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Original poster

Ow... Well kind of.....

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Kimberley00001 · 30/12/2015 19:50

It's nearly new year and I'm feeling really down .. I know it's not an unusual problem but as it says in the title I've been kind of the ow on and off for 3 years although we only slept together this year, and he lied to me about the gf I had an idea but of course he lied through his teeth about her , said she was a family friend ! he's had 4 gfs since I've known him 4/5 years, since he split from his wife. I just can't get over him or forget him... Yes it's a cliche he's 50 and good looking , not short of offers, I'm early 30s we have amazing sex a few times a year and in short I just want him so much. I'm realistic I know it won't go any where but all I want to do is pick up the phone wish him happy new year...the other half of me is so angry and hates him with a vengeance and what's to find the gf and tell her exactly who he is and the fact he's cheated before me, think long term affair while married etc. I've tried online dating meeting people through friends and other ways with nil success. I'm Very pretty but it doesn't matter an iota when it comes to relationships as I've found out. All my friends are coupled up and I recently broke friends with by best friend so I don't feel I have any one to turn to.my only relationship was an emotional abuse one again with someone older so I'm not worldly wise on relationships. Please help

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Jibberjabberjooo · 30/12/2015 20:52

But thinking you can't get pregnant isn't a reason to not use contraception! Hmm

AliceInUnderpants · 30/12/2015 20:56

Is this the guy who could only cum when you 'choked' him? Or a different one from the one you mention above that you finished with your hand?

Is this the guy who pissed the bath then sent you photos?

Original poster
Kimberley00001 · 30/12/2015 20:59

Alice yes it's the same guy.,,

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iMatter · 30/12/2015 21:01

What a catch. Can I have his number?

PixieChops · 30/12/2015 21:04

I mean this in the nicest way possible.
Where is your sense of pride woman?! Get some! Hold your head high, get some new hobbies, meet some new people and get on with your life instead of pining for some deadbeat arsehole who just uses you as a place to stick his dick when he's bored.

hefzi · 30/12/2015 21:04

Please do- his age group is the one which has the highest rise in heterosexual HIV cases, apart from anything else. And please - value yourself more - he sounds like a total hound, and you really deserve more than that: he doesn't want to have a happily ever after, he wants to screw about and feel young (or something) again. You don't deserve to be treated like that, and you definitely don't deserve to be put at risk by this knob's behaviour: make 2016 the year you kick him into touch, and perhaps then you'll find someone worthy of you.

Original poster
Kimberley00001 · 30/12/2015 21:07

Thank you pixie and hefzi... This helps a lot x

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iwashappy · 30/12/2015 21:15

Has Relationships turned into OWnet the last few days?

Atomik · 30/12/2015 21:20

Is there an annual festival of OWhood on at the moment ?

Atomik · 30/12/2015 21:20

X-post

PrincessBooBoo · 30/12/2015 21:29

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Samaritan1 · 30/12/2015 22:14

I expect Christmas is a particularly crap time to be an ow, so no surprise the board has been flooded lately.

TheCrazyDuchess · 30/12/2015 22:19

Is there err a good time to be the OW? Genuine question

Samaritan1 · 30/12/2015 22:25

No, that's why I said "particularly". Grin

Fairenuff · 30/12/2015 22:27

There are always a lot of bored ow on here at Christmas time. They just want to talk about their knobheads as they have little else of interest in their lives Sad

On the plus side, they usually slink away in the new year Smile

TimeToMuskUp · 30/12/2015 22:32

Perhaps your New Years Resolutions could be;

  1. Not choking anyone whilst wanking them off
  2. Getting some counselling
  3. Never typing the word "cum" in a sentence ever again
  4. Not being fuck-buddies with someone who pisses in the bath

Challenging yet do-able I feel.

AnyFucker · 30/12/2015 22:59

OP, what the fuck happened to you ?

Original poster
Kimberley00001 · 30/12/2015 23:02

Af im not e tire my sure what you mean ... Confused

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Original poster
Kimberley00001 · 30/12/2015 23:02
  • not entirely sure
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AnyFucker · 30/12/2015 23:03

That you thought this man was a worth tuppence, ever ?

Original poster
Kimberley00001 · 30/12/2015 23:05

He just kinda grew on me ... Interestingly The first time I met him I instinctively didn't like him.

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AnyFucker · 30/12/2015 23:07

did he give you hallucinogenics or summat ?

AnyFucker · 30/12/2015 23:08

kimberley, you have been posting about this Loser for some time, yes ?

I hope you find your self respect very soon.

Original poster
Kimberley00001 · 30/12/2015 23:10

No, I just wanted to believe he was a good guy, I know now it isn't in him, I just feel it's unfair he has women falling at his feet he has never been single ever. I feel like telling the gf

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DoesntLeftoverTurkeySoupDragOn · 30/12/2015 23:11

He just kinda grew on me

Nail fungus can do that too.