Sorry to intrude as a dad but I don't know where else to post for a broad cross section of opinions.
13 months ago I discovered my wife was seeing another man and basically I had a breakdown as a result. At her request I left home and moved in with my parents, returning at weekends. I have a very demanding job which is well paid and basically she is free to do as she wishes because I love her.
She took me back and I said that I would try and change. Try and be less stressed, lose weight etc. In addition to this work were not sympathetic to my illness and basically said if I didn't come back they would tell all the staff what had happened. I was signed off for a month, I actually took just 6 days off. Work also took this opportunity to parachute in the incompetent owners son at my level with my brief being to teach him my job. I would add that in my time at the helm I have doubled the turnover and the profit and made a seven figure sum in cash for the owners so they could never sack me on competence.
I did try and change but seemingly it hasn't been good enough. At her request I have slept on the sofa since May because I snore which I have done willingly. We have been on 4 holidays this year. I have bought her a car. I have tried to be a good husband and father.
However, I discovered that she is still in contact with the other man and I opened her phone bill (by accident but thank god I did) and there were 470 texts sent to the other man in a one month period.
Clearly I feel like mug of the year. I love my children so much (and in spite of all this my wife) but she is taking me for a ride. I vowed however bad it got at home to stay and do the right thing by my kids but I know I'm going to crash and burn again. I feel so totally let down.
What on earth am I to do?