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Drug addiction

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NotTheSpiceOfLife · 26/10/2015 17:59

I am astounded to discover that there's no drug support thread! So I thought I would start one.

I've been smoking weed for 25 years. Over the last 6 months, I've smoked legal highs instead because it's cheaper and you can buy it on the high street.

It has wrecked my life. I want to tell people about my experiences whilst I'm going through withdrawal, and see if there's any help/advice available.

Of course anyone can post about any kind of drug addiction that they want to talk about. I'd like to use this thread as a distraction to help me help others.

I'm going for a long soak in the bath now, as I'm trying to use distraction techniques to get through each day - but I'll be back with you later.

I'm an addict. I'd like to say recovering. I just need to keep recovering x

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NotTheSpiceOfLife · 28/10/2015 15:23

Bloody horrible morning! Had huge rows with DP, flipped out in the street Blush

Ok again now though. Thank god we have each other.

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Friendlystories · 28/10/2015 15:44

Tempers are bound to be a bit frayed, in some ways it's good you're going through this together as you can support each other but with both of you having withdrawals flash points are probably inevitable. Glad it's ok again now, hope the rest of the day is better Flowers

torthecatlady · 30/10/2015 01:23

OP how are things? :) Thanks

kylesmybaby · 30/10/2015 02:34

I have a friend in prison taking the same legal high. Its literally sending people over the edge in there. Can someone please tell me how to name change so i can feel comfortable posting.Thank you.

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NotTheSpiceOfLife · 30/10/2015 12:20

Hello Smile

I went to NA last night and it was fab! Inspirational and amazing people. I'm going to go to as many meetings as I can, I need it.

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NotTheSpiceOfLife · 30/10/2015 12:22

kylesmybaby I don't know how to namechange in the app - I had to do it on my laptop.

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NotTheSpiceOfLife · 30/10/2015 12:22

Please try and do it though, you sound like you could do with taking x

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NotTheSpiceOfLife · 30/10/2015 12:22

*talking

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NotTheSpiceOfLife · 30/10/2015 13:46

Out of interest, what should I do about work? Just leave them thinking I have depression? I really don't want to have to tell them the truth.

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Chopsychops · 31/10/2015 00:28

How's it going this evening?

torthecatlady · 31/10/2015 01:08

If you think it's relevant that work know, then tell them, but if you're not ready to don't feel like you have to. You are probably experiencing depression/anxiety, so it's not really lying :)
I really wish there was a NA by me... I would go!
I'm so glad you're doing well, I often think about how you're doing :)
X

BastardGoDarkly · 31/10/2015 03:32

Glad you had a good experience at NA! Did dp go?

How are you feeling now? Any better?

I wouldn't tell work the truth, hopefully you'll be back soon :)

eachtigertires · 31/10/2015 12:26

I've just found this thread and wanted to say how brave you are OP (and everyone else who is going or has gone through this). My DP is addicted to weed and although I know he probably won't post on this thread, he may well read it. This thread is very helpful to me because although I can see for myself what withdrawal does to him, it's hard for me to really know what he is going through as I am not addicted to anything and never have been. He tries to give up periodically but really really struggles with it.

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NotTheSpiceOfLife · 31/10/2015 14:02

Hey! Another good day so far. Went to my second NA meeting this morning and it was ace.

8 DAYS MOTHERFUCKERS BrewBrewBrewWink

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NotTheSpiceOfLife · 31/10/2015 14:03

eachtigertires it must be so hard for you. We can help him, but he has to want it or it won't work. If he's tried to quit, a part of him must want it.

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Friendlystories · 31/10/2015 14:10

Lovely to hear you sounding so upbeat Not, bloody well done! How's DP doing?

eachtigertires · 31/10/2015 14:57

That's awesome spice! Yes, I absolutely know that it has to come from him. And like you said, I think part of him does want to quit. But the part of him that doesn't want to is currently overriding and only he can change that. He needs time and I can understand that. I will be 100% supportive of him. He has had the addiction for 10 years (long before I knew him) and so it's something that I have always known just comes with the territory with him. However, in all other ways he's awesome. He isn't lazy around the house and works hard (sober) at work. Its more in the evenings and weekends he struggles, especially if he's bored. He wants kids in the future but doesn't want that to happen until he is weed and cigarette free. We both know that we aren't ready for kids yet though and have plenty of time on our side.

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NotTheSpiceOfLife · 31/10/2015 18:22

We are both doing brilliantly thanks Fern - there's been quite a few shitty moments this week but we are both getting there Thanks

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SajStars · 31/10/2015 20:34

m.youtube.com/watch?v=Qg7KOjilDEs

Love Life.

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NotTheSpiceOfLife · 31/10/2015 21:21

You know what Saj - I'm bloody starting to. About time eh?

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Chopsychops · 31/10/2015 22:12

Good news not
8 days is bloody fantastic!
One thing to bear in mind... If you feel any cravings and succumb you will feel 100 times worse as your tolerance is gone.
Your system is cleaner than it's ever been and any toxic crap is going to reeeealllly hit hard.
Just something I found useful to keep myself motivated during my many many withdrawals. Flowers

Friendlystories · 01/11/2015 01:04

Great to hear Not and I second what Chopsy's said, the hearing voices incident I mentioned was when I hadn't smoked for a few days and my tolerance was gone. It was properly scary and far beyond any 'whitey' I had ever experienced. You should both be so proud of yourselves and I couldn't be happier for you, keep going you're doing great Smile

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NotTheSpiceOfLife · 01/11/2015 09:22

Not a great start to the day...

DP is getting a lot of trouble and stress from his exw. He's only allowed supervised visits with his ds until we've proved ourselves. All fair enough.

But she won't leave us alone.. Calling, texting... Last night she started texting him at midnight and he ended up mega stressed and I had to be up til 2 calming him down.

Then she starts again this morning. So I wake up to him racing round the house in a fit of panic and almost hysterical.

Can anyone think of a way to help? X

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51howdidthathappen · 01/11/2015 13:51

Is he ok now?
Is there anyone you can speak to ref ex and access? To have a word. SW maybe?
She needs to be told to back off. A plan forward is in place. She needs to respect it too.

Friendlystories · 01/11/2015 14:01

When she says 'until you've proved yourselves' is that because she knows about the current situation and did she not know anything about the addiction until now? If it's all come as a shock to her and she's worried about her DC I guess to a degree it's understandable she's freaking out a bit and needs reassurance but she also needs to understand that putting DP under additional stress may well be counter productive. I agree with 51 it might be a good idea to get someone neutral to speak to her if possible. If you're going to NA again would it be worth discussing it there? Someone may well have been through similar and have some good advice.