Just had a blazing row over fucking toilet roll

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It's the second time he has called me names and this time I give it him back. Ve been with him five years - one dd. 98% of the time he is laid back jack but somtimes he can switch over somthing and completly change. I've never felt scared of him it's just the complete change in his persona that worries me, he is like a different bloke.

Tonight he went upstairs to use the toilet, he didn't take the loo roll up and as I walked past I chucked it up the stairs, he text me a few mins later to pass it him. I thought he was joking and said no. He said he'd had the runs and needed me to pass it him. I said it was by the door. This was all text.

He then bellowed xxxx pass me the toilet roll from upstairs you fucking knob his dad who was sitting near me looked shocked. Dp doesn't not speck to me like this. He then shouted to his dad who got up and went upstairs. His dad told him to be quiet or he will wake dd (which he did) and he shouted that he didn't fucking care.

He then stormed off to bed leaving me sat in the living room with his dad.

His dad went home quickly afterwards at which point inhadntbsaid a word back to dp in retaliation. I then went upstairs and said ' don't ever call me a name again other rise I will start calling you a fat cunt and see how you like it'

I don't know if this is a big deal it not, it feels like it is. The fact that he didn't care about waking out child while in this mood has really made me think he isn't the nice guy he makes out. At the moment we have having some issues that keep getting brushed aside as I feel he makes me feel irrelevant. As though I'm here because he wants dd near him

Am I blowing it out of proportion !

He has just text to say he loves me. No apology.

Jesus Christ! Why are some people still saying she could have passed him the loo roll? Why on earth should she? The op said it was a metre away from him. A fucking metre! He could have leant over and got it himself. And Anon you are just nit picking now and looking to find fault. It was the dh not op herself who said he had the runs. She later said that he might have had a bad stomach due him having eaten three plates of curry to her one. She later commented that he was not in a hurry to get to the loo though. So not contradictory. Bloody hell why are people falling over themselves to defend the op's dh when he sounds like a bullying, manipulative, selfish, lazy, controlling arsehole? What the fuck is going on here today?

ally you put it much better then I did!
Glad you haven't been put off from posting OP.
Maybe he hasn't appologised as he doesn't think he's done anything wrong. It does sound like he doesn't treat you with much respect generally.
You mentioned about the browser being cleared and he's on his phone alot, do you have other concerns? Do you know if you want to stay in the relationship? You also have a business together but he doesn't want you to return to work? How has he tried to justify that?

Thanks ally and how

I don't know about the browser it just seemed weird. I don't think he wants me to be at the office because he thinks I will take over. Before I had dd I was very busy with work and more dynamic than dp. I had lots of self esteem and I think it's been stripped away with me staying at home. I think he likes being the 'bread winner' and me stuck in the house. I don't like it though. I feel like my brain is dying and I'm turning in to some nagging, put on wife.

I can tell he doesn't look st me the same, I'm just part of the furniture. One of the things he said attracted him to me was that I was extremely independent. Now I'm totally dependant.

OP being very selective in her replies.

OP - sounds like there are some underlying issues with him.

Is his/your business going well?

Why do you think he's had such a massive weight gain?

Agree with you about the browser - IMO strange to delete history, if there's nothing to hide, particularly if this is a new thing with him.

OP are you married? If not, is your name on the house deeds, and do you have a legal share in the business?

So, it sounds like the incident (on both sides) was a symptom, not the disease itself.

You sound quite unhappy with things as they are. Sounds as if he may also feel unhappy.

Have the two of you sat down and talked about your marriage? You should do.

allyjay thank God! I thought I was going mad.

The OP might be being selective in her replies because she's taking a real pounding from some of you.