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OD guy lied about his age...

92 replies

HotNatured · 26/10/2015 17:26

So, I've been on two v good tinder dates with a guy, 40, divorced, 3 kids, all seems fine so far.

Last week he took me to a restaurant, he had made the reservation, upon checking in I noticed that he said his name quietly and rather covertly; he is not a quiet guy, he is v confident and forthright, which is why his behaviour seemed a little off key.

I didn't think much of it but today thought I would have a little nose on google... and I discovered that he is in fact 46, 47 in the spring of next year. I'm 41 and actually didn't like the fact that he was younger than me, ironically 6 years is a perfect age gap for me. But that's kind of irrelevant. I'm not sure how I feel about this blatant lie ! I kind of think had he been up front on the first date I would have laughed it off (wouldn't have been the first time actually!) but the fact that he hasn't thought to be fully honest now, after we are dating ? Seems a little sketchy to me.. Obviously I'm not serious about him yet as it's so early, but I would rather bow out now if this is a glaring red flag...

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RedMapleLeaf · 26/10/2015 17:33

Er, hang on, why do you think he whispered his name in front of you??

HotNatured · 26/10/2015 17:35

So that I didn't google him and discover his real age ??

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JeffsanArsehole · 26/10/2015 17:36

Yeah, why whisper the name?

And why have such an easily find outable age online Confused

I'd be more worried he was a bit dim ....

JeffsanArsehole · 26/10/2015 17:36

Eh?

But you knew his name (presumably) by the second date???

HotNatured · 26/10/2015 17:37

Sorry, I meant his surname !

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Muckogy · 26/10/2015 17:38

what else is he lying about?
that won't be the only thing.

RedMapleLeaf · 26/10/2015 17:38

You didn't know his surname?

HotNatured · 26/10/2015 17:39

JeffsanArsehole

I know, odd hey. He isn't dim, he's an intelligent, successful, articulate guy

great name btw

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HotNatured · 26/10/2015 17:39

No, why would I know his surname on date 2? It was a tinder date...

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penguinplease · 26/10/2015 17:40

Did you check his marital status as well as his age?

HotNatured · 26/10/2015 17:40

Muckogy

My thoughts as well.

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RedMapleLeaf · 26/10/2015 17:40

Blimey.

HotNatured · 26/10/2015 17:42

penguinplease

Yes, looks like he's definitely divorced. That's something he was honest about at least ! Hmm

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ImperialBlether · 26/10/2015 17:43

Why would you go out with someone and hope to hide your name from them? I don't understand that. I can see why you might not tell someone your name before you've met them, but by the second date? That's really odd in my opinion.

penguinplease · 26/10/2015 17:43

Oh well that's good, odd though, are you seeing him again ?

HotNatured · 26/10/2015 17:46

ImperialBlether

No idea ! Maybe he was after a shag, well that didn't / hasn't happened.

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AnyFucker · 26/10/2015 17:48

Doesn't everyone lie on OLD ?

I thought it was pretty much par for the course

HotNatured · 26/10/2015 17:49

AnyFucker

I don't

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Out2pasture · 26/10/2015 17:51

could a colleague have called in and made the reservations? or the same colleague pulled some strings at a restaurant that is hard to get into?
personally i'd just confront the issue; btw....

ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight · 26/10/2015 17:57

No, everyone doesn't lie on OLD
Where does this idea come from? Maybe because people only tend to talk about the shitty experiences. Lots of people are normal, even on tinder.

AnyFucker · 26/10/2015 17:59

Am not making any excuses for him ( because he sounds a bit rubbish) but I don't think it should come as a surprise to anyone that the people you come across on OLD may not always be what they seem Halloween Wink

AnyFucker · 26/10/2015 18:03

Op, have you asked him why he told a blatant lie about his age ?

HotNatured · 26/10/2015 18:04

Out2pasture

No, his photo is over google due to his job. There is no doubt the surname is his

I will have to confront if I see him again

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ImperialBlether · 26/10/2015 18:07

Out2Pasture, you're a straw-clutcher, aren't you? Grin

magicstar1 · 26/10/2015 18:10

My ex told me he was 5 years younger than he was when we met. He thought I was younger too...after a few weeks came clean and felt really bad about it. Wasn't a big deal in my opinion..lit seems to be pretty normal these days.