Sex - absolutely mortified!

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I am dying of shame. This is now the 2nd time this has happened to me. We were dtd, with enthusiasm & I got REALLY wet. A LOT. I mean bucket loads. I stopped midway to get a paper towel to mop up & noticed a tinge of colour - yellow I put it to the back of my mind & carried on but there was more! I'm absolutely dying, it was running out of me, despite my best efforts. He couldn't help but notice & asked me if I peed myself!!! Omg the shame. I didn't feel like I was peeing. I have a reasonably good pelvic floor. I can keep Ben Wa balls in all day without effort. What am I going to do? This can never happen again. We've been together for 6 months & I don't understand why this has started happening? I am mortified.

A lot of men ( porn watchers ) are really turned on by it, probably because not many women can do it. I have met a few men that think it's a good turn on, I have learnt to control it during oral, I am in a very new relationship with a man who is not very experienced and probably doesn't watch porn so I am scared to death of it happening in case he thinks I have pissed myself .

What is your peeing like normally? Was it a particular rough session maybe? If he was really banging it might have temporarily bashed a tube and you peed. If it's more than once then yes I would probably have a chat with the GP even for reassurence before you get a hang up.

Err well, as i see it be thankful that your having such a good time that a bit of "squirting" is happening, just enjoy the fun and don't worry about the mess at all:-) Can't see why you should bother the doc at all!.

Also those porn vid's seems most all of the time their actually just peeing!

Thatisnacho, thanks for the article but it states female ejaculate is half a coffee cupful & they are really small. I'm talking half a mugful. Also, it says ejaculate doesn't stain the sheets yellow?

I squirt. Sometimes a huge amount, sometimes not very much. If the mess is a worry then think about investing in some inco pads as it will save on washing.

The components of ejeculate liquid can vary depending on things like when you last peed.

My peeing is normal. I do feel it when I pee normally. TMI coming up, look away if need be:

When he put his fingers in I could feel it pouring out! I really made a BIG mess. & as I said before, when we f*ck we really go for it.

I'm not going to namechange and will just go for it.

Yes, that's a perfectly reasonable quantity of ejaculate. I would be surprised if you'd ejaculated without realising you'd orgasmed - but equally surprised if you'd peed without realising, either! The yellow tinge for me would be uncommon but... once, I had a cold, and had been taking Berocca daily. Berocca can send your urine bizarrely neon-orange, but it turns out (to mine and my partner's great surprise) it can do the same to female ejaculate.

I'm not sure I ever got the orange stains quite out of those sheets

Hay... I squirt and I gush and I get soaked most times I have sex and sometimes when I wank. At first I felt very much like you and even had a partner who believed it was wee. Now I'm still annoyed at the logistics of the extra wet wet patch, but I have encountered enough partners who enjoy it and even drink it to have accepted it as part of me. Look it up, on fetlife you will find thousands of women trying to achieve what we can do naturally, porn stars are payed lots of money if they can do it too. I also recently learnt that there is, in the majority of women, an expulsion of liquid after sex that is mistaken for the need to toilet but is actually the same kind of thing. I recommend towels by the bed, some education and if your feeling organised, a made bed hidden under a waterproof sheet and another made bed.
Oh and I also get to have a lot of post sex showers which involve post sex sex :)
AND CONGRATULTIONS on finding a partner who makes you orgasm to this level :)

If he was using his fingers and you felt as though you were about to orgasm but actually hadn't he had probably found your G-spot. Maybe?

Or was pushing hard on your bladder...

Yes it is known as squirting.
Around 10% of females do it.

The fact that you said ' he put his fingers in' confirms it.

It usually occurs when the muscles deep within the vagina are stimulated, this would mean by hand and putting fingers deep into the vagina and pressing on the thousands of nerve ending within.

You need to explain this to your partner.
Does he expect you to be repulsed when he ejaculates?

Remember porn is not real either. It is just a film . The same as Snowwhite isn't real , just a made up character.

Its normal for me. Maybe one in every ten shags we have to put a towel down.

I've done it all my life though. Can imagine it just starting is quite a surprise.

If you don't squirt half a cupful then the op doesn't want to know chilli

I find my Ben Wa balls play havoc when I'm on the trampoline or running for the bus!

They also resonate when I'm buffing floors or mowing the lawn.

GP tells me I'm running the risk of getting RSI to my vag and no amount of Bach flower remedies is going to put it right.

I have to confess this happened to me with a new partner recently never had it happened before. It looked like I Pissed the bed he thought it was brilliant I was mortified. I'm still not convinced because there was so much and he was soaking

Ben Wa Balls? (I had to google)
It's to do with using them then yes?

Thanks chilli but I am not a fecking troll. & I wouldn't post here unless I had to. For the record, I had NOT orgasmed at the point this happened & I did not 'cum hard' as one person privately messaged me. If this is a normal thing, it won't hurt the gp reassuring me tomorrow. I really don't want it to continue though. It totally spoils sex for me.

Aah just spotted Chillis post.

This article contains quite a good summary of some more current research into this
www.independent.co.uk/life-style/health-and-families/features/the-science-behind-female-ejaculation-9987298.html

He probably pushed your bladder. Doesn't sound like female ejaculation to me. Try going on top for less pressure on that area.