Is she taking the ...?

[Ana2015xx]

Sorry i couldn't find anywhere else to put this.
Basically me and best friend planned trip to london for our birthdays in December.
Now the hotel is £270 and train is £160 that's for both.
I've managed to save £500 and plan on saving £500 more.
Now my friend already said not sure she will have the same as me but has turned round and said she will have £30 spending money and can't afford to pay her half of hotel or train.

What the hell.
Yet on Facebook she's uploading pics of clothes and things she's buying.
How can she think £30 in london for spends and not paying her half of money for hotel or train is okay.

I know...I'm stupid.
I somehow got into a habit of paying things.
6 years ago I paid for a holiday to Greece and gave her spending money ( I got left cash from a relative who passed away)

Just lie down and let her wipe her feet on you as well

She is a freeloader and you're enabling her and when you stop she'll drop you like a hot stone.

Stop being a mug and start saying no.

It gets easier the more you do it.

My boyfriend goes mad with me.
I dare not tell him about this or he would go ballistic.

She sees you as a cash cow! Next she'll want you to pay her rent and bills. Say no. Don't meet her for tea unless she pays for her own!

You are not a mug!

She just says when she has money she will treat me...
Not sure if she would.

Your bf is right just tell her you cant afford it.And watch her drop you.

She is only saying that to keep you sweet,she will never treat you

oh mi god - drop drop drop and run!! run for the hills

add up all you have spent on her, and then see how you feel about subbing her trip! what a cow!!

Really?

Not much of a a friend is she?

It's been a 15 year friendship.
We talk everyday.
She is like a sister I just wish she would play fair.

Over the years we are talking thousands.

a sister wont take all your money.... x

Take your bf to London and forget all about her!

I really don't care if she has had 30,000 medical upsets, she is using you. Stop letting her do it!

Unless you enjoy the experience of being treated like a cash cow, that is!

Step away from the sponger!

The money I'm spending I could take my little girl to Disneyland Paris I think if I get a cheap deal.

Well if you are loaded, fair enough but it sounds like you aren't so tell her that you can't afford to pay for you both. And stop paying for her when you go out! I pay for a friend when we go out for coffee and she pays next time. We don't sponge off each other . She's using you

Without meaning to offend - are you buying her friendship?

£30...in London...coffee and a danish

No not at all just a average joe.
I just try and save when I can.
If I know I have something planned I try and put £200 a month away out of my wages.
She earns the same as me.

It started when she was unemployed and got herself in debt.
So now her wages go on her debt and she says she's left with nothing.

dont bring the trip up again to her and go with your bloke instead. Next time she brings it up tell her you thought she couldn't afford it and you've made other plans.

She will not take kindly for the bank doors shutting so be prepared for that and whether your relationship survives depends on her.

Just stop... You deserve more but don't roll over and take it anymore because now you've verbalised everything you'll start to resent her the more you do it.

Then stand up to her now and tell her if she can't afford to go, fair enough but you will do something different for your birthday and would she like to go out for Chinese locally as that's may be more affordable. And take dd to Disneyland if that's what you want to do

A sister can take your money. Unfortunately, that's what mine did until I stopped being her bank. Now she doesn't talk to me.

Sure it hurt at the time, but honestly I'm better off now emotionally and financially. The only solution to this problem is to cut off the flow of money. If she really values your friendship it won't matter. But don't be surprised if she disappears into the woodwork.

Is anything booked yet?

If not tell her that you can't afford her share so it's off.

Go alone or find someone who will pay their way.

I ghosted a best friend of years after a pattern of such behaviour. Final straw was when she guilt tripped me about why I wouldn't join her and her other friends on a skiing trip having just manipulated me into going into my overdraft to get drinks at the pub because she couldn't afford to. I was a student with a part time job, and she worked in banking in the City. Just no.