It's nearly new year and I'm feeling really down .. I know it's not an unusual problem but as it says in the title I've been kind of the ow on and off for 3 years although we only slept together this year, and he lied to me about the gf I had an idea but of course he lied through his teeth about her , said she was a family friend ! he's had 4 gfs since I've known him 4/5 years, since he split from his wife. I just can't get over him or forget him... Yes it's a cliche he's 50 and good looking , not short of offers, I'm early 30s we have amazing sex a few times a year and in short I just want him so much. I'm realistic I know it won't go any where but all I want to do is pick up the phone wish him happy new year...the other half of me is so angry and hates him with a vengeance and what's to find the gf and tell her exactly who he is and the fact he's cheated before me, think long term affair while married etc. I've tried online dating meeting people through friends and other ways with nil success. I'm Very pretty but it doesn't matter an iota when it comes to relationships as I've found out. All my friends are coupled up and I recently broke friends with by best friend so I don't feel I have any one to turn to.my only relationship was an emotional abuse one again with someone older so I'm not worldly wise on relationships. Please help
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And he's into pornography massively, see my other threads ...hours of piv and the most bizarre oral technique ever!!!!!!!
OP, why are you telling us this? 
It sounds like you're trying to titivate us to keep us interested.
It doesn't seem relevant to the point of your aibu.
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I thought I was on the wrong website for a minute there, reading that first reply. This is bonkers. Burn his shit, pretend he never exsisted, nod politely if you see him or the gf then walk away. Why are you bothering with such a "ladies man" who could be carrying all sorts of sti's.
He is a Cad.
He's shagging multiple women at once. He won't settle down EVER. He's in his 50's and hasn't changed so far.
I think his GF already knows. I mean, to be shagging so many women, there must be huge gaps in time where she knows he should be home, but he's missing!
When a man is serious about you, he will be in your life completely. He will not want The One to get away. He will put a ring on it. He won't go Awol. He won't shag other women.
He may well have women falling at his feet just now. But where will he be in 10 years, when he's 60?
Where do you want to be in 10 years? His fall back, now he's losing his looks. And you're early 40's with no kids, but you got him in the end? Or with someone your own age, a family, and a loving DH, who thinks you're the best thing that ever happened to him?
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