would someone being 'separated' put you off?

[ToddlerTantrums]

Just read on another thread someone saying that if a new potential partner was 'separated' and not divorced it would put them off. I'm separated and it had never occurred to me that it would be an issue for a new partner? I'm not looking for a relationship right now so not an immediate issue just wondering?

[Offred]

Well yeah separation has ended our romantic relationship. We are still parents to our children no matter what. Divorce would end our legal financial responsibilities to each other somewhat though not completely.

[WhoTheFuckIsSimon]

Ages ago I dated a guy who was separated. He definitely wasn't living with his wife as I knew the bloke he was house sharing with.

A colleague of mine knew his wife and told her and she went crazy. Found out my phone number and rang and gave me hell. Turns out he was telling her that it was a temp seperation while they "worked on their relationship". I only met him after he'd moved out so no way was I responsible for that but in her eyes I was the other woman.

So yes, it would put me off now.

[category12]

Alaughaminute, if a separated person dies and there's no will, then the person's stuff goes to their spouse.

That's why one of my first actions when we split was to write a will so he doesn't get shit, and the kids get it all. Also took out life insurance for while the kids are minors which I never could do while we were together.

[Offred]

The whole estate going to my xh/me is one of the reasons I am not divorced. We have joint children, it's a sensible thing to do IMO we are still on each other's bank accounts for the same reason.


As for temp separation guy, well people lie all the time. You met a liar. Separated people are not all liars. Countless people have found out they were dating someone married and been lied to all along too - are all married people liars too?