Husband unreasonable??

[Jessicahamdouchi]

Hi I'm very new here just want u ladies opinions :)
My husband is starting to really get me down arguments are starting to be the same he always picks at my personality
Says things to start an argument like
U gonna make u a cup tea!!
Where's dinner?!
Get me my shoes
I normally put up with it but even that's not good enough for him we have 2 kids I'm pregnant again 4 months along
He never helps with them or nappies, bedtime
Shouts at us when he's home
And now he's punished me for not like the things he does
Ie
Ornaments
Not wanting a new iPhone right now
Not liking his jokes aimed at me
Now he is suddenly unhappy that I cry a lot
Can you wonder?
I'll share more later but this is a taster of life
Fed up :)

Your welcome!

He's not gone yet he said a few days

I've a feeling your in for a rough few days.....try and keep your chin up chicken x

Ur right I don't think he will be fair he said he's just going to disappear

At any point you are frightened pick those kids up and go, I would also give women's aid a ring while he's out of the house

Thank u Hun xxx
I now feel really good considering xxxx
Ima change the locks too when he's gone

Are they good?

Jessica, I'm not convinced he is intending to leave. You may find this is a ploy for you to beg him to stay, cry at his feet and do exactly as he tells you. It's acmethod of getting you back under his control.m

What did you have the massive argument about? What exactly did he say he was gonna do?

They will talk you through what you need to do plus all help is a good thing. The number is upthread

Nah not now I feel numb to him x
He said that becoz I cry when he's aiming the judgemental finger at me he says that makes him not love me and that I am wrecking this marriage by crying
This was yesterday's spat and he said I'll talk to you tomorrow (tonight)
So gave me silent treatment today
Had a go at me for going out
Even madder that I signed up for a dentist and went for emergency check up as my wisdom tooth is coursing pain
And he said I stepped over the red line with him becoz I disobeyed him by going out when he didn't know ( he did I make sure I tell him days in advance and I only go out on a Wednesday)
But in an argument he just says how much of a bad wife I am and how he's left a wife before and that he will do it again and find a Better wife that doesn't smart mouth back!

I'm also not convinced he means to go. Suspect this is the start of "things". Is it over for you?

It's over for me now I'm 99% sure

In the nicest possible way, where is he from?

Morroco

He been here a long time

I think it's his way of making you do what he says.

Does he ever throw things? Punch walls etc?

Do you know how to delete your history on your phone?

Does he go to work?

I thought so, your inn for a bit of a time of it, Sta safe....if in doubt het out!

Yes he dented the freezer the other week becoz I couldn't find a piece to his car cleaner

He does work

Make sure you log out and keep your phone on you! Keep your passports safe it may be an overreaction but better safe than sorry, I lived in Spain for years and knew a couple of women in the same situation

Thank u cowgirl
But the thing that makes me sad is he was so sweet before even 2 year ago he was lovely
We met in 2010

In truth I think you should be contacting Women's Aid (it can take a while to get through) and planning an escape. You are in captivity.

They always are, this isn't your fault

Yea I'm hiding my girls passport my son doesn't have one thank god

I always delete my history out of habit

Ok tipsy xxx

Ok, have you ever read 'why does he do that? By Lundy Bancroft. You can't really get a delivered copy but there is apparently a free version on line. Another MNetter may know where.

I'm concerned his tactics will change. He is violent, he punched the freezer - that's to scare you.

Is he at work tomorrow? Women's aid, you need RL help. Often there are local places. Have you spoken to your midwife?