes think it would be nice to have a mum but not how it used to be. Now she's made contact & I'm not sure what to do? Do I risk my mental peace? Am I supposed to just list my grievances in a letter? Meeting is too much right now. Anyone else done this & had a successful outcome? I think you call them flying monkey's? I've had one of those swing into my life recently (delicately) So I think there've been discussions back in my old family.

Hissy I agree, signs were there and it was pretty clear IMO.

If you're not sure, why not just ask the OP what happened at the wedding? Just ask the question rather than saying the mum could be justified.

I have been presenting a potential other side, that is all. I didn't want to put op on the spot (by asking directly about the wedding) in case she was a victim of her mother's abuse. It can be very difficult to come up with explanations when we have been historically abused. Plus op was no longer posting and I thought had left the thread.

Some abuse sing out hissy but some are a series of tragic misunderstandings. The vicious attacks on mothers who are deemed to be deficient is second to none, a real problem, not just on here but in society in general . Even domestic abusers don't receive quite the same level of vicious and conclusive judgement .

I work in this field. Things are not always clear cut.

When someone is hurting p, if we attempt to justify the other side, especially if therIS abuse, any approach on justification undermines the person who's hurting. Better to ask questions to draw out the info