Husband unreasonable??

[Jessicahamdouchi]

Hi I'm very new here just want u ladies opinions :)
My husband is starting to really get me down arguments are starting to be the same he always picks at my personality
Says things to start an argument like
U gonna make u a cup tea!!
Where's dinner?!
Get me my shoes
I normally put up with it but even that's not good enough for him we have 2 kids I'm pregnant again 4 months along
He never helps with them or nappies, bedtime
Shouts at us when he's home
And now he's punished me for not like the things he does
Ie
Ornaments
Not wanting a new iPhone right now
Not liking his jokes aimed at me
Now he is suddenly unhappy that I cry a lot
Can you wonder?
I'll share more later but this is a taster of life
Fed up :)

mean I'm gonna*

If he leaves tonight I'm going to get the locks changed

In that case I think you need to call the non-emergency police number 101, and log with them that you're in the process of trying to leave an abusive man.

They will record your details, and if you need to call them for whatever reason they will already have your information logged & send someone out asap.

I'm also printing some of his and my documents as I know he's goons take all the papers we have
Hidden the children's birth certificates
Hid the money
Glad I took a bit last night as he's taken the whole lot today

Ok I will do that

I know I'm not in a dangerous situation nor are the kids but this should be it today

Some men who have been primarily emotionally abusive can suddenly get physical and it's very difficult to predict who will do so.

Abuse can escalate at key flashpoints - end of a relationship is one of them.

Up until now he may not have needed to get violent because you 'obeyed' him. Unfortunately there's no guarantee that he will not get physical in the future if things don't go his way.

That's why it's important that you arrange your escape in secret & plan for the worst case scenario.

Ok I'll do the 101 think
If i get scared I'm running next door with the kids as she's always in and ur gates connect

Also thank u for ur support xx

I know I say it a lot but it means a lot to me xx

I'll be back a bit later
I'm doing the wa and 101now
I'll let you know what happens

You have some good plans ready and your courage and clarity will get you through today. Like others, I'm not convinced he'll just go but we can hope. Money can be sorted out later but excellent that you already took some!

Wow, respect to you Jessica! Oh, and everyone needs this

Hope WA are helpful and the dv Unit on 101. Make sure you do tell them the truth of what he's like, don't play it down.

I do hope he is going. If he does, ring the HA and tell them he's gone and why. It'll make it easier to get the locks changed.

Fingers crossed.

Well done Jessica!

Men like this genuinely think women have to be trained, like a dog, to be obedient. Like here back in the 17th century when women had no rights at all and it was the law to hit a wife with a stick 'no wider than a man's thumb' to get her to, well, heel. He genuinely thinks that if he throws his weight around you'll learn to obey.

He's wrong of course! Stay safe lovely xx

Oh look at you! You go, Jessica!

Well
It's done
Stuff packed and gone
Even had a good sleep
Seems like a new start now and locks are being changed tomorrow
Thank u so much for your help xxxx

You should be proud of yourself! Well done X

Great! Keep going, you'll be fine.

Enjoy your peaceful space. Be sure you change all benefits and credits you can into your name. Contact a solicitor regarding maintenance right away.

Great news Jessica! Well done, rah rah rah [santa]

Well done Jessica x