Need to apologise for something I didn't do- how does this sound?

[Hardlyaxmasangel]

Been seeing a guy for around 5 months, crazy about him and got the impression he was just as keen on me.... He said so!

He has a lot going on in his life at the moment and Last week something happened which he is blaming me for! I had no involvement in it in any way but he thinks it's something to do with me or anemone I know who done it and I was involved..... I wasn't

He has basically cut me off and is blaming me, I'm so hurt and upset he knows me and knows I'm not nasty and how much I liked him, I would have nothing to gain by doing anything to hurt him.

I feel like I should apologise for something I didn't do so wondered how this sounded?

I'm not sure what to do except apologise, I promise you I was in no way involved. You know I'm not a nasty person and would never do anything to hurt you. I'm sorry xx

I don't want to write to much, I want him to read it, and being mad he may not, but is that enough to sound sincere ?

Agree about not feeding the drama saying that he didn't give a fuck about you. Leave it out. It's fine to be angry with him - you should be - but icy cold, calm ending is better than showing him you are wound up.

Far better to simply say "I don't allow people to treat me like that" than "I can't believe you did that, you don't give a fuck" etc.

Keep your cool. Ice cool.

good progress, but you've gone from grovel to aggressive :)

Pull it back just a little bit, no need to swear!

I'm not going to apologise for something I didn't do and I'm not going to take the blame. You know I'm not a spiteful, vindictive person and I wouldn't be involved in something like that. I'm disappointed that you could think otherwise.

Don't feed the drama llama with anything dramatic. Stay brief and don't get into argy-bargy. Go for calm, dignified and better than this situation. Walk away with head up, and be grateful it was just 5 months in.

Nice. Agree with Cabrinha.

Otherwise, remove the "actually", the exclamation marks and the final sentence. Put instead "let's go our separate ways."

I still think "fuck you" works better. Succinct, honest and gets the point across with as little effort as he actually deserves. Women give far too much headspace to dickheads like this. All this thread trying to fine tune how to get your message across. Sometimes "fuck you" is all they understand.

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Agreed.

I think you need to turn the emphasis on him doing the apologies.

Tell him he will need to go a long way to make his wrong accusations acceptable, & gain your respect again.

I find men really don't like it. True colours often come out at that point. Best to get to that sooner rather than later though, when you have invested in them.

Send that last text OP, but add in "and I think it's best if you don't contact me again in future."

This is a test. He's showing you who he is and how he will punish you.

After a few months...

Be very afraid. This is not a good man, this is someone who will crush you. So far he's put you on a pedestal, but in a matter of weeks, he is already trying to chuck you off it so HE can be adored and worshipped.

End it today, and as abruptly as you can and refuse all further contact.

There is a lot at stake here. You and your life are worthy more than a supposed man like this.

Yes, definitely end it now.

No point in asking for him to apologise. He may well do and then you feel you have to take him back and he'll just revert to type, and, yes again, will certainly punish you for making him apologise.

Just say your goodbyes.

Personally I wouldn't send anything. If he is abusive you can bet your money he will get in touch because abusive men hate the thought of a woman getting the better of them. How dare they! He will be nice as pie until the next time when he can show you who is boss again!

End it with it.

Any message you send tells him you're thinking about him. Get in touch with your inner Ronan.

"You say it best when you say nothing at all"

I would just delete his number and move on. He's trying to put you in your place. Fuck that, he's a man child not worthy of your time. You know that you didn't do it which is good enough for you. He's probably waiting for your "I'm sorry" text but let him wait because it isn't going to happen.

Personally, I would ignore him. I wouldn't text him at all. There really is nothing to say to him.

What did you do in the end OP?

I agree best not to contact at all.

However, if you do -

I am disappointed with your false accusations. Please don't contact me again.