OD guy lied about his age...

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So, I've been on two v good tinder dates with a guy, 40, divorced, 3 kids, all seems fine so far.

Last week he took me to a restaurant, he had made the reservation, upon checking in I noticed that he said his name quietly and rather covertly; he is not a quiet guy, he is v confident and forthright, which is why his behaviour seemed a little off key.

I didn't think much of it but today thought I would have a little nose on google... and I discovered that he is in fact 46, 47 in the spring of next year. I'm 41 and actually didn't like the fact that he was younger than me, ironically 6 years is a perfect age gap for me. But that's kind of irrelevant. I'm not sure how I feel about this blatant lie ! I kind of think had he been up front on the first date I would have laughed it off (wouldn't have been the first time actually!) but the fact that he hasn't thought to be fully honest now, after we are dating ? Seems a little sketchy to me.. Obviously I'm not serious about him yet as it's so early, but I would rather bow out now if this is a glaring red flag...

This might sound a bit odd me being male,but I can't figure out why men my age (mid forties) think they need to date women 10+years younger than them?? I certainly don't feel the need .When I was online dating I set myself a range of 6 years either side of my age . Ironically all my dates were with older women! May try again soon but am not very hopeful of meeting anyone due to my current situation.

Plenty of Women (and men) date people older then them, its not unusual and really not worth remarking on. The issue as I see it above isn't the age but the lie.

Not sure I would carry on if my date lied blatantly about their age ,might let a couple of years go,but more not so sure. Also sounded a bit dodgy about whispering his name though!

roverman75

I don't get it either. I really don't want to come across as some old boiler who 'thinks' she looks 'good for her age', but I honestly do, I have a good figure, I'm a good looking woman...so I don't see what a younger person has to offer that I don't ! In fact I think in some ways i have MORE to offer !! I have a good, well paid job, I'm independent, intelligent, a good conversationalist.

Also when I'm on a date with someone my age (or a bit older) we have cultural references. What do a 25 yr old and 45 yr old really have in common? Obviously some guys just prefer younger women.. they don't care about stuff like 'cultural references', fair enough I guess, I have my own deal breakers, for example I couldn't go out with someone who had no interest in the world, someone who wanted to watch TOWIE and Eastenders and then discuss it at length would not be someone I wanted to date. Horses for courses and all that...

I don't think knocking a few years of your age is much different from adding a couple of inches to your height, which IME almost all men do on their dating profile (like I can't see if someone who is 5'7" is actually shorter than 5'5" me!)

Hotnatured. Think your right I know I would have trouble relating to someone much younger .I also think life experience is fairly important . I must be a bit nieve by being totally honest if I'm OLD could be why I don't get anywhere lol!

Okay I clearly don't know what tinder is despite everyone in uni talking about it.

I thought it was linked to Facebook and used your full name etc? Am I completely wrong then?

All you young whippersnappers in your 40s! Think of poor old me - who is likely to even consider a 60-year-old woman? Men of my age all want to go out with women of 45-55 (or younger - despite what they say). I wouldn't even put myself through the indignity of OLD and as I never meet anyone in RL am now officially on the shelf for ever.

I suppose there are compensations.

I knocked a few years off my age OLD, I was 35 for around 3 years! I'm still on POF but never use it, I'm 41 and have had it with OLD.

I'm unsure what I would advise, I would have to confront him.

I have to say, I must be weird because my issue isn't with the age thing.
My issue would be him widow ring his name do that I can't hear it.
Now THAT is somethings g I can't understand. Surely this is the perfect way to then give each other your family naans? Why would you want to hide that, apart of you have something to hide?

haha.....i thought jeffsanarsehole was his surname lol

haha

that would be an amazing surname

age is irrelevant ....i met my hubby he was 22.....i told him i was 30....although he did tell me his name was smith and it wasnt....24 years ago ....he did own up straight away....he didnt know why he said it but he thought i wouldnt want to see him again!

Family naans?! Is this some sort of dating ritual I've been missing?

family naans
The good old flat bread recipes handed down from generation to generation, they shouldn't really be shared till wedding night, but young kids today are a bit free and loose with their naans.

I thought that everyone, except me, lied about their age. My dd, aged six, went around asking everyone their age, and everyone was apparently 21. Then I was teaching a language class to adult men and again they all lied about their ages. Surely it is not something to make a big thing about, though maybe something to bear in mind

Mmm, naans.