Best friend's husband hit on me...

[diamondsonthesoles]

...he is also really good friends with my husband.

I don't know what to do! He has misinterpreted my behaviour as flirtatious (I have been friendly!). My husband has no notion of anything. I hope my friend hasn't either. I have told him that nothing will ever happen but nor sure I'm being taken seriously...

Should I tell or just hope it blows over?

[tribpot]

If you seemed like a flirt, why would the only person hitting on you be a close friend who knows perfectly well that you are married? This is entirely on him, not you. If you can easily not be around him again I don't see what the impediment is to telling your DH and your friend.

Given your history and the way a very serious sexual assault was brushed under the carpet (and, I assume, you were made to feel to blame for it in some way) it's understandable that you have had your confidence knocked but this was not your fault. He's a sleaze bag. You are far too willing to believe he is embarrassed, all he's said is that it was 'foolish'. That could mean anything. Perhaps he would expand on that to say he was foolish to respond to your (non-existent) overtures. He isn't sorry, and I bet he has form for this - why else hit on a friend who would have to face a complex social dilemma if she admitted what had happened?

[diamondsonthesoles]

I worried about my behaviour when drinking since...have gone through periods not drinking, excessive drinking (when early 20's) and felt that had come out the other side and was back on an even keel. This man doesn't know my history. We are back at work tomorrow. Hope all ok really. Think I've left it too long now!

[NameChange30]

So what if you are "a bit of a flirt"? A bit of harmless flirting is no big deal. It's certainly not an invitation for someone to sexually assault you.

FWIW, I don't think you have left it too long. I think you can still tell your DH if and when you want to.